[Bukowsky]

Hey gents...

Relation to earlier post: "where do I proceed from here".

This girl threw a bomb in my face the other day confessing she had had SERIOUS feelings for me all along. I had a hunch, but figured I was flattering myself.

After some hassle, we set up a date where I gave her her birthday present. I actually thought she had gotten me a present for my birthday too (see earlier thread). We had a good time, nice vibe, very comfortable talking and, I think, real connection. I got some good kissing going with her. But she refused to come back to my place for "chow"... she knew it would lead to a bang, said as much, and expressed fear of regrets on her part. She told me she was finally getting over me (she deleted me on FB and everything), so she just didn't want to start over.

Later that night, I got a text from her:

Her: "Heysasasa. Thanks for a great afternoon and the nice gift It was really wonderful to see you again! Lo digo de verdad."

I was like nice, so I replied "Me alegro. Vamos hablar manana"

I text her a link for a job I thought she ought to apply for next afternoon, as we had been talking about how she had applied for a job in Barcelona she really wanted. Of course I'd like her to stick around so she can go with me to Argentina with me next fall instead, I didn't say that, but I sent her the link:

Me: "Check your mail "

Her: "Thanks Will you be in Buenos Aires at that time? The job fits my schedule well since it's in the fall."

Me: "That's my plan. I'll help you write a killer application and you can give me free spanish lessons in exchange"

Her: "Es un trato! Pero no tengo tiempo para ayudarte ahora. Tiene que ser despues los examenes"

And I was like, "dumb bitch" going off and ruining it the convo.

So I waited till today, then I threw her a new one:

Me: "Espero que seas una buena maestra. Tienes que venir a mi piso con mi regalo, para que pueda practicar mi chamuyo contigo: "conoces una playa buena por aqui?" Como fue el té?"

Five hours later (midnight):
Her: "El té esta buenisimo. Tienes q probarlo Sabes q soy la mejor profesora del mundo...jeje. Buenas noches Loco! Qué duermas con los angeles"

Is she avoiding me? Is she discouraging or encouraging me? I'm baffled. She checks her phone often.

Any tips advice to build comfort and advance the seduction process here?

[rudebwoy]

Can u translate what she is saying? A text at midnite is always good though.

[Bukowsky]

Lo digo de verdad = I mean it

Espero que seas una buena maestra. Tienes que venir a mi piso con mi regalo, para que pueda practicar mi chamuyo contigo: "conoces una playa buena por aqui?" Cómo fue el té?" = I hope you're a good teacher. You have to come to my apartment with my present, so I can practice my pick-up lines on/with you: "do you know a good beach around here?" How was the tea?

El té esta buenisimo. Tienes q probarlo Sabes q soy la mejor profesora del mundo...jeje. Buenas noches Loco! Qué duermas con los angeles = The tea was great. You have to try it you know that I'm the best teacher in the world...hehe. Good night crazy! Sleep with the angels

[Bukowsky]

I just decided to go with it now.

Me: "Thanks for the invite. I'm off tomorrow at 8pm. You want to do glögg at X's or te at Y's?"

Y being her last name, ie. her place.

This is glögg: http://goscandinavia.about.com/od/restau...recipe.htm

[Bukowsky]

Her: "I have to hand in an abstract of our case project Wednesday, so I am metting w the group tomorrow! I don't know how long it will take - that depends on if we can agree on a research question! Otherwise glögg sounds nice! I'll get back to you w an answer tomorrow un besito!"

This sounds like a flake. I wrote:

"Cool, talk tomorrow"

Tips/advice going forward?

[The_CEO]

I hate to say it, but this kind of post/question, which i've written as well here, reminds me of something Roosh wrote on his blog once, that if you're asking for advice during the seduction, it's too late...

Hopefully this is different, or an exception.

My advice would be to pull back and make her wonder what you're up to, and come after you

[Bukowsky]

Yeah, I get that part totally - my game has been sluggish lately, so I'm hoping I can get this baby rolling.

I've banged this girl before but that was a year ago. Now I'm returning for seconds. I would pull back and let her come back in every other circumstance, but she's been traumatized by my earlier rejections and would probably just not bother in order to avoid being hurt again.

So now I'm trying to go for "friendly, unpressuring, solid-guy" game, but still taking the lead and setting up a meetup. Assuming I get the meet-up, I have to ensure perfect logistics and smooth game so I can get her back to my place.

[FretDancer]

(11-29-2010 08:07 AM)The_CEO Wrote:  

I hate to say it, but this kind of post/question, which i've written as well here, reminds me of something Roosh wrote on his blog once, that if you're asking for advice during the seduction, it's too late...

Hopefully this is different, or an exception.

My advice would be to pull back and make her wonder what you're up to, and come after you

Very true, but it happens to most of men, I'd say its normal until you finally achieve to manage it, which is when your game has improved to a point where your you just trust your confidence.


Anyways, I think you should go for the bang, try arranging the meeting a few more times until you finally decide she is a total flake and a total waste.

Also meanwhile keep working on your game and keep getting more numbers.

[Bukowsky]

Yeah, it kinda seems like there isn´t anything that can be done differently, really. Maybe I should've been quicker to setup second meet-up after I had warmed up with my great kissing (she did compliment it, but I guess girls say to every guy).

Never hurts to just play it cool and take it in stride.

I've got another date with this one tomorrow (blonde). Would you believe she's 21?

   

[rudebwoy]

What country you in dude?

[Bukowsky]

Sweden

[Bukowsky]

OK, to deal with possibility of flake here, I am going to send her a text now, a few hours before our designated meet-up.

"guess this means we're still on - it's real glögg weather"

[FretDancer]

Haha let us know how it went

[Bukowsky]

Girl 2 (in the pic): Ok date, but she´s obviously stressing over her medical studies. Hard to get her down to Earth.

Girl 1: Disaster. She flaked, asked if we could change the date.

I replied "No".

She replied "Oh! That's too bad."

After that, I gave her a ring, but it was fucked. We rescheduled Friday, but the vibe has been fucked with. I actually just want to bail, I reckon I've ruined my chances.

[FretDancer]

(11-30-2010 11:25 PM)Bukowsky Wrote:  

I replied "No".

She replied "Oh! That's too bad."

After that, I gave her a ring, but it was fucked. We rescheduled Friday, but the vibe has been fucked with. I actually just want to bail, I reckon I've ruined my chances.

Yeah you should move on IMO. Keep working on game and don't forget to try and bang Girl 2.

[Bukowsky]

(11-30-2010 11:32 PM)FretDancer Wrote:  

(11-30-2010 11:25 PM)Bukowsky Wrote:  

I replied "No".

She replied "Oh! That's too bad."

After that, I gave her a ring, but it was fucked. We rescheduled Friday, but the vibe has been fucked with. I actually just want to bail, I reckon I've ruined my chances.

Yeah you should move on IMO. Keep working on game and don't forget to try and bang Girl 2.

Totally. I forgot not to be needy. So now I'm the mewling beta. How undignified.

There still is a "date" Friday, but the dynamic is a mess. No point fretting about it, but I am just going to have to be "cool" about everything that happens. In other words, the exact opposite of tonight.

[FretDancer]

Sorry if it's been mentioned, but have you tried flaking on her before?

[Bukowsky]

Yes, with great success. I have considered it. To avoid being thought a loser, I thought of just calling in sick.