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"classy" game vs aggressive game
05-22-2011, 03:14 PM
Hey guys, I've been wondering how to balance aggressiveness vs elegant/classy/original moves on girls. I know I sometimes don't make moves if I feel the circumstances are not favorable. I'm really picky about openners too.
I find it extremely tacky how some guys are too forward/evident, go hopping from table to table picking up in bars, suck mouth in the middle of the dance floor/house party, etc. It certainly has made me pass on many opportunities, but the "elegance" factor sometimes holds me back (if there's such a thing for picking up...)
How important is the mysterious gentleman vs the evident-aggressive player? I tend to always pick the first (especially when surrounded by a social circle that knows each other well), but have to admit that road is not the most efficient one. Quality women notice such things, don't they? is it worth it?
I have no problem being social and generating interest in a crowded situation the problem is sometimes extraction and generating good circumstances to escalate when there's no time/space to do it more discreetly.
Any thoughts? experiences?
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"classy" game vs aggressive game
05-22-2011, 03:22 PM
Direct game isn't exactly going around looking like a player. That's over the top. I go forward, but I don't advertise myself. The chick I'm working now I was able to hook in less than 15 minutes simply by making a situational comment, then soon after I go and join her and her beta chump friend. I control the conversation and BAM! Next night party invite and makeout. Night after that she wants to hang. You don't have to try to play suave if you aren't. Up your strengths, whatever they may be. The most important thing is to be irrational self-confident of yourself no matter what. Its that mind over matter that'll win you more girls than following someone else's playbook.
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"classy" game vs aggressive game
05-23-2011, 08:32 PM
Quote: (05-22-2011 03:14 PM)Thorne Wrote:
Hey guys, I've been wondering how to balance aggressiveness vs elegant/classy/original moves on girls. I know I sometimes don't make moves if I feel the circumstances are not favorable. I'm really picky about openners too.
I find it extremely tacky how some guys are too forward/evident, go hopping from table to table picking up in bars, suck mouth in the middle of the dance floor/house party, etc. It certainly has made me pass on many opportunities, but the "elegance" factor sometimes holds me back (if there's such a thing for picking up...)
How important is the mysterious gentleman vs the evident-aggressive player? I tend to always pick the first (especially when surrounded by a social circle that knows each other well), but have to admit that road is not the most efficient one. Quality women notice such things, don't they? is it worth it?
I have no problem being social and generating interest in a crowded situation the problem is sometimes extraction and generating good circumstances to escalate when there's no time/space to do it more discreetly.
Any thoughts? experiences?
I really don't give a crap. If I can escalate to the point where a girl will make out with me on the dance floor or wherever else that's one step closer to a bang. There are a LOT of women out there who will claim to be old fashioned, classy, etc.; but when it comes down to it they're a cheap whore like the rest of them.
If you're worried about having the time or space to escalate discreetly, you're wasting your time and hers. You won't always have the opportunity to get her alone. I think you need to teach yourself not to be so picky. There are ways to approach a lot of women aggressively without looking like a player.
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