Quote: (05-25-2014 02:28 PM)Constitution45 Wrote:
Thanks this is the kind of advice I am looking for. For myself I have enjoyed the last year, I truly feel alive. Literally all my business ventures have ended up failing, but there have been plenty of stories from it. I decided that the six months off and on would be ideal, because that is a long enough time to establish some roots. Although I don't wish to get particularly anchored to a specific country.
The only thing I struggle with is the emotional side. In the last year I have come close to some connections, friends and women, who were truly great people. Unfortunately I have to be pragmatic and detach, which is not always an easy task.
As cliche as it sounds, the biggest positive, is seeing how other people live. Back in the U.K where I am from, if I stayed there, I would be used to this self depreciating cycle of going to shitty boozers, trying to pull atrocious women, while watching X factor ever saturday night. As a foreigner going to certain countries, you get to enter social circles that you wouldn't usually enter back at home. You are forced to, otherwise you will be incredibly lonely. One other aspect I noticed, is now I am pro family. Back in the U.K I saw little reason to start a family, just so I can become one of those dads on t.v that mocked and ridiculed. Living in Russia however, I see true, proper alpha males, in charge of their family, while pursuing their own ventures, it was inspiring.
Asia is a good place to start up, although I'm thinking of staying a bit closer to home. Eastern Europe, Russia are like El Dorados for me. I think I will go too far gone in East Asia and end up like Colonel Kurtz from Apocalypse Now. My time in China, put me off doing business there, more because of the Guilao there, rather than the actual Chinese.
Just some questions for you.
Which places have you set up in and why ?
When did you decide this was the life for you ?
What is your exact line of work ?
I will agree the transient lifestyle ( i was moving around 90% of the time) is very hard for connections with people, but I have slowly learned to be "in the moment" where i can connect much quicker with people now. This is why i like your 6/6 model. It's not weird for me to meet somone become best freinds and then even meet up later in a different spot. It's amazing how often i do see people that i've met in different countries. Facebook is amazing for this. I never liked it until i started to travel.
I tried part Thailand for a while. It's cheep and kinda fun. I love the water, so being on a beach in the middle of winter was why i went there. I don't like Asia though. just a personal thing about culture etc. I'll go back but I don't plan on staying.
Mexico a couple times.
France.....ya no not my choice. didn't like it. I had fun but....eh
Couple places in usa east coast.
I plan on doing Eastern europe/ S. America next travel abroad stint. This is going to be finding a country that is cheep and fun with good weather. So it will depend on my exact departure date from the states. Winter....go south summer....go eastern europe.
Eh I never decided to do this. Like i say. I'm like you in the way that I see people back home and I know that isn't the life for me by any means. I'd do anything instead of that. I'll do this until I can make enough money back home to live an upper crust lifestyle. This way, I can live like a king at least half the year. Going out and not even worrying about the bill is a nice feeling. Feel like clubbing? taxi and bottle service doesn't even run you 50$.....good times
Depending on where you go there is certain lawlessness too that i find fun. Where a bit of bargaining can get out out of a bad situation. It feels more adventurous in the 3rd and even 2nd world countries.
my work. I've done a lot of different things. shitty answer I know. I had to travel for short periods of time to places occasionally staying somewhere for a few months at most. (i kinda keep in vague in case anyone I know reads this). I will reccomend SCUBA instructor because i've seen this work for a lot of people. same as ski lift operator/ bartender. english teaching like you did.
I don't see this as a long term lifestyle. After a while you just become one of those drifters that you meet in hostels that have a million cool little stories, but eh that isn't' the life i want.
I do this to keep myself motivated. If I know i have to move in x number of days....it keeps me pushing hard. It makes more memories. I can list 10 memories from some years when I didn't move at all.... Keep the ceneory changing to keep life interesting
I would say move far away from home as well. That's just me. Unless you are staying close to home to keep yourself surrounded by Smart, like minded, ultra susseccful people, you are surrounding yourself with people that will not understand, accept or support your lifestyle.
THIS IS HUGE
Be honest with yourself on what you want out of life. There is no use in bullshiting yourself. Need to stay close to home because you're scared you might fail? okay are you okay with that? as long as your honest its a good step.
If you stay at home for 6 months with your freinds that just dink and piss their lives away. you will fall into that every time you go back home.
You are who you surround yourself with. coke heads...you're a coke head, bankers....your good with money, travelers.....you'll be a traveler. Choose what you want then surround yourself with those people. Don't let them choose you......