How porn screws up your brain
03-13-2011, 03:05 AM
A couple of things guys should keep in mind.
1. Mainstream, predominantly American porn is not the only porn out there. A lot of guys have made claims similar to this one: "watching porn makes it hard to tolerate girls not 18-23, big boobs, etc".
If all you watch is mainstream american porn, then this is a legitimate concern.
There are many types of porn available, however. Amateur porn, created by people who are usually not paid for the privilege, involves a lot of people who look less than ideal because most of the participants are, in fact, average people.
European porn features girls who are often slightly less than ideal as well(physically very attractive, but usually much smaller boobs and not quite as tan). The few who do meet the ideal more closely often end up working in the US anyway.
Japanese porn is another very big option featuring girls who are cute, but don't often fit the ideals perpetrated in mainstream american porn(not blonde, small boobs, smaller butts, etc). Boob jobs are much less common. A lot of Japanese pornstars are very difficult to distinguish from the average Japanese female, something you can't say for a lot of mainstream girls in the USA.
If you consume a lot from any of these categories, you're not going to have the same side effects. I speak as a guy with a lot of experience with porn(more than I often care to admit). Most of my experience comes from these three categories, and most of it isn't even American, much less mainstream.
It hasn't affected my standards at all. If you get off watching cute but less than perfect/ideal girls having sex, then porn won't screw you up.
2. Location also matters.
Let's say you're an average guy, and all you do is consume mainstream American porn. Big names like Tanner Mayes, Lela Star, Tori Black, Kayden Kross, etc, etc-these are the ones who make up most of your carnal viewing pleasure. Naturally, your mind will acclimate itself to tight-bodied, thin, tanned and young women(or women who at least look young).
If you're in the US(most parts of it anyway), this is a big issue. As we've mentioned in other threads, good looking, thin, and feminine women are at a higher premium here than in other places due to a uniquely virulent brand of feminism and obesity. This means that if you live here, the distance between your fantasy and your reality will be particularly large.
If you live in the Ukraine, you'll have fewer problems. There it is not difficult for even an average guy to find a young, tight-bodied, thin and feminine girl because there is simply a greater supply. If you live in an environment like that, the distance between your reality and the pornographic fantasy is much smaller, which means you'll have fewer problems and, in the long run, you'll probably view less porn anyway(if the fantasy is so real, why fantasize?).
Same goes for a guy in Thailand, Japan, the Phillipines, etc. Young, tan, tight bodied girls are abundant in those places so the fantasy is much closer to reality, resulting in fewer issues and likely less porn consumption in the long run.
Many of the issues you're seeing with guys getting warped by porn have to do with a) their reliance on just one type of mainstream porn and b) the general lack of seriously attractive women in the US relative to other places, raising the value of truly thin, feminine, young women to abnormal levels and breeding more fantasizing among men for what they can't have.
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