[XXL]

(10-04-2016 07:00 AM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:  

Personally XXL's advice is good if and only if you can really control your emotions and truly treats her like a plate. But you know you cant, we all know that. The danger of keeping unfinished business like this around is that they fuck with your mind.

You're right. I have "destructed" myself by going all out with game which is why now I feel like I'm socially/emotionally bulletproof. It's intense but the pay off is equally beneficial.

[Wince]

To be honest, as above posters have said: the fact that I could do what I did in retaliation, with no guilt, probably means I don't feel as much as I think. I've definitely been emotionally stunted.

Part of my anger was more because I would love to be able to trust womens' words, and less about her specifically. But this is a man speaking logically about women who simply aren't.

For what it's worth, I didn't go out of my way to contact my ex's mother. Her mother text me for an unrelated reason, asked if everything was okay, and I said she ought to talk to my ex about that. Still childish, but there you go.

[kaotic]

Playing devil's advocate - I wouldn't demote her to plate.

You don't reward a bitch with your dick who fucked up and disrespected you.

I wouldn't plate her at all - I'd of ghosted her when I first got wind and never talk to her again.

She's trying to hamster this all away - you fucked it up with her family and you agreed to talk after she told you.

Basically you're in a losing position and she has more power than you in the relationship - she's dictating the terms.

Also, NEVER tell girls who you're banging, revenge fuck or not, the less they know the better.


Stalin, put it very simply.

Move on.

[Rhyme or Reason]

^ Yeah, the whole "demote her to a plate" thing just doesn't hold water in my experience, once you've crossed the relationship Rubicon it's that or bust. OP is obviously invested in her heavily, more so than she is in him. You can't just say "I hereby declare I no longer have feelings for this girl, and will only use her as a cumdumpster" and then make it so.

[Vaun]

Aside from seriously messing with your head, and now relegating you to whatever little she decides to let you have in the future, there is the small matter of trust. She broke one of the most serious bonds with you. What if she tells you she loves you again, and then "oops, I forgot my pill", and then she uses her family to pressure you into keeping it. Or other little things like your $400 Tom Ford shades end up missing. Trust me, that one especially bites. Or she is banging some other goon who falls in love with her, and she decides to use you to make him jealous, and him and his brother just want to smash someones skull in. You can never tell with one like this. I wouldn't trust her for anything again, no matter how few new women are in your area, or how hard it is to go pick up a new one.