I think it is fair to say that in the "redpill" community the anti-marriage voices are the loudest and probably the vast majority. There is a reason why anti-marriage sparkplug Mark Minter was the most popular commenter in the manosphere for a brief flash in the pan, before his embarrassing and highly public engagement to a manosphere groupie.
Famous PUA Paul Janka announced his engagement and gave a very interesting interview to Return of Kings.
He gave a few reasons for his decision to get married:
There was quite an outpouring in the comments. Commenters accused Janka of falling for the soulmate myth, having one-itis, not being actually good at pickup, and being afraid of being alone.
The purpose of this thread is to get an idea of where people stand on this issue and maybe start a debate about on a topic that is taken for granted in the manosphere.
I will start off with my position: I think that the redpill anti-marriage position is an understandable reaction to the modern notion that one should marry their soulmate and have romantic love forever. Like most redpillers, I think this is a flawed notion. I think the institution of marriage needs to return to its traditional role, which is to start a family and raise children the right way. Ideally, romantic love and platonic companionship spring forth from a marriage. For this reason, I have a goal to get married and have kids, because I think the benefits of a good marriage are worth the risk of marriage hell and divorce. I would never marry a woman with whom I didn't want to have kids, and I am looking for a traditional woman with a similar background as myself.
Famous PUA Paul Janka announced his engagement and gave a very interesting interview to Return of Kings.
He gave a few reasons for his decision to get married:
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Regarding the manosphere, while I commend everyone for grappling with these big questions, a lot of men want offspring. Aside from the mini-relationship, there hasn’t really been a good alternative structure proposed.
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Chasing girls is fun when you have a core group of guys and continuity in your life. When you’re looking at women as disposable sexual objects then there’s so much churn and no one follows your life with any interest.
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If I take a wonderful trip with someone, I want to be able to reference that trip in five years with that same person. If you’re going to invest in someone, it has to be someone with long-term potential, not just some booty call. Finally, I met a girl whose character was in many ways superior to mine and I said wow, I want to hitch my horse to this cart.
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And I think for a man to be successful at life he should recognise his youthful erotic nature, but as he ages he should transition into a more respectful relationship with a woman that perhaps resembles more what he has with his mother. Men who fail to do that might be cut off at the knees.
There was quite an outpouring in the comments. Commenters accused Janka of falling for the soulmate myth, having one-itis, not being actually good at pickup, and being afraid of being alone.
The purpose of this thread is to get an idea of where people stand on this issue and maybe start a debate about on a topic that is taken for granted in the manosphere.
I will start off with my position: I think that the redpill anti-marriage position is an understandable reaction to the modern notion that one should marry their soulmate and have romantic love forever. Like most redpillers, I think this is a flawed notion. I think the institution of marriage needs to return to its traditional role, which is to start a family and raise children the right way. Ideally, romantic love and platonic companionship spring forth from a marriage. For this reason, I have a goal to get married and have kids, because I think the benefits of a good marriage are worth the risk of marriage hell and divorce. I would never marry a woman with whom I didn't want to have kids, and I am looking for a traditional woman with a similar background as myself.