[el duderino]

In the years since graduating from HS, I have made it a kind of game to circle back and bang my exes about a year after we parted ways. Anyone else have any experience with this? I have been successful on each attempt. In one instance she was seeing some other guy at the time as well. He was still in the taking her on dates and showering her with flowers. All the while we were banging.

Depending on how you left the relationship it can make for some low hanging fruit. I found it beneficial in keeping confidence levels high while pursuing other girls. Thoughts?

[Albertron]

Happens all the time.

Toughest part is separating the emotional history from the bangs. Even if you both agree that it's just a booty call, it's almost always more than that, especially for the girl.

I guess one way to keep emotions off the table is to occasionally let her know that it's nothing more than sex, and also how you actually tell her that this is the case.

Sex always makes shit complicated with an ex. At least that's been my experience.

[el duderino]

Agreed. I had one where she started getting attached again but was able to sidestep it thankfully. As you said though making sure to prevent any sort of messy stuff like that happening is key. You dont want her crapping on your other projects.

There was one that cheated at the end of our relationship. Bout a year later she got the caveman treatment in the most aggressive manner i could give...and she loved it.

[Onto]

I've done it, but have always regretted it, because as you know, they expect more and it's like having to break up all over again.

I've come to realize, for me, that it's a regressive move on my part to go back to an ex, when I should be focusing my energies on new adventures.

[Barron]

I've been considering this.. brokeup with chick at end of 2011 (5yr relationship). Haven't spoken to her in over a year, how do you normally restart the conversation with your ex after not talking to her for so long?

[The Beast1]

Meh, banging exes is an interesting thing. I'd say avoid it for the most part. Uncomfortable can of worms.

My exes though are much happier being around me at the 1 year + mark. At that point, they've hopefully moved on. You can just approach her normally at that point.

I've left most of my exes hating me though. :/ oh well, lifer goes on.

[Millz]

Wait for a year or so and then you can go back without her feeling the same way she did before.. I've done it recently and the chick has a bf she has been with for two years

[el duderino]

Millz, a year is roughly what does seem to be a good timeframe. Did you notice that they were more into it and more more giving and submissive? That was generally my experience.

[Akula]

(08-19-2013 03:02 PM)el duderino Wrote:  

Agreed. I had one where she started getting attached again but was able to sidestep it thankfully. As you said though making sure to prevent any sort of messy stuff like that happening is key. You dont want her crapping on your other projects.

There was one that cheated at the end of our relationship. Bout a year later she got the caveman treatment in the most aggressive manner i could give...and she loved it.

Yeah I think you need to just be clear it's just sex or a fling etc. nothing more and you parted ways for a reason awhile ago.

Re the one who 'cheated' by that I assume you meant that she b@nged some other dude but to be fair the entire time you had your 'relationship' you were playing the field and had a harem? Or was this an exclusive relationship?

[el duderino]

Millz, a year is roughly what does seem to be a good timeframe. Did you notice that they were more into it and more more giving and submissive? That was generally my experience.

[el duderino]

Akula, yeah it was an exclusive relationship by definition. While i never technically cheated i was still out getting numbers and keeping different girls warmed and ready for whenever i eventually dumped her. I would have dumped her sooner but the sex was damn good and i was having a good time.

Keeping other irons hot played out well in the end. The day i dumped her i packed up my stuff, drove home and had another girl over that same night.

[Millz]

(08-22-2013 07:13 AM)el duderino Wrote:  

Millz, a year is roughly what does seem to be a good timeframe. Did you notice that they were more into it and more more giving and submissive? That was generally my experience.

Yeah she really wanted to impress me and listened to everything I had to say even more so than when I was with her..

[MidWest]

There is nothing more satisfying than to see an ex stare you down or become jealous of you when she sees you with another girl who is equal or better than her in attractiveness. I dont know what it is but I love the reaction my exes get when they see me with someone cuter than them. It almost guarantees that you can have your ex as a sidepiece.

Thats been my experience anyway.

[Wargasm]

Sometimes I feel like the smoldering emotional connection is half the fun in banging an ex.

Sure its fun to bang new girls, but something about banging a girl that already knows you and knows she probably shouldn't does something special for the ego.

[Suits]

If she broke up with you, she thinks that you are not good enough for her.

If you broke up with her, her biology still considers you a prospect.


Since you've already banged plenty, it is a low challenge bang if you have a quiet weekend to fill.

But it doesn't encourage you to forge ahead as a man.

And, unless she broke up with you (in which case she is less likely to want to bang), there is a reason why you broke up in the first place....you wanted other option.

Go seek them out.

[Beyond Borders]

I'll say that it's a mistake worth making.

Every man has to walk this learning curve by himself.

[FrenchCanadian]

meh delete

[Frontenac]

My stance on banging ex's comes down to one of two scenarios: A). I'm in a dry spell; B). I'm going to game them, get their hopes up, then take off.

I've done the first once, but yet to do the second. I think a man's always better off moving on.

[FrenchCanadian]

i say...