rooshvforum.network is a fully functional forum: you can search, register, post new threads etc...
Old accounts are inaccessible: register a new one, or recover it when possible. x


Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

I meant to post this in another thread but might as well post it here. I have some kind of mental block in my head that makes me hesitant to approach or push through any form of lmr or something, subconsciously inside that tells me that I shouldn't do that when approaching girls. The feeling is disappering but it's still lingering in my head. It stops me from being more aggressive with girls and instead makes me more cautious around women, indirectly putting them on a pedestal. I am just wondering what I can do to be more aggressive.
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

Quote: (02-07-2015 10:26 AM)bojangles Wrote:  

I'm confused by tacolove, my senses say troll.

Agree. His harping on about irrelevant topics like religion and obsessing about "White christian women" appear to be trolling attempts.

As for them not being interested in Hinduism, just step into a yoga studio some day. Lots of them interested in Eastern philosophies and even practice a form of pseudo Hinduism/Buddhism.
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

^^^ it's interesting. If a lot of Indian guys had game, they could use this to their advantage. And the nature of their trolling somehow inherently goes against any type of spiritual philosophy or action in the first place, let alone the one they were born into.
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

Quote: (02-08-2015 01:04 PM)Cobra Wrote:  

^^^ it's interesting. If a lot of Indian guys had game, they could use this to their advantage. And the nature of their trolling somehow inherently goes against any type of spiritual philosophy or action in the first place, let alone the one they were born into.

Yep. To say that you have a better chance of attracting white American women if you convert to Christianity because you can meet them in church is absolutely laughable.

Walk into any yoga studio in the US and you will see rows upon rows of the most attractive women in that city chanting "Om" in unison.
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

Quote: (02-08-2015 04:28 PM)ManAbout Wrote:  

Walk into any yoga studio in the US and you will see rows upon rows of the most attractive women in that city chanting "Om" in unison.

So what? Just because they have an Indian word in their mouth doesn't mean they'll want an Indian dick in their mouth. These are two different things to them and women have no ideological consistency. Peer into their lives and you'll see that after the yoga class they're on OkCupid or Tinder swiping for their Tom Brady or their Don Draper. These girls sure as hell aren't running out to grab an Indian man (LOL); by the same token, the even vaster popularity of Asian culture cuisine does not translate to an edge for Asian men.
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

Quote: (02-04-2015 06:43 PM)Cobra Wrote:  

I once knew an American born Indian kid that told me that his mom told him not to hang out with me. This is because I provided him with his first alcoholic drink, a can of Bud. True story. It was my first experience with an IRT.

This reminds me of a weird story from college. There was a thirtyish FOB Gujarati dude in my obscure department whom I hung out with sometimes. No game, but seemingly normal enough, now a photographer back in Mumbai. I (white) asked him to come along once to buy weed from my hookup, a mixed-race, Obama-with-lighter-skin looking guy about our age who worked as a security guard in an art gallery and was into Hinduism. We had smoked plenty of the product but this was the first time my Indian friend was meeting the dealer.
We enter the apartment, sit down, and despite all attempts at friendly conversation from me and the half-black guy, he is tongue-tied and as if paralyzed. I could tell it was an ingrained racist response and was extremely embarrassed that he couldn't muster even a veneer of politeness.
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

^did you ask him why he acted like that, why would he be so freaked out!? Maybe he was to stoned LOL
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

Quote: (02-08-2015 04:49 PM)civpro Wrote:  

Quote: (02-08-2015 04:28 PM)ManAbout Wrote:  

Walk into any yoga studio in the US and you will see rows upon rows of the most attractive women in that city chanting "Om" in unison.

So what? Just because they have an Indian word in their mouth doesn't mean they'll want an Indian dick in their mouth. These are two different things to them and women have no ideological consistency. Peer into their lives and you'll see that after the yoga class they're on OkCupid or Tinder swiping for their Tom Brady or their Don Draper. These girls sure as hell aren't running out to grab an Indian man (LOL); by the same token, the even vaster popularity of Asian culture cuisine does not translate to an edge for Asian men.

True. those are the cards dealt to Indian and Asian men. However, these men could have better game and approach these girls after their yoga session instead of waiting to be swiped because they have Draper's chiseled looks. My point is I think guys approaching have better odds than tinder.

