In this post I'm concerned with a few different problems but since they are related to each other I express them together.
The first problem is that more often than not I find "sparks" with a woman in a situation where hitting on her is difficult. For example:
1-A female doctor I visit (may not be my own GP),
2-a nurse at a clinic I go to,
3-a female coleague
4-a shop clerk/cashier or a girl working at a cafe,
5-a passerby in the street who "gives me the eye".
In the first three cases one is not supposed to hit on the woman and in the case of a female coleague if it is not done with enough skill ("hitting on her without hitting on her") it can result in a long term feeling of embarrasment (each time I meet her). In the last two cases I have very short time to approach or to talk and in 4 the girl may not feel comfortable to be hit on in front of customers. (Or maybe in effect it is 'me' who is not comfortable?) I can't find much info about such situations in Day Bang.
Now the philosophical part. The game that Mystery and Roosh advocate can be called "spawn game" in which you approach as many (quality) women as you can. The main reason I'm not so interested in this kind of game is that I don't have enough time or energy for it. I like more the "organic" type of game. (Yeah, this may sound like Dr Judy, BUT WITHOUT ONEITIES.) Honestly I don't care if I don't get laid for a month. What makes me sad is having a chance with a woman (or several) and missing it: not giving it a manly try.
There are some qualities in a man which are emphasized in game. For example confidence, body language and eye contact. I've been working on these and they are not too difficult to achieve. However the most difficult one for me is the following:
I'm not good at acting at all and am not talkative. Well, I have a lot to talk about, I've lived and worked in several different countries and am quite knowledgeable. My sense of humor is not too bad either. But my brain doesn't work fast enough to hand me the next thing to say. So often I realize something I should've said after the chance has been missed.
One related problem is that I can have a lot of conviction in what I say and I often express my opinion in strong terms, which can scare people away.
The first problem is that more often than not I find "sparks" with a woman in a situation where hitting on her is difficult. For example:
1-A female doctor I visit (may not be my own GP),
2-a nurse at a clinic I go to,
3-a female coleague
4-a shop clerk/cashier or a girl working at a cafe,
5-a passerby in the street who "gives me the eye".
In the first three cases one is not supposed to hit on the woman and in the case of a female coleague if it is not done with enough skill ("hitting on her without hitting on her") it can result in a long term feeling of embarrasment (each time I meet her). In the last two cases I have very short time to approach or to talk and in 4 the girl may not feel comfortable to be hit on in front of customers. (Or maybe in effect it is 'me' who is not comfortable?) I can't find much info about such situations in Day Bang.
Now the philosophical part. The game that Mystery and Roosh advocate can be called "spawn game" in which you approach as many (quality) women as you can. The main reason I'm not so interested in this kind of game is that I don't have enough time or energy for it. I like more the "organic" type of game. (Yeah, this may sound like Dr Judy, BUT WITHOUT ONEITIES.) Honestly I don't care if I don't get laid for a month. What makes me sad is having a chance with a woman (or several) and missing it: not giving it a manly try.
There are some qualities in a man which are emphasized in game. For example confidence, body language and eye contact. I've been working on these and they are not too difficult to achieve. However the most difficult one for me is the following:
I'm not good at acting at all and am not talkative. Well, I have a lot to talk about, I've lived and worked in several different countries and am quite knowledgeable. My sense of humor is not too bad either. But my brain doesn't work fast enough to hand me the next thing to say. So often I realize something I should've said after the chance has been missed.
One related problem is that I can have a lot of conviction in what I say and I often express my opinion in strong terms, which can scare people away.
A whore ain't nothing but a trick to a pimp. (Iceberg Slim)
Beauty is in the erection of the beholder. (duedue)
Grab your life by the pussy.
A better question to ask is "What EXACTLY do I want out of life and what EXACTLY am I doing to get EXACTLY that? If you can answer that question truthfully you will be the most Alpha motherfucker you will ever need to be. (PapayaTapper)