For the men who are interested in LTR's, like myself, the challenge of changing a women's behavior can be a lifelong struggle.
Here is what I've found that often works very well, in some situations.
First off, never fault a women for her bad behavior. This will get you nowhere's. Why try to use reason and logic with a gender who is so firmly opposed to it and quite frankly not very capable of it?
If you fault her, she will:
1) Get defensive.
2) Try to rationalize why she is in the right.
2) After convincing herself she is in the right, attempt to fault you for faulting her.
Why go there when there is a much more effective solution.
This solution is for situations where you can "role model" her behavior. For situations where you can't, there is another method, but it's kind of dangerous and if not done to the "T" can lead to very undeseriable effects.
Let's say a woman is exhibiting a behavior that is driving you nuts. What you must do instead of faulting her is "role model" her behavior by doing exactly what she is doing to you, to her.
Of course, you don't let her know you are doing this for the express purpose of showing her what it feels like, but she "Will" feel it, and that's the only way women can "know".....through "feeling"
After you start role modeling her behavior she'll approach you about it. Your response at that point:
1) Act a little surprised and say innocently, "Oh, I'm sorry I didn't know this wasn't ok, I thought it was because a couple weeks ago you were doing.....".
2) Don't say anything else. This is the most important step. You must let her think about what you said. Too many times you will fuck this manuever up because she may be silent for a long time while thinking. Do not break the silence because during this moment is when she is "learning". If you break the silence you will be letting her off the hook.
3) After the silence she may respond in a few different ways.
* Either she will say she doesn't want you doing that and she won't either. If this happens, great, you won, agree and drop the subject.
* She may instead say that it's ok for you to keep on doing the behavior. She will say this because she doensn't want to stop herself. If that happens then say ok, and just keep on role modeling. The subject will come up again in the near future, if it doesn't then you may want to consider dumping her.
* Another reaction is she may want to delve more deeply into the subject, which at that point you can say, well, if you want us to both stop doing this behavior I'm ok with that. She will either agree or want to keep doing the behavior, in which case, more role modeling.
So, if she wants to vacation alone with her friends, you do the same. She wants to have guy friends, get yourself some girlfriends. She wants to relativize you by mentioning other guys, you do the same with other girls. She want's to be glued to her iPhone you do the same at moment's she want's your attention.
The most important thing to remember is to never fault her, because when you do you are trying to use the tools of the masculine (logic, reason) on the feminine who's tools are (feeling, experience, intuition).
Simply put you must fight fire with fire.
In college I had a friend who was the star football player, super-handsome, charasmatic, etc. Every girl wanted him and he was natuarlly in love and in a realtionship with the most beautiful girl on campus. He proposed, she hemmed and hawed and said that she wasn't sure and the she wanted to date some other guys just to be sure he was the one. Naturally he was devastated, so he took his revenge and banged her roomate, the girls who lived on her floor, her friends. Eventually word got back to her and she rushed up to him and said, "Listen, I don't need to date other guys, let's get married"
You want to keep a woman in line, be a good role model.
Here is what I've found that often works very well, in some situations.
First off, never fault a women for her bad behavior. This will get you nowhere's. Why try to use reason and logic with a gender who is so firmly opposed to it and quite frankly not very capable of it?
If you fault her, she will:
1) Get defensive.
2) Try to rationalize why she is in the right.
2) After convincing herself she is in the right, attempt to fault you for faulting her.
Why go there when there is a much more effective solution.
This solution is for situations where you can "role model" her behavior. For situations where you can't, there is another method, but it's kind of dangerous and if not done to the "T" can lead to very undeseriable effects.
Let's say a woman is exhibiting a behavior that is driving you nuts. What you must do instead of faulting her is "role model" her behavior by doing exactly what she is doing to you, to her.
Of course, you don't let her know you are doing this for the express purpose of showing her what it feels like, but she "Will" feel it, and that's the only way women can "know".....through "feeling"
After you start role modeling her behavior she'll approach you about it. Your response at that point:
1) Act a little surprised and say innocently, "Oh, I'm sorry I didn't know this wasn't ok, I thought it was because a couple weeks ago you were doing.....".
2) Don't say anything else. This is the most important step. You must let her think about what you said. Too many times you will fuck this manuever up because she may be silent for a long time while thinking. Do not break the silence because during this moment is when she is "learning". If you break the silence you will be letting her off the hook.
3) After the silence she may respond in a few different ways.
* Either she will say she doesn't want you doing that and she won't either. If this happens, great, you won, agree and drop the subject.
* She may instead say that it's ok for you to keep on doing the behavior. She will say this because she doensn't want to stop herself. If that happens then say ok, and just keep on role modeling. The subject will come up again in the near future, if it doesn't then you may want to consider dumping her.
* Another reaction is she may want to delve more deeply into the subject, which at that point you can say, well, if you want us to both stop doing this behavior I'm ok with that. She will either agree or want to keep doing the behavior, in which case, more role modeling.
So, if she wants to vacation alone with her friends, you do the same. She wants to have guy friends, get yourself some girlfriends. She wants to relativize you by mentioning other guys, you do the same with other girls. She want's to be glued to her iPhone you do the same at moment's she want's your attention.
The most important thing to remember is to never fault her, because when you do you are trying to use the tools of the masculine (logic, reason) on the feminine who's tools are (feeling, experience, intuition).
Simply put you must fight fire with fire.
In college I had a friend who was the star football player, super-handsome, charasmatic, etc. Every girl wanted him and he was natuarlly in love and in a realtionship with the most beautiful girl on campus. He proposed, she hemmed and hawed and said that she wasn't sure and the she wanted to date some other guys just to be sure he was the one. Naturally he was devastated, so he took his revenge and banged her roomate, the girls who lived on her floor, her friends. Eventually word got back to her and she rushed up to him and said, "Listen, I don't need to date other guys, let's get married"
You want to keep a woman in line, be a good role model.