Shit sometimes I'm glad I'm not an extremely good looking guy and also Indian for that matter. I've had to toil and scrape every ounce of quality in social ability and looks and still continue to. It's allowing me to be more comfortable in my own skin and retain better game. I'll take that over being a Don Draper or Tom Brady look alike any day.
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

Quote: (02-09-2015 10:13 AM)Cobra Wrote:  

True. those are the cards dealt to Indian and Asian men. However, these men could have better game and approach these girls after their yoga session instead of waiting to be swiped because they have Draper's chiseled looks. I think the latter has better odds in the long run for any guy.

Shit sometimes I'm glad I'm not an extremely good looking guy and also Indian for that matter. I've had to toil and scrape every ounce of quality in social ability and looks and still continue to. It's allowing me to be more comfortable in my own skin and retain better game. I'll take that over being a Don Draper or Tom Brady look alike any day.

Yeah, if every girl who likes eating Pho is open to dating Vietnamese guys I would
be neck deep in white pussy right now.

I totally commend your attitude. We as men strive for the betterment of ourselves. But even though I'm comfortable with my race and physique I can't help but sometimes wish I was white and handsome LOL. It just makes it much easier.

The first thing the world consider about you is your appearance. In my Master class it's no coincidence that the most beautiful Polish girl is the first one to have found an internship while other much more qualified than her are still grinding through interviews after interviews hopelessly.

Ass or cash, nobody rides for free - WestIndiArchie
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

Krauser always says to me that actual Game is in the maybe's. Good looking guys get plenty of yes girls, but how often do they actually convert maybe's (clue it's rare). For the rest of us, we are actually displaying our seduction skills as most of our approaches are to girls that are 'maybe's'

Don't forget to check out my latest post on Return of Kings - 6 Things Indian Guys Need To Understand About Game

Desi Casanova
The 3 Bromigos
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

Quote: (02-09-2015 10:32 AM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:  

I totally commend your attitude. We as men strive for the betterment of ourselves. But even though I'm comfortable with my race and physique I can't help but sometimes wish I was white and handsome LOL. It just makes it much easier.

I saw this Dalaran1991 and wasn't sure how to respond. So I have thought about it quite a bit over these past few days. I'm gonna be honest and real and hopefully no one gets offended.

It's hard to have this "positive" attitude. It doesn't come easy and I still struggle with it. Little background so you can see why I struggle. When I first landed in the US at the age of 12, I stuck out like a sore thumb and was ridiculed for my race or ethnicity; not because of the fact that I didn't have style or was skinny, which were the real facts. So either I wanted to be white or shoot myself. Most people that ridiculed me were white. I was called names like "paki" and heard comments about how I smelled like curry in addition to many other ethnically charged comments. Lot of these comments were said around cute white girls that giggled when they were said. This was the early 90s in upstate New York. I write it off to kids being kids but pray every day that my kids don't have to go through that shit. Now all these people are grown up and probably have other Indian/Asian/black friends. Suffice it to say, I didn't have many white friends and I didn't even try. Now this wasn't everyone but it was a lot of the jocks and popular kids. It wasn't like I didn't feel comfortable around a group of white kids; I felt uncomfortable around the entire race of white people.

I spent a good amount of my years wanting to be white. I learned to speak like most white people, dress like most of them and even act like most of them. I even joined the US military to become more white, not black, not asian, but more white. The military for all the shit it takes, is an equalizer. In there, your abilities make you the man, not your race or ethnic background. And I was glad. No social bullshit or drama. Actually made more white and black friends than anything.

While I got some refinement, I still struggled to come back into the civilian world. The funny thing is that it's still not easy to apply this refinement. I'm not sure people expect a suave Indian guy around until they take their time with me. That time just may not exist when you're approaching a cutie on the street. I'll be honest. At times I find myself subconsciously being submissive to certain white people or even qualifying myself around them. It's tough to shake off completely and doesn't happen all the time. So that refinement that I earned and built is closed off by unconscious biases like this that I likely built up in my childhood.

So, yes my point is I take my experiences with stride. Instead of whining throughout my life, I served the very country that didn't welcome me in with open arms, got out and got a good job and add value to its economy. I know I belong here more than a lot of people do. I worked my way to earn it. I somehow kinda thought that I would shake off a lot of my childhood biases if I did this. It did a great job with that but hard to let go completely.

Yeah, I know some girl would rather swipe some Draper look alike than me on Tinder. But as a man, I'd rather be the guy that worked harder to earn my way into her pants. I'm just making lemonade with those lemons man, so may as well make it sweet. What's life if you don't squeeze a few.

