Why didn't I stop to help a woman in need
Article about a guy who witnesses an argument between a couple in public, where it appears that the woman is trying to walk away but the man is blocking her way.
He considers stepping in to help/save the woman, but is afraid of getting hit.
He thinks about calling the cops, but his battery is dead.
He concludes the article by wondering if his reluctance to step in makes him less of a man.
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The article itself isn't so interesting to me, it's the comments in response to the article- it's clear men are getting pretty sick of the idea that they are expected to put themselves in harms way on behalf of women.
Here's some of the reader's responses to the idea on whether men should step in when they witness an altercation between a couple:
Article about a guy who witnesses an argument between a couple in public, where it appears that the woman is trying to walk away but the man is blocking her way.
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The man, thickset and tall, stood over her and dominated the exchange. He merely had to shift his weight from side to side to ensure she had no means of escape. It was horrible to watch.
He considers stepping in to help/save the woman, but is afraid of getting hit.
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Even though I wanted to intervene, to say something, a larger portion of my brain was telling me that if were to step in, I’d be putting myself in immediate danger. Quite simply, my good samaritan instincts were being overridden by a fear that this guy, considerably bigger than me, was in just the sort of agitated state to make him inclined to knock me out with a swift blow.
He thinks about calling the cops, but his battery is dead.
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Of course, the sensible advice in such situations is for someone in my position to call the police, or to at least alert somebody in authority or seek advice from a hotline. But my phone battery was drained.
He concludes the article by wondering if his reluctance to step in makes him less of a man.
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Perhaps it's all the inevitable result of men's roles and outlooks changing over the past generation or so. We're more emotional, more feminist, less sexist, but consequently less chivalrous, less likely to step in a help a woman in need. Does all this make me less of a man? Or does it, at least by today's standards, make me a typical man?
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The article itself isn't so interesting to me, it's the comments in response to the article- it's clear men are getting pretty sick of the idea that they are expected to put themselves in harms way on behalf of women.
Here's some of the reader's responses to the idea on whether men should step in when they witness an altercation between a couple:
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Feminism likes to tell everyone that men are oppressors, that we have default setting of rapist, that the risk of assault for men is but nothing and that domestic violence is a gender issue so as to deny protection for men.
In those circumstances don't expect me to subject myself to violence when convenient to you.
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Most women are more then capable of looking after themselves. And you do not know the back story. Maybe she slept with his brother, prevents him from seeing his kids after a divorce or done something else awful? I have seen some women do some awful things to guys and cry crocodile tears in bars and clubs to get them beaten up or arrested. I would walk away. ..unless I stumbled upon a mugging or something worse...then I will intervene.
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A friend did the honorable thing and stepped in to rescue a lady in distress.......only to be set upon by the nice chap AND lady friend. She did not thank him for the help - unless a kick in the balls is now considered good manners.
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You complain that "no-one did anything". What you mean of course is that no man stepped in and placed himself in the middle of violence that the woman very well may have provoked.
Provoking men beyond endurance is a basic female tactic and old as time. Fact is that women love violent men and often go out of their way to provoke them because they love the drama. And they go back to these men again and again - because they are attracted to them.
Often this will happen in public so some other poor sap steps in.
And how many men have been stabbed or battered to death with the female words "Are you going to let him treat me like that" ringing in their ears?
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Perhaps when women clear out feminism of the more hateful proponents of that philosophy I'll return to the traditional roll of male protector.
It isn't my job to do that.
Until that time comes I'll do my bit to undermine the patriarchal gender roll of protective chivalrous male by refusing to put myself in harm's way for the benefit of some woman I don't know.