As some of you may know I have spent the past few years in an LTR and I have finally left my girl and moved onto getting back into game. I had some experience with game from before my LTR but nothing crazy to write home about. This was my first time meeting up with a girl since my breakup.
My date tonight was a tinder date. We met up at 10 PM at a strip mall and had ice cream followed by a drink. I then pushed and got a blowjob in my car. Here are some thoughts on the whole situation.
1. Tinder is not my style. I am an okay looking guy but did not have amazing success like this. I put in the work. I tried lots of openers. I got many numbers. I even widened my search area and got this girl to drive 45 minutes to me. However it feels too needy to me. I do believe that the smartphone generation is terrible - and I will not help upping these bitches egos by being their match on tinder.
NONE of the girls I've gotten ANY interest from on tinder have been jaw droppers. Which means that I have to settle with the lower tier girls - which is exactly what I don't want. Where do I want my game to be in 5 years? Do I want to be banging mediocre looking women easily or do I want to be banging a few of the top 10%?
I'm giving up tinder because it's not what I want my game to look like down the road. I don't want easy returns. I want to slay top tier pussy. I think the top tier girls KNOW that (the majority of) guys are only on tinder because they're not getting laid outside of tinder. I don't want any girl thinking that of me.
Even average looking girls get dozens of matches each day. I will not be a number.
2. Good social skills go a long way. When I was in my LTR, if I had some free time that I could have spent gaming, I just went out and socialized. I met up with some friends I might not be that close with. I pushed for beers with people I had only been acquaintances with. I would get lunch and chat with people I had only known through classes. Yes, I was in college and it was easy, but social confidence should be a goal of all. Even if you don't have the intent of picking up women, going out and learning how to talk to people better is a crucial skill. Watch Seinfeld. Private Man said once that one of the problems with men is that our hobbies have become smoking dope and playing video games, which push us to lose our social skills. Counter that by going out more.
This date was very easy for me because of my social skills. I used to worry about "what to say" on dates or how to have a good time. Just have fun! As long as you get out there and keep the conversation flowing, you are doing better than most beta bitches. I was able to go on auto-pilot and just talk for most of the date, stopping a few times to ask questions about her, but I was only able to do this becuase my social skills have grown so much in the past years, because...
3. LTR's are a great time to work on inner game. Although I wasn't gaming when I was with my girl, I was lifting. I was reading more than ever before. I was browsing the forum to learn about holes in my game. I was becoming more outgoing. I spent any time I had socializing with people just for the hell of it. I was becoming the man I want to be in 10 years. If you're in an LTR, it is especially important for you to keep growing because a. it will keep your girl attracted and b. you will need the game if y'all break up!
4. Fuck LMR! Before finding RVF and other sources, I was a beta bitch boy. Yes, I grew a small harem. Yes, I followed the Law of Abundance. Yes, I racked up some notches. But, I always gave into girls' excuses when I was escalating. Years of beta-conditioning in America taught me to respect girls' wishes if they didn't want to have sex with you. Fuck that!
I was making out with this girl in the front seat of my car after driving to where her car was. I said, "let's move into the back of my car, it's more spacious" and she said "I don't know, that usually leads to things..." I got out of my seat and said "come on don't be a fun killer" and she followed suit. Fuck LMR! It's just another shit test! This is a big thing that this community has given me and I am thankful for that. As long as the girl is still using a soft tone of voice, and you remain playful yet dominant, go get what you want.
Anyway this is mostly cathartic to me. Feel free to share your thoughts and maybe I'll update this as my journey back into the game continues.
My date tonight was a tinder date. We met up at 10 PM at a strip mall and had ice cream followed by a drink. I then pushed and got a blowjob in my car. Here are some thoughts on the whole situation.
1. Tinder is not my style. I am an okay looking guy but did not have amazing success like this. I put in the work. I tried lots of openers. I got many numbers. I even widened my search area and got this girl to drive 45 minutes to me. However it feels too needy to me. I do believe that the smartphone generation is terrible - and I will not help upping these bitches egos by being their match on tinder.
NONE of the girls I've gotten ANY interest from on tinder have been jaw droppers. Which means that I have to settle with the lower tier girls - which is exactly what I don't want. Where do I want my game to be in 5 years? Do I want to be banging mediocre looking women easily or do I want to be banging a few of the top 10%?
I'm giving up tinder because it's not what I want my game to look like down the road. I don't want easy returns. I want to slay top tier pussy. I think the top tier girls KNOW that (the majority of) guys are only on tinder because they're not getting laid outside of tinder. I don't want any girl thinking that of me.
Even average looking girls get dozens of matches each day. I will not be a number.
2. Good social skills go a long way. When I was in my LTR, if I had some free time that I could have spent gaming, I just went out and socialized. I met up with some friends I might not be that close with. I pushed for beers with people I had only been acquaintances with. I would get lunch and chat with people I had only known through classes. Yes, I was in college and it was easy, but social confidence should be a goal of all. Even if you don't have the intent of picking up women, going out and learning how to talk to people better is a crucial skill. Watch Seinfeld. Private Man said once that one of the problems with men is that our hobbies have become smoking dope and playing video games, which push us to lose our social skills. Counter that by going out more.
This date was very easy for me because of my social skills. I used to worry about "what to say" on dates or how to have a good time. Just have fun! As long as you get out there and keep the conversation flowing, you are doing better than most beta bitches. I was able to go on auto-pilot and just talk for most of the date, stopping a few times to ask questions about her, but I was only able to do this becuase my social skills have grown so much in the past years, because...
3. LTR's are a great time to work on inner game. Although I wasn't gaming when I was with my girl, I was lifting. I was reading more than ever before. I was browsing the forum to learn about holes in my game. I was becoming more outgoing. I spent any time I had socializing with people just for the hell of it. I was becoming the man I want to be in 10 years. If you're in an LTR, it is especially important for you to keep growing because a. it will keep your girl attracted and b. you will need the game if y'all break up!
4. Fuck LMR! Before finding RVF and other sources, I was a beta bitch boy. Yes, I grew a small harem. Yes, I followed the Law of Abundance. Yes, I racked up some notches. But, I always gave into girls' excuses when I was escalating. Years of beta-conditioning in America taught me to respect girls' wishes if they didn't want to have sex with you. Fuck that!
I was making out with this girl in the front seat of my car after driving to where her car was. I said, "let's move into the back of my car, it's more spacious" and she said "I don't know, that usually leads to things..." I got out of my seat and said "come on don't be a fun killer" and she followed suit. Fuck LMR! It's just another shit test! This is a big thing that this community has given me and I am thankful for that. As long as the girl is still using a soft tone of voice, and you remain playful yet dominant, go get what you want.
Anyway this is mostly cathartic to me. Feel free to share your thoughts and maybe I'll update this as my journey back into the game continues.