And Dalaran1991, I believe you just dated a model. So I think you're further along than I am and don't really need for it to be that easy cuz you have game.
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

Hey guy,

I just came upon this thread after been mind fucked after my date yesterday. I posted about it in a separate thread but doesn't matter. I am a newbie, been gaming for real for the past 6 months. I got an instant date with a Dutch Swiss girl yesterday during my EE trip.

She told me that she feels awkard when I touch her as she was harrased during her trip to Sri Lanka( I am a dark skinned guy of Indian origins). She told me that she wont feel this way if it was some white guy touching her. I din't know what to do as I never encountered this problem before. But in the end we held hand on the way back to my hostel, she came into the reception and asked if there is free room for the next night. Then we went outside, hugged,I went for the kiss. She giggled and turned sideways.
I was a bit lost as I did not know whether to escalate further or build comfort the next day. So I got her number. I texted her today but it flacked.

Nevertheless, I felt quite awkard since this morning, but I came upon this thread and decided to move forward. Cobra's article and Bojangles book helped me a lot. I am still working on my inner game. Being a minority in a western world is not easy, but with lots of courage and determination it enables us to overcome all obstacles and be somebody amazing one day. I am going to continue improving myself and my game.

Thanks for the help guys
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

Man... This thread is crazy and interesting at the same time. Im also east indian and find sone of these posts interesting. I dont do none of this PUA crap or approach women.

But the women ive been with regardless of race have either really liked me or loved me off. Women are attracted to MASCULINITY,and SELF CONFIDENCE. a large majority of self confidence comes from LIFE EXPERIENCE.

I grew up around drug dealers, gangsters, alpha males, and recently got to work with military sargeants. Im also a fat bald guy with health issues. This summer ive had 3 women approach me and one offer me sex. I remember when i was really good looking I was still a virgin. One thing men need to realize is Women do the CHOOSING in the game. Check PLAYER SUPREME.

Ive even been with women that were 6 ft tall and im 5 10. I might not get the hottest chicks but I can if I work at it. My advice to indian guys:

1) Build life experiences that will lay down a foundation for your self confidence. Look at hobbies like boxing, outdoor sports, bodybuilding, learning a musical instrument, and etc. Step out of your comfort zone do things that require BALLS.

2) When it comes to fashion get clothing n shoes that match your skin tone, hair color, and eye color. Have a strong cologne but use it lightly. Also have the best fashion to give you a competitive edge.

3) Nurture your masculinity and invest a good amount of time in making it impeccable. If you hang around Russian, Spanish, Arab and Black men. You will notice there masculinity is at a different level compared to indian men. If you study masculinity and invest in it youll be good. Get a gun license, and chop down a tree if you have to.

4) Diet, health and nutrition - Drop the paki food for more wholesome organic foods. Get the Cron o meter app and make sure you get all your vitamins and nutrients. Start eating alot of fruits, veggies, meat and seafood. Avocados and Oysters for you know what [Image: wink.gif]. Buy organic if you can.

5) sexuality - study the art of making love. Look at websites that stream sex education dvds. Look into the kama sutra, tantric sex, and female orgasms. If your great in bed your good. If you need to pump your member checkout the bathmate.
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

I am Indian too but I'm from India and this thread is hilarious. Don't get me wrong, I sympathize with you guys and the identity crisis some of you may or may not have but the experience is so alien to us even though we're similar that it's eliciting quite a few chuckles from me and my friends reading this.

I think the whole frame is different for us. When we are interacting with non-Indian women we are as foreign to them as they are to us so if they say something that is weird we can easily shrug it off as we have ample stereotypes about them or in other words we don't really care and have thicker skin.

The guy brokinetic seems to have let a sure thing go because he let an innocuous comment get under his skin which is fair but if I was in that situation I'd have just said maybe they were acting like that because we think Dutch chicks are freaks or some such garbage and continued escalating.

By the way we have a term for you guys [Image: wink.gif], NRI - You guys heard of it?

Good luck either way, maybe we'll all roll together sometime.

PS : A lot of you guys would really enjoy backpacking.I won't be around this forum much longer as it seems to be excessively race/nation obsessed with a few cowboys even insisting on another thread that them being American meant it was easy for them wherever they went which is absurd because I've seen American guys get so much shit it's unreal but in general the kind of people you meet while traveling are way more open minded and worldly.
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

Seriously, I can't read this thread. Too much cringe.

Why does this even exist in the first place? My brothers love to cry rather than work hard. It's a fact.

