Second time this has happened with the same girl.
Me- early 40s....look younger...10 day stubble,
Her - mid 20s ....grad student applying for med school ...Kind of body I love....brunette, on the shorter side....little ball of low body fat muscle. Probably a former cheerleader.
Place - local coffee shop.
I submit this just to try to understand her incongruent behavior and learn if this is something that any one else has seen and ( successfully ) dealt with.
Saw her a few weeks back. When I walked in, she sitting down on her laptop and was looking at me. Eye contact. A kind of a warm smile. I sat in front of her. A few minutes later she got up to go to the bathroom and made a point to kind of turn her head and look at me and smile. I'm thinking....this should be an easy approach.
When she comes back and sits. I wait a few minutes and turn around and have to signal for her to take her headphones off. "Excuse me, is that a good laptop"....just trying to get a convo going. She talks briefly about it. When I try to further the conversation, it's very short... basically one word answers. Starting to avoid eye contact on her part. SHe asks nothing about me despite my dropping bait. I could feel this was going nowhere so I just let it die. Later...when she got up again to walk around I tried to make eye contact and she stonily did her best to ignore me. So...I say to myself..."I guess when I talked to her...she got a better look at my face and decided I wasn't her type."
So...Today...I'm in the coffeeshop first sitting down. She comes in. She puts her stuff behind me at the table behind me ( again ) and gets in line to get a water. As she's in line...she keeps glancing at me. I catch her looking and she gives a small smile and looks away. I kind of acknowledged her...then pretended to be on my phone. I was looking out the window talking. She gets in line a few minutes later to get something else...again...I catch her looking at me out of the corner of her eye and when I meet her eye she looks away. Caught her doing this at least 3 times.
So.....I wait about 20 minutes as I'm about to leave and turn around....again, I have to motion her to take her headphones out ( damn things ). I ask her if she is by chance in med school. "No I'm studying MCat"....me: Oh...yeah...I thought you looked familiar we chatted a few weeks ago....I asked you about your laptop" Her: "Oh yeah" I'm smiling as I talk and was getting some smiling from her and eye contact. But it was one and two word answers all the way. Very abrupt stuff.
After about a minute....I say something about not stressing out on the test....she says " good" and puts her headphone back in and burys her face in her book again....basically as I'm still turned around looking at her.
I'm thinking WTF? Why all the eye contact and IOIs ( seemingly ) and then her complete unwillingness to do any conversation? I know she's smart enough to have a conversation as she's applying for freaking med school and taking the MCAT. Should I persist and assume she's shy next time? Should next time I just go direct before she can stuff the damn earphones back in her ear? This kind of incongruent behavior confuses me and I'm wondering if anyone has dealt with this. Also...I'm sure I'll see her again and no telling what she'll do next time in terms of pre approach signals.
Me- early 40s....look younger...10 day stubble,
Her - mid 20s ....grad student applying for med school ...Kind of body I love....brunette, on the shorter side....little ball of low body fat muscle. Probably a former cheerleader.
Place - local coffee shop.
I submit this just to try to understand her incongruent behavior and learn if this is something that any one else has seen and ( successfully ) dealt with.
Saw her a few weeks back. When I walked in, she sitting down on her laptop and was looking at me. Eye contact. A kind of a warm smile. I sat in front of her. A few minutes later she got up to go to the bathroom and made a point to kind of turn her head and look at me and smile. I'm thinking....this should be an easy approach.
When she comes back and sits. I wait a few minutes and turn around and have to signal for her to take her headphones off. "Excuse me, is that a good laptop"....just trying to get a convo going. She talks briefly about it. When I try to further the conversation, it's very short... basically one word answers. Starting to avoid eye contact on her part. SHe asks nothing about me despite my dropping bait. I could feel this was going nowhere so I just let it die. Later...when she got up again to walk around I tried to make eye contact and she stonily did her best to ignore me. So...I say to myself..."I guess when I talked to her...she got a better look at my face and decided I wasn't her type."
So...Today...I'm in the coffeeshop first sitting down. She comes in. She puts her stuff behind me at the table behind me ( again ) and gets in line to get a water. As she's in line...she keeps glancing at me. I catch her looking and she gives a small smile and looks away. I kind of acknowledged her...then pretended to be on my phone. I was looking out the window talking. She gets in line a few minutes later to get something else...again...I catch her looking at me out of the corner of her eye and when I meet her eye she looks away. Caught her doing this at least 3 times.
So.....I wait about 20 minutes as I'm about to leave and turn around....again, I have to motion her to take her headphones out ( damn things ). I ask her if she is by chance in med school. "No I'm studying MCat"....me: Oh...yeah...I thought you looked familiar we chatted a few weeks ago....I asked you about your laptop" Her: "Oh yeah" I'm smiling as I talk and was getting some smiling from her and eye contact. But it was one and two word answers all the way. Very abrupt stuff.
After about a minute....I say something about not stressing out on the test....she says " good" and puts her headphone back in and burys her face in her book again....basically as I'm still turned around looking at her.
I'm thinking WTF? Why all the eye contact and IOIs ( seemingly ) and then her complete unwillingness to do any conversation? I know she's smart enough to have a conversation as she's applying for freaking med school and taking the MCAT. Should I persist and assume she's shy next time? Should next time I just go direct before she can stuff the damn earphones back in her ear? This kind of incongruent behavior confuses me and I'm wondering if anyone has dealt with this. Also...I'm sure I'll see her again and no telling what she'll do next time in terms of pre approach signals.
- One planet orbiting a star. Billions of stars in the galaxy. Billions of galaxies in the universe. Approach.
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