[Downtown]

i've done all the above with my current girl. problem is that when i do fuck other chicks now, i feel bad! i'm a wuss. i've made and flaked on about 20 dates in the last few months because i just can't muster the energy. i'd rather bang #1.

i know it will ebb and flow so i gotta just not slip on holding the frame so as to keep the door open for later.

[raywolf]

1.) There is no such thing as selfish. Even keeping the life jacket for yourself while she drowns is not inherently selfish. It's protecting your best interests. All relationships are based on self interest, it is only the pussies that want you to bend to their will and help them out. You only 'give' when it suits your best interests. Just bare in mind that who lives by the sword, dies by the sword, so however generous and helpful and decent you are to others, you will tend to gravitate towards others who are decent to you. Obviously that will be impossible if you're too busy bending over backwards licking your own ass to keep everyone else happy.

2.) You never discuss other women you've banged or are banging with a woman. NEVER - It's none of her business. Any 'relationship' conversation initiated by you makes you instantly the beta. Even a break up conversation is unnecessary. Men don't have relationships they have sex. If she's on board then great, if not, find another.

3.) She will do whatever suits her, you do whatever suits you. Your only job if you want to keep her around is to show her that what suits her best is pleasing you. If she makes herself so available and is so fantastic you have no time for other women, then she can have you exclusively, (it's basically nigh impossible but you can explain the market forces to her and she can try - all the better for you).

4.) Get one of the other girls you are seeing, in bed with her in a threesome and take it from there. The best solution is always to not give a damn and escalate more and more.

5.) When you crash and burn and end up all alone, you will have failed in some way, but only failure brings wisdom. You reach higher and higher until you hit breaking point and only then do you learn how to reach beyond the breaking point. Failure is the most intense and fantastic experience, from there you only get stronger. You try and succeed, you get happy, you try and fail you get wise.

6.) Don't waste time, because one day you'll be 40-50-60 and some of those opportunities you will need to preserve. Failure only has a purpose if you over come it or choose a new direction. It's no good constantly burning bridges for the sake of it.

[Kingsley Davis]

A lion does'nt share the lionesses in his pride/harem but neither does he build civilization.