Obviously you are at a slight disadvantage when compared to the white guys. GET OVER IT. It's like crying over your friend because his parents are richer than yours. You know that it doesn't matter if you put in the extra effort. You know that the extra effort you put wil multiply in all areas of your life. So, what's the problem?

I don't think Indian guys have low self-esteem. They have attitude problems. As long as you cry over the richer and more fortunate guys, there's no fucking way you are going to succeed. Put in the extra effort,man.
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

Quote: (02-06-2017 01:03 AM)tapthatass Wrote:  

Seriously, I can't read this thread. Too much cringe.

Why does this even exist in the first place? My brothers love to cry rather than work hard. It's a fact.

Obviously you are at a slight disadvantage when compared to the white guys. GET OVER IT. It's like crying over your friend because his parents are richer than yours. You know that it doesn't matter if you put in the extra effort. You know that the extra effort you put wil multiply in all areas of your life. So, what's the problem?

I don't think Indian guys have low self-esteem. They have attitude problems. As long as you cry over the richer and more fortunate guys, there's no fucking way you are going to succeed. Put in the extra effort,man.

What's there to cringe about and why introduce a negative vibe to this thread?

Did you read the original article in this thread and the responses?

I read your other thread. That's great for guys in India. We play a different ballgame in the west which is what this thread is focused on even though it's not immediately clear.
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

Quote: (02-06-2017 07:44 AM)Cobra Wrote:  

Quote: (02-06-2017 01:03 AM)tapthatass Wrote:  

Seriously, I can't read this thread. Too much cringe.

Why does this even exist in the first place? My brothers love to cry rather than work hard. It's a fact.

Obviously you are at a slight disadvantage when compared to the white guys. GET OVER IT. It's like crying over your friend because his parents are richer than yours. You know that it doesn't matter if you put in the extra effort. You know that the extra effort you put wil multiply in all areas of your life. So, what's the problem?

I don't think Indian guys have low self-esteem. They have attitude problems. As long as you cry over the richer and more fortunate guys, there's no fucking way you are going to succeed. Put in the extra effort,man.

What's there to cringe about and why introduce a negative vibe to this thread?

Did you read the original article in this thread and the responses?

I read your other thread. That's great for guys in India. We play a different ballgame in the west which is what this thread is focused on even though it's not immediately clear.

Indian guys living in India like tapthatass make me laugh. Dudes like him always want to laugh at Indian guys like Cobra and me who grew up here, like we're not really Indian. What do you assholes call us, ABCD's (American Born, Confused Desi's)? I got news for you man, picking up chicks in India ain't anything remotely close to doing it in the US. The two cultures are so vastly different that its pointless to even make a comparison. Just like Indian guys who are FOB struggle to meet women here, I have no doubt my ass would struggle royally in India. Put me in some country bar in Alabama filled with some trashy white bitches and I'll do just fine. Put me in Mumbai and forget about it, I'm not getting anywhere. You know why? Because while I get Alabama, I have no understanding of modern day Indian culture and its dynamics. Hell I don't even speak Hindi or understand a word of it. (I'm one of those ugly South Indians that tapthatbrownass looks down upon) and I still call it Bombay, not Mumbai.

Cobra was simply describing his experience of being brought here from India as a teenager and trying to fit in and assimilate. My experiences were quite similar. You think its easy? Instead of reading and trying to understand the experience of Indian guys in North America so that you can better understand the culture here, you just want to talk bullshit. Now if we dropped you in that Alabama country bar with some good ole boys, you might do just fine but my guess is that you'll flame out miserably. Just like I probably would in Bombay.

For the Indian guys who are FOB, my advice is to learn the culture and ASSIMILATE. Especially if you want to stay here long term. I see plenty of Indian guys dating white chicks no problem, nice looking ones too. The one thing they all have in common is that they've assimilated to some degree and understand the culture and the screwed up women here. If you're going to be here but act like you're still living in India, you'll get nowhere fast, hence a lot of the frustration. It is not easy and it does take some time. It is, however, infinitely easier to do it today than it was in the 70s when I was growing up.

Cobra, next time we get together I'm going to keep repeating tapthatass in my best Indian accent. I think it could really help me get laid.
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

Quote: (02-06-2017 08:42 PM)doc holliday Wrote:  

Quote: (02-06-2017 07:44 AM)Cobra Wrote:  

Quote: (02-06-2017 01:03 AM)tapthatass Wrote:  

Seriously, I can't read this thread. Too much cringe.

Why does this even exist in the first place? My brothers love to cry rather than work hard. It's a fact.

