[sre94]

I was thinking recently, I have never actually sat down and written exactly how I would like my dating life to be


I don't want to just get good at one area, like only daygame, or only nightgame. I want to master any and every avenue I can to meet beautiful women. Problem is, I've never figured out exactly how to make it happen. So I'm writing here with the hope that maybe someone can give me advice to nudge me along and shorten the distance to my journey


As of now, I do my best work at night. I wouldn't say this is my preferred avenue for meeting women, but in some ways it's the easiest. Probably because it's when I'm in my best state. Dressed to the nines, out with friends, feeling loose after sipping cocktails. It probably doesn't hurt that the women out there look a little better than usual for many of the same reasons that I just gave


So here's a very rough sketch of how I would prefer things to be:


Daygame: I want to put myself in the best position to meet the most beautiful women. I want to know all the best places, and the times that are the most optimal for meeting them

-Challenges: approach anxiety, although I know plenty of ways of getting that under control. The real question is logistics, as I mentioned above. And, how much time to spend? I battle myself on this. I work from home and can easily just take my laptop to the mall or a coffee shop, but I don't feel like I do my best work this way. I feel like I do better when I'm at home with my 27 inch computer monitor and office chair. But then when I'm home, I feel guilty for not being out and about, because no matter how many affirmations I do, a beautiful woman is not just going to randomly knock on my door


Hired Guns: This kind of goes along the same lines as daygame. The big advantage is not having to wonder about randomly hoping to see a hot woman I want to talk to. You go to certain places (restaurants, high end department stores) and you're pretty much guaranteed to find some beautiful women. But how do I game them? The same direct daygame approaches don't seem like they would work. And do I try to become a "regular" to build rapport?


Social Game: Probably the most viable option, IMO. I have noticed for a while now that when I am introduced to a woman in a group setting either from friends or some other type of acquaintance, 80% of the time if they're single, they show interest. Problem is, most of the time, they're not what I'm looking for! How do I break into these social circles?


Facebook: In one way, we are so lucky in this day and age to have access to so many women just by logging onto a computer. But certainly, randomly hitting up a bunch of beautiful girls on there is a recipe for disaster. I mean, I'm pretty good looking, but I am certainly no celebrity. How do I make a connection online with women who are not necessarily on there for that reason?


I guess what it boils down to is, access is half the battle (maybe more). Just trying to figure out how to improve that access

[This Is Trouble]

For starters, you have to set the expectation(s) realistically based off of the kind of lifestyle you live. With your job, guess what, daygame will be hard to master...unless you're willing to distract yourself, which makes your work (and hence, other parts of your life) suffer.

Let's say you don't approach during the week. Realistically, you will only have one day a week to get approaches in, unless you're willing to dedicate both weekend days to doing so. And that's unlikely if you work 9-6, because you'll have other shit to handle on the weekend.

However, if you work that schedule, night game becomes more feasible. If you basically set your own hours, which is what it sounds like, you can be out as late as you like. Stay out until 2am, roll out of bed at 8:55 and work at 9am. Or, if you work at home, can you do your work at night and then make your approaches during the day?

Social game is passive. It should always be tapping you out some form of income, but you have to nourish it. I can't comment on Facebook game.

Narrow down what your priorities are in life first, then decide how much you want to dedicate towards mastering different disciplines.

[Distant Light]

Easier than you think, first you need to breakdown how you want to live and also change your view...

Cold Approach = A Tool To Build Your Lifestyle


Daygame is a great way to funnel people into your life, nightgame is great for connecting with people who are social/connectors and have access/resources within your city. Essentially you'll be funneling everyone into that "lifestyle" that you now live. This is essentially what I did to live how I currently live.

As for your "schedule" it's pretty easy...
- Choose 2 days in the week that have "high traffic" areas and work there that way even if your slacking it's not too serious
- Go out at night to the best venues (preferably the ones you enjoy most)
- Focus on being a more social guy who is constantly bringing new people into his life and inviting them along

An most of all HAVE FUN DOING IT!!!

P.S...IMO, social circles aren't passive, at my peak I was apart of 14-15 different social circles all revolving around areas of interest. This ranged from burners, hipsters, club kid hipsters/gays, models, social elite, etc)

[sre94]

Thanks for the responses guys

To be honest, I don't have to do a tremendous amount of work. My income right now is passive; just trying to build on it

Distant Light, love your website/Facebook page. The whole "lifestyle" thing is something I have been trying to build forever

[WestIndianArchie]

You're kinda all over the place with this post. Pick one thing, learn it. Then move to the next thing.

Choose between Online Game and Day Game, and spend a significant amount of time doing ONE of those.

WIA