[Remington]

If the girl I'd be spending the rest of my life with ise the chick from X-Men who can change into any chick I want then the answer is maybe.

[Shotgun Styles]

(12-12-2013 10:04 AM)Remington Wrote:  

If the girl I'd be spending the rest of my life with ise the chick from X-Men who can change into any chick I want then the answer is maybe.

Give it another 30 years. Full on Matrix virtual reality is a technological inevitability. Then everyone will be marrying fat cows and trannies who are filthy but perfect looking women online.

Bruce Willis' film "Surrogates" touched on this possibility.

[reaper23]

(12-11-2013 02:12 AM)Sharkie Wrote:  

This state of disrepair may be temporarily offset by the spillover of emotions from a highly rewarding newer activity.

Hence the first question to you.

Good points all around. I don't actually think I am assigning too much positivity to my earlier exploits. I have some of them documented and even was inspired to do some writing at the time. reading back on those I realize i'm not even remembering it as positive as it was then.

when a girl says to you "you fuck me like a universe" (interesting syntax) something serious was happening.

and that aint happening anymore.

i do think i get desensitized to pleasure hits

i'm a junkie in all ways, seeking newer higher highs.

had dinner with an old friend last night. he just sold his company and has been "out of work" for about six months. he is losing his mind. bored, sad, unhappy...missing the action.

my job, which by all accounts is a hard one, is just too easy and boring for me, except for periodic moments of pleasure when something difficult is achieved.

for instance, today I got news that the core piece of my restructuring plan was approved by the bank resulting in a huge financial advantage for my org. that made me smile. might make me fuck better tonight too. who knows

after i won my last title fight, i had this rush - this knowing sensation that i was going to be a monster in bed that night. and i was.

point is, i think you're right in many ways, I need to find ways to increase the action in my life to get me that fix i need.

friend from last night suggested meeting young girls in hotel rooms for threesomes during the week was only a salve for the larger problem which is a generalized boredom.

but why the fuck can't i be satisfied with a steady state of positive circumstances?? great job, great girl, great family, great living situations, great shape, great experiences...still not enough

i'm flawed in this way

[Wahawahwah]

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point is, i think you're right in many ways, I need to find ways to increase the action in my life to get me that fix i need.

Haha good for you mate,however I'm actually saying quite the opposite -- if you continuously seek to increase the action in your life, you'll eventually become
A) desensitized to even this increased action (upping the odds/rewards/risk) and there may come a time when the line between exhilarating and life-threatening becomes blurred to you...And like thousands of examples of adrenaline junkies,businessmen,inventors,artists before you, you will fall.
B) you will become a slave to this habit of continually upping the odds, and a sense of unease will shadow you every place you go.

A and B will feed each other and you get into a vicious cycle of inadequacy and an increase in self induced stress. (Mild symptoms of which you already exhibit).

Your primary purpose in life becomes going about looking for the next "hit".
While this is (in ways) better than the friend you mentioned who has suddenly lost any purpose, it is still inherently narcissitic, limiting and self defeating.
You have a one-itis with your fix. The more you grasp and crave for it, the more elusive it becomes.

This is a problem common, lazy people rarely have (unless there's a drug/activity that induces it for them), and is seen far more often in driven, disciplined overachieving type of ppl (conjecture).

How do you get out of this cycle?

Don't up the odds.
Change the game.

Feeling sex is *meh*?
Take some time out and go live with monks in a cathedral/temple etc where complete abstinence is practiced instead of pushing for more dramatic sex.

Think your job is easy?
Get a completely different job profile instead of pushing harder for diminishing returns.

Think you're king of the world?
Live in the slums of Mumbai.

Think you've sky-dived and bungee jumped way too much?
Go hack your way through the Amazon rainforest instead of bungee jumping from increasingly higher altitudes.

You'll realise that in the time you're actually learning to come to terms with drastically different realities from your own, your neural circuits will rewire and you'll feel a newfound appreciation what you had in the first place (and open your mind to much more).

Caveat---can.be.traumatic.

[reaper23]

@sharkie

i'm not sure how changing the game doesnt do just the same thing though. new challenges, new adventures, new experiences...all kind of the same thing, isnt it?

i'm not religious and i'm not going to get all religious but sometimes i wonder if this isn't the exact type of situation that could be 'solved' by bringing spirituality into the mix.

a period of self satisfied stability i did have was when i went deep into yoga practice. but that too is just a dopamine hit of another kind.

i'm such a fucking junkie that even when i was in the hotel room with two girls, during a down period i'm scanning tinder for new leads.

[Avon Barksdale]

I used to think I would, But after discovering the Red Pill I do not think its possible anymore.

[StudebacherHoch]

I used to think it was impossible, but I found her at age 58 (this year)...good time in your life to meet the person you want to spend the BEST (rather than rest) of your lives.

[Wahawahwah]

When you keep doing similar things over and over again you reach a point of diminishing returns.

Changing the game, while essentially the same idea (new challenges,adventures,experiences) will require you to use/develop different emotional and physical skill sets.

And not all experiences are made equal,not all experiences yield the same payoff.

The religious activity was an example.

[DjembaDjemba]

No.

Monogamy is ok when I'm out of town working in the oil patch, away from pussy for a month straight. Then I come back and there's vagina waiting for me just like the right temperature porridge in Goldie Lox and the Three Bears.

But if I'm in town for prolonged periods of time...I stray like a cat into the warm bowels of another tasty ovary.