[tommybr]

How to do it properly after 10 years of relationship?
Everything was fine until friends from her Uni messed up her mind.
She decided that I need to change my behavior and care more about her studies. She almost left me 2 years ago and I did a mistake and convinced her that we should stay and think before we act, eventually she stayed. How to end this? what should I do with all the stuff like photos?

Don't ever let your woman having a male friend, not even one. That where all the problems come from.

[Captainstabbin]

(07-24-2015 03:56 PM)tommybr Wrote:  

How to do it properly after 10 years of relationship?

Don't tell her anything, just quit contacting her. That will seriously fuck with her ego.

(07-24-2015 03:56 PM)tommybr Wrote:  

what should I do with all the stuff like photos?

Keep the nudes, get rid of everything else.

(07-24-2015 03:56 PM)tommybr Wrote:  

Don't ever let your woman having a male friend, not even one. That where all the problems come from.

Her male friends didn't cause a problem. That's chick thinking to blame anyone else but her. Be a man, place the blame where it belongs and move on.

[LINUX]

The best way to get over one girl is to get under another.

[newgame]

(07-24-2015 03:56 PM)tommybr Wrote:  

How to do it properly after 10 years of relationship?
Everything was fine until friends from her Uni messed up her mind.
She decided that I need to change my behavior and care more about her studies. She almost left me 2 years ago and I did a mistake and convinced her that we should stay and think before we act, eventually she stayed. How to end this? what should I do with all the stuff like photos?

Don't ever let your woman having a male friend, not even one. That where all the problems come from.

Be a man. Sit her down and tell her that you don't think you're right for each other anymore. That's a long relationship to just treat her like any other girl and ignore her. Keep pics if you want. I have pics from previous relationships, but they're stored away so that some day I might take them out and remember the good times. Don't get into another relationship right away. Take a trip to a pussy paradise and you'll soon decide that you made the right decision.

I'm actually the last person who should be giving this advice because I have trouble doing this myself. But in the few cases where I have done this, it's gone much better than expected.

[LeeEnfield303]

(07-24-2015 03:56 PM)tommybr Wrote:  

Don't ever let your woman having a male friend, not even one. That where all the problems come from.

Crystal truth here. Can't stress this enough.

[Aquiles_Baesta_Parada]

(07-24-2015 03:56 PM)tommybr Wrote:  

Everything was fine until friends from her Uni messed up her mind.
She decided that I need to change my behavior and care more about her studies.

What is she studying?
Please don't say women's studies....

[Sombro]

You've known each other for ten years.
Has she known her friends from uni this long?

A woman being swayed by people she's known for less time than you could not be a larger red flag.

You yourself have to make the ultimatum.

[EarnStackEnjoy]

(07-24-2015 06:19 PM)LeeEnfield303 Wrote:  

(07-24-2015 03:56 PM)tommybr Wrote:  

Don't ever let your woman having a male friend, not even one. That where all the problems come from.

Crystal truth here. Can't stress this enough.

Would you like to elaborate?

[tommybr]

by the way, I finished reading the "Day Bang" book and try to implement it, but what about gaming women from the past that I knew 10 years ago, back when I had no game. Should I contact them or meet only new women?

[WestIndianArchie]

Probably a troll.

You're fucked. She broke up with you AT LEAST two years ago, and probably way before then.

Throw out all her shit and cut off all contact.
Hit the gym, clean up the diet, get a new haircut.
Read the online game posts, and get on these hoes

WIA

[Dr. Howard]

(07-25-2015 02:17 AM)EarnStackEnjoy Wrote:  

(07-24-2015 06:19 PM)LeeEnfield303 Wrote:  

(07-24-2015 03:56 PM)tommybr Wrote:  

Don't ever let your woman having a male friend, not even one. That where all the problems come from.

Crystal truth here. Can't stress this enough.

Would you like to elaborate?

I can elaborate. I used to be very relaxed about my girlfriends having male friends and myself having female friends...and now am wiser.

