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Fantastic tips Paully1976, many thanks! Would you suggest to feign almost total ignorance of the Japanese language at least for the initial approaches or just keep the use of Japanese to basic conversational minimums, phrases and such? It also sounds from your hints that finding a local ex-pat wingman increases the odds and minimize cockblocking.
hmm.. lemme think about how to phrase this...
how you use language in japan will affect the "power" dynamic between yourself and a girl. two important things to remember is a) they will assume you speak very little japanese and b) they will feel bad about not being able to speak english. it's weird, but it's consistently the case, and as a result your value is higher because you speakum english and she doesnt. you'll hear them say "well, i should be better at english, im sorry." even though you're in japan. either way, keep the conversation "based on" english, but make it seem like you're interested in learning the language. it'll be like a little game and theyll get a big kick out of it and it'll make it seem like you're interested in the country while (again) appealing to their mothering instinct.
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Now, ironically, Brazil has the highest population of Japanese immigrants in the world, especially Sao Paulo - go figure.
yeah, and they can get a visa to come back to japan to work pretty easily, and the women are (in my opinion) some of the hottest on the planet cuz of the combination of looks and attitude. a lot of them work as strippers in roppongi.
another comment on wingmen/drinking in general in japan -- when i got out of the military and moved to tokyo (with nothing) id hit the town by myself, and i came up with a pretty good system. the bars in the hotzones dont really get poppin until pretty late, so id show up at like 9 and id sidle up to the bar and start drinking my usual vodka and tonics. since there was no one else there id usually strike up a conversation with the bartender (usually an expat like me) about this or that, and when i got my drink i'd be sure to tip. this is huge because there is no expectation to tip in japan. so now the bartender likes you and starts hookin up your drinks strong like. i like getting fucked up and japan is expensive so this was nice and now you're "friends" with the staff and almost get instant "regular" status. this will require not being a douchebag of course. just sit there and chill and remain lowkey. here's why:
ive heard lotsa expat bartenders talk about (and seen it with my own eyes) their "fans". packs of chicks who like them. anyway, befriending a bartender will get you access to their fans -- remember what i said in my previous post about your success rate skyrocketing if you have an "in"? for the cost of a couple tips, you'll be introduced all night to packs of chicks.
the staff will bring chicks over and sit them next to you and introduce you to them all night long, and the girls wont see you as a threat. i was shocked at how this consistently played out every time i used this going-out tactic.
getting "adopted" by groups is one of the best ways to make boozing friends, get a "crew", and meet chicks. it seemed like whenever i went out by myself id end up being absorbed by a group of europeans, chicks, etc, and it was always a blast full of weird side adventures, and im not even particularly extroverted.