Quote: (06-02-2016 12:08 AM)Grindhard Wrote:
What would you consider a wrong doing? (Outside of lying / cheating). Things that matter to me do not matter to her in that she can't see why I make things a big deal. It's only when I flip the script and ask how she'd feel if I would do/say that, and even then I slightly don't get through. Says she hates being "lectured".
Am I wasting time explaining why I care about the "little" things? Such as remembering to txt goodnight/good morning on a consistent basis. I've realized that some chicks are just dead in the water. You can't have high expectations (even as common as reciprocation and empathy). Not sure if I'm on the right track there.
If you're lecturing girls on a consistent basis, and feeling like you have to "lay down the law", you're losing the "frame battle." It's a waste of time; they are not going to fucking listen. It's fine to do it in a teasing manner; from time to time I tell one of the girls I'm with "Hey! You're really being a brat!" but if you're acting serious about it, it comes off as needy and like you care way too much. No doubt she doesn't like being "lectured" - it's sign of a needy guy who isn't really "alpha."
Aside from lying/cheating? Yeah, the girls I've been with apologize for all sorts of stuff. "Hey, I know I said you could come by at 6:30, and that this is short notice, but I just found out I need to stay at work until 8. Sorry about that, it was news to me as well. I hope it's okay and you can come by then."
"Hey, I grabbed your head while you were eating me out, and I know you told me that you didn't like that. I was just really into it - my bad! I'll try to not do that again."
It's a sign of being what we call a "normal human being." If a girl is not capable of doing things like this, then she is not relationship material of any type, not even a FWB...period.
Yes, I think you are wasting time on worrying about those "little things." The main girl in my rotation doesn't text me until 2 in the afternoon sometimes. I'd be silly to worry about it as I understand that she has her own job and life...and if I were complaining to her that she wasn't texting me every morning at 8 AM to say "Good morning sweetie!" she'd find it super fucking needy and next me ASAP. She's a FWB, she's not my wife.
Instead I just reply gladly and nonchalantly whenever she decides to get around to it. In return she is always up for me to hit it and almost never gives me any drama...because she knows that I will fucking walk.
I think you need to look at yourself and consider for what reason these things that you admit are minor are so important. Sounds like ego is rearing its ugly head once again. Ego is a game-killer...but I guess it depends on what you're in the game for. For me, I'm not in it to prop up my self-esteem. I simply do it because enjoying the company of attractive women from time to time, shooting my load on their faces, and then giving them the post-sex cuddle is one of the finest pleasures this short life has to offer. I'm all about the nut.