There is a line of respect that can be read with a girl's male friends, that I could also see through my own female 'friends'. The female friends that I had, that were respectful, would go out of their way to be friends with my girlfriend when I had one...they would add her to facebook, go 'girl shopping' etc, essentially they would become friends and I would hang out with them every so often. If the girl and I broke up, my quality girlfriends would drop them and come back to my 'team' again. I was not/do not bang any of the 'quality' girlfriends that I still have (that number is 2 and I've known them for 20 years).

Contrast that to the low quality girlfriends that were either orbiters or infrequent FWBs, when I got a girlfriend they would do their best to show me that she wasn't good for me, start shit between us or generally disrespect the girlfriend. These girls wanted the girlfriend out of the picture so they could have me for themselves, they were subversive to my LTRs.

This is almost always the same with girls that have 'guy friends'. A girl with a 'guy friend' that goes out of his way to shake your hand, invite you out to do stuff etc will generally try to just add you to his circle vs. just hangout with your girlfriend. A 'guy friend' that you only ever see on facebook, texting, appearing at the bar or meeting them 'out somewhere' with the rest of the gang is a threat to you and a blatant threat if he AMOGs you when you meet.

The risk of problems with girls with 'guy friends' is higher I think because girls are so prone to "it just happened" in the moment snap judgements to jump on dicks. If your girlfriend has guy friends that are not friends with you...proceed at your own risk

[Rawmeo]

You probably heard the saying, "the monkey never lets go of a branch until he has another one" or something like that. Just game other girls. She shouldn't be pedestrialized.

Girls shouldn't be friend with boys. Never let your girlfriend have a male friend, no matter how deep he is in the friendzone.

[amusedmastery]

As I stated in another recent thread, there is no answer other than "Just leave". Tell her you're done, cut contact completely, and move on. There's no easy trick that we can inspire you with. 10 years is a long time, but you're wasting her time and more importantly, YOURS.

[birthday cat]

(07-25-2015 10:17 AM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

Probably a troll.

I thought so too. Probably written by a girl.

They've been together for 10 years and she is in Uni. Did they start dating at 12?

(07-25-2015 03:22 AM)tommybr Wrote:  

by the way, I finished reading the "Day Bang" book and try to implement it, but what about gaming women from the past that I knew 10 years ago, back when I had no game. Should I contact them or meet only new women?

Seriously?

[TheMaleBrain]

Rollo just did a piece on it:
http://therationalmale.com/2015/07/20/that-was-then/

Check it out.
Her SMV probably went higher (perception). So she feels that you are not worthy of her.

Second all other suggestions - let her go. You are now mourning. Finish your grief and continue with your life.

[tommybr]

(07-25-2015 11:39 AM)Rawmeo Wrote:  

You probably heard the saying, "the monkey never lets go of a branch until he has another one" or something like that. Just game other girls. She shouldn't be pedestrialized.

Girls shouldn't be friend with boys. Never let your girlfriend have a male friend, no matter how deep he is in the friendzone.

wtf is pedestrialized?

I gamed other women even before.

How to prevent the woman from having male friends when it's coworkers or students?

[tommybr]

MBA

[barnbarn2k]

As far as making the break it depends. I moved in with my parents for a week till I could find a place. Get a new place move your crap and get the youngest hottest chick you can find. The more intertwined your lives are the more planning it takes, like names on leases, utilities, and cells phones. It took me a 3 months plan for mine cuz of complications. It's normal for post breakup sex. Don't let that cloud your judgement.

[NikuNashi]

Had a similar experience, was with my first gf for 8 years, we moved around locations and she met a new crowd of 'friends'. They were upper class, from rich backgrounds, posh accents. Within a year or two she had totally transformed, she had sponged all of their ideas, she actually changed the way she talked and started effecting a posh accent. She started rejecting the lifestyle that had suited us before, she started wanting to go out to clubs with her friends all the time, getting trashed, acting like a single chick.

It was a hard time but fortunately we ended the relationship amicably (it was her call eventually), which made separating properties, cars, furniture and shit a lot easier. So I would seriously recommend that you end it in the most amicable way you can, face to face, talk it through.