Quote: (06-02-2014 04:03 PM)frenchie Wrote:
I know what you mean. I have one gay friend who is a very mature and astute guy. In fact, gay is the last thing you'd expect to hear from him. He's legit looking for a monogamous relationship with another man and doesn't want to hook up and be in an open relationship. I feel bad for him because even he complains of all the "faggots" running around and acting like immature girls.
A second former friend of mine who has tried numerously to get into my pants (that's why he ' s former friend) is married to another guy who views me as a threat. It's sad because he extolls the open relationship lifestyle yet it is clearly obvious his partner isn't too pleased with it.
I've gone so far asr to threaten mentioning his behavior to his hushand. He clammed up real quick. I'm sick of the attitude he has too.
It's sadr most of them act like children
I have a sneaking suspicion that the gay guys who are monogamous and LTR-orientated would have lower SMV in the gay marketplace than the majority and can't compete in it: the gay version of 'The Wall', aging or ugly. The status of the relationship as 'open' or 'closed' would be dictated by whichever partner is the better-looking one of the pair.
I've noticed the ones who don't act like children have had harder, less comfortable lives that have forced them to become emotionally-resilient, and they're far-less typically-gay because of it.
One of the most hardcore motherfuckers I know is gay. You'd never guess. Hell, he doesn't even call it that: "That's a whole 'nother thing and I'm not whatever that is." His attitude is that gay guys don't have sex with each other to emotionally connect - they simply use each other's bodies to masturbate - because the thrill comes from being
desired by someone else, as
validation of their attractiveness. The sex act is secondary - it's the narcissistic supply they're addicted to. Kind of like chicks with social media.
Most commonly, he says, the performance involves aping what they sexually-desire most - straight men - so you end up with them obsessed with Paraphilia that signifies straight masculinity: army fatigues, cop uniforms, lumberjacks, firemen, leather gear, etc. All the hoary male stripper concepts that appeal to women.
Since they're children who don't understand peer socialism, they think wearing these things is equivalent to actually having the same masculine-qualities possessed by those archetypes, so thing their performace is more genuine, and, as such, get to feel their masculinity is validated by their partner desiring them.
You know how some kids are really into dress-ups, will wrap a towel around their necks, think it makes them Superman, and then go jump off the roof? Same thing.
You can see why anonymous sex is encouraged in their culture - they simply don't care who their partner is, just what he
represents.
I think there's something solid to his theories. I keep telling him he should write a book.