Hey guys, I'm writing this to share my experiences and hopefully provide a little motivation for others who may question why being successfully single (i.e. having women in your life with out being in a relationship with them) is the optimal place to be, especiall when you're younger.
A bit about me, I'm 25, a few years out of college and couple months out of a 3+ year relationship... Before this relationship I did well with girls, with the exception of my freshman and sophmore years in college... Not sure what happend, I went through a very shy and introspective phase, and the reckless abandon attitude that helped get laid when I was younger dissipated.
The only girls I hooked up with were ones who initiated the sexual encounter (this happend twice) or girls I met in class and got to know slowly over time.
In my Junior year of college, I transfered from a big urban (and lame commuter) university to a smaller liberal arts school, and within a couple months I worked at the best bar in this college town and had some awesome lays before settling down with the aforementioned girl...
SO, what I can share about my experience is that:
1) Relationships will in some ways hold you back from attaining your goals in life, whatever they may be. Relationships make you too comfortable and therefore inhibit you from pushing yourself to the fullest.
2) Relationships cost money and time that could be spent in ways that will benefit you in the long run, as opposed to simply appeasing your gf.
3) If you are faithful to your gf, you will more likely have to give up sexual experiences with attractive women, as I did, and now kick myself for...
4) Relationships limit your degrees of freedom, socially, professionally, geographically, etc.
5) Being in a relationship for a long period hurts your game with new girls and leaves you with emotions that inhibit new experiences with women.
6) Finally, and most importantly, relationships that begin when your in you early 20's will not likely last. And if they do, it is my experience that they don't work particularly well for both parties. Lots of change happens between say 23 and 33, not to mention 33 to 43. The girl you fall for may become a completely different person in due time, and the last thing you want to be is the guy who works his ass off to support a chick, loosing all you game and looks in the process, while your wife goes off and gets banged by more interesting men.
Anyhow, just the thoughts of a guy seeing a lot of his buddies get married, while I become single again and more primal...
A bit about me, I'm 25, a few years out of college and couple months out of a 3+ year relationship... Before this relationship I did well with girls, with the exception of my freshman and sophmore years in college... Not sure what happend, I went through a very shy and introspective phase, and the reckless abandon attitude that helped get laid when I was younger dissipated.
The only girls I hooked up with were ones who initiated the sexual encounter (this happend twice) or girls I met in class and got to know slowly over time.
In my Junior year of college, I transfered from a big urban (and lame commuter) university to a smaller liberal arts school, and within a couple months I worked at the best bar in this college town and had some awesome lays before settling down with the aforementioned girl...
SO, what I can share about my experience is that:
1) Relationships will in some ways hold you back from attaining your goals in life, whatever they may be. Relationships make you too comfortable and therefore inhibit you from pushing yourself to the fullest.
2) Relationships cost money and time that could be spent in ways that will benefit you in the long run, as opposed to simply appeasing your gf.
3) If you are faithful to your gf, you will more likely have to give up sexual experiences with attractive women, as I did, and now kick myself for...
4) Relationships limit your degrees of freedom, socially, professionally, geographically, etc.
5) Being in a relationship for a long period hurts your game with new girls and leaves you with emotions that inhibit new experiences with women.
6) Finally, and most importantly, relationships that begin when your in you early 20's will not likely last. And if they do, it is my experience that they don't work particularly well for both parties. Lots of change happens between say 23 and 33, not to mention 33 to 43. The girl you fall for may become a completely different person in due time, and the last thing you want to be is the guy who works his ass off to support a chick, loosing all you game and looks in the process, while your wife goes off and gets banged by more interesting men.
Anyhow, just the thoughts of a guy seeing a lot of his buddies get married, while I become single again and more primal...