Obviously you are at a slight disadvantage when compared to the white guys. GET OVER IT. It's like crying over your friend because his parents are richer than yours. You know that it doesn't matter if you put in the extra effort. You know that the extra effort you put wil multiply in all areas of your life. So, what's the problem?

I don't think Indian guys have low self-esteem. They have attitude problems. As long as you cry over the richer and more fortunate guys, there's no fucking way you are going to succeed. Put in the extra effort,man.

What's there to cringe about and why introduce a negative vibe to this thread?

Did you read the original article in this thread and the responses?

I read your other thread. That's great for guys in India. We play a different ballgame in the west which is what this thread is focused on even though it's not immediately clear.

Indian guys living in India like tapthatass make me laugh. Dudes like him always want to laugh at Indian guys like Cobra and me who grew up here, like we're not really Indian. What do you assholes call us, ABCD's (American Born, Confused Desi's)? I got news for you man, picking up chicks in India ain't anything remotely close to doing it in the US. The two cultures are so vastly different that its pointless to even make a comparison. Just like Indian guys who are FOB struggle to meet women here, I have no doubt my ass would struggle royally in India. Put me in some country bar in Alabama filled with some trashy white bitches and I'll do just fine. Put me in Mumbai and forget about it, I'm not getting anywhere. You know why? Because while I get Alabama, I have no understanding of modern day Indian culture and its dynamics. Hell I don't even speak Hindi or understand a word of it. (I'm one of those ugly South Indians that tapthatbrownass looks down upon) and I still call it Bombay, not Mumbai.

Cobra was simply describing his experience of being brought here from India as a teenager and trying to fit in and assimilate. My experiences were quite similar. You think its easy? Instead of reading and trying to understand the experience of Indian guys in North America so that you can better understand the culture here, you just want to talk bullshit. Now if we dropped you in that Alabama country bar with some good ole boys, you might do just fine but my guess is that you'll flame out miserably. Just like I probably would in Bombay.

For the Indian guys who are FOB, my advice is to learn the culture and ASSIMILATE. Especially if you want to stay here long term. I see plenty of Indian guys dating white chicks no problem, nice looking ones too. The one thing they all have in common is that they've assimilated to some degree and understand the culture and the screwed up women here. If you're going to be here but act like you're still living in India, you'll get nowhere fast, hence a lot of the frustration. It is not easy and it does take some time. It is, however, infinitely easier to do it today than it was in the 70s when I was growing up.

Cobra, next time we get together I'm going to keep repeating tapthatass in my best Indian accent. I think it could really help me get laid.

[Image: ohshit.gif]

Epic post. He needed a little schooling. His India data sheet was err interesting.

Your post has inspired me to start some memes.

[Image: attachment.jpg35663]   

[Image: attachment.jpg35664]   
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

[Image: laugh4.gif]
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

IRT The movie




Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

I recommend that we reboot this thread, the other one got derailed by IRT dick size trolling. I have a weird dynamic with Indian guys from India, these guys frequently make good and loyal friends, but I can definitely tell that they don't know what to make of me as an Indian-American. I'll have Indian international students come up to me and start talking to me in Hindi, then get visibly confused when I tell them that I don't understand them. Occasionally they can be dicks about it, saying that I'm "not really Indian" in a pejorative manner. Like, fuck man, you're in my country, show some respect. I've never had identity issues since I grew up around a bunch of other Indian-Americans, but it's a little jarring to meet guys from the subcontinent who expect me to act just like them, considering that I've grown up in America.
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

Quote: (02-07-2017 12:16 AM)WalterBlack Wrote:  

IRT The movie




Why are they making these shit Uncle Tom movies? The one way that I feel discriminated against as an Indian-American is the way my ethnicity is portrayed in the media. We are overwhelmingly depicted as these charmingly faggoty model-minorities. Why can't Bollywood churn some genuinely good movies about India's badass martial history? I sometimes wonder if there's some global plot to try and cockblock Indian people, I don't understand how both our culture and our media portrayals have become this antisexual.
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

Quote: (02-07-2017 12:23 AM)Agastya Wrote:  

Why are they making these shit Uncle Tom movies? The one way that I feel discriminated against as an Indian-American is the way my ethnicity is portrayed in the media. We are overwhelmingly depicted as these charmingly faggoty model-minorities. Why can't Bollywood churn some genuinely good movies about India's badass martial history? I sometimes wonder if there's some global plot to try and cockblock Indian people, I don't understand how both our culture and our media portrayals have become this antisexual.

Bollywood is considered a joke in America and the quality of Bollywood films is terrible. I wouldn't hold my breath counting on them to do anything beneficial. Even if they did, who will watch them in the US?

A huge proportion of Indian immigrants to the US are Indian nerds, they then raise their kids to be nerds. Then you have thirsty FOBs too - the only way a lot of these guys will ever see pussy is if they do p4p or import a wife from India.

I'm originally from the UK and now live in the US. In UK Indians are portrayed more mainstream. There's plenty of UK TV shows where an Indian guy is banging a non-Indian woman and his race is barely mentioned. A lot of the Indians in UK are blue collar Punjabis (such as myself), and we weren't raised with the same faggotry as many Indian-Americans. I outlined some of my thoughts on Indian-Americans here.

Due to negative stereotypes I guess we have to make women think "Indian" is not the first thing that goes off in their head when we talk to them. Just last weekend I spoke to a Korean-American woman at a birthday party and she said to me,"So where does you lovely accent come from?" After that I never even mentioned Indian stuff to her.

I'm not ashamed of being Indian, in fact I'm proud of it but I don't bring it up in conversation unless the other person does.
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

Whoa guys, I don't think tapthatass was saying something that isn't an issue for Indians (or really Asians in general) brought up in the certain parts of the West: victim mentality.

Agree he didn't need to throw a negative vibe on it though.

He should also remember that he's never lived in the West. If he does visit the US, for example, unfortunately, he shouldn't be surprised when some folks giggle at his accent - Hollywood almost always associates it as weird (same with other FOB accents).

Overcoming it is necessary, but another ingredient you can add is voting with your feet, for places where the stereotype is smaller, nonexistent, or net positive. There's a reason most of the East and Southeast Asian descended forum members primarily congregate in our own Travel thread.
Reply

Inside the Prejudices of an Indian Man

Quote: (02-07-2017 06:35 AM)262 Wrote:  

Whoa guys, I don't think tapthatass was saying something that isn't an issue for Indians (or really Asians in general) brought up in the certain parts of the West: victim mentality.

Agree he didn't need to throw a negative vibe on it though.

He should also remember that he's never lived in the West. If he does visit the US, for example, unfortunately, he shouldn't be surprised when some folks giggle at his accent - Hollywood almost always associates it as weird (same with other FOB accents).

Overcoming it is necessary, but another ingredient you can add is voting with your feet, for places where the stereotype is smaller, nonexistent, or net positive. There's a reason most of the East and Southeast Asian descended forum members primarily congregate in our own Travel thread.

You're right that he's only mentioning something that's as true as the rising sun. This thread was actually meant to address that very thing because you have to know it exists first.

This brings me to another point about Indian men. What tapthatass is doing is not uncommon in the community. There are many Indian guys that look down on other Indian guys in our community. For example, the ones born here don't associate with the FOBs and vice versa. We each believe we're better than the other. I have been forcing myself to get out of this. Indian guys love to one-up each other. He's basically eating his own instead of comparing and contrasting in any meaningful way.

I think there is a cardinal rule to this though. If I move to India, it may be best to follow the social rules of India. However, you move to the west, you need to follow the social rules of the west. It's not rocket science but Indian guys have a tough time letting their Indian behavior go, and that includes the hierarchy mindset (looking down on other Indians).

For example, I know many guys like tapthatass who come from a higher end social circle in India, look decent and dress okay on top of being highly social in India. As soon as they move here, however, it is tough for them to make any American friends. They try their damndest but they bring that class hierarchy mindset which ruins most interactions at the outset and they're generally left with those that are exactly like them.

I still remember this. I went to India on a training rotation basically to train young people at the company's own outsourcing center. Now, I'm a darker skinned Indian guy and I was in North India, where people are predominantly lighter skinned, especially higher class people. I worked with people who generally came from the top echelon there. Just like me there were other westerners there, but were white. These white people got invited by the Indians to do many things that I didn't even hear about. Funny thing is that the white people invited me out more than the Indians. Not everyone was like this at all but it was prevalent.

So when guys like tapthatass make these types of comments, guys like me and doc holliday see it from a mile and for the sake of the brotherhood, feel the need to call it out like it is. After all, it fits into the theme of the thread.

Edit: I just saw that user Straw Hat Pirate who posted last got banned. He was throwing the same negativity.
Reply


Forum Jump:


Users browsing this thread: 1 Guest(s)