..along with a concert ticket to an upcoming show at the end of the year randomly the other day. I've warned her before of not speaking to exes and I know that it is him who is initiating the contact.
When I found out, instead of playing it cool, I reacted badly and went on a tirade about her not willing to trash the gifts. It went back-and-forth on the phone for a while and she pulled numerous stunts including the crying.
I realized I lost hand immediately after my negative reaction (stupid beta tendencies..) so all day today I've been on radio silence mode. She has already texted me twice asking if I was okay and called numerous times while leaving two voicemails. I plan on not speaking with her tomorrow either.
I would prefer to keep her around as she is reliable and does what she needs to please me except during this situation. But in the end, I'm willing to lose her if she doesn't comply to my demands.
What should be the next key moves in this in order to regain my position? Is this betrayal of hers a relationship killer? She has already shown weakness due to my threats of leaving (being unresponsive) so the level is shifting back to my side. Would it be positive to guilt trip her for making a foolish choice not to trash the items and ultimately disrespecting me?
What I want to get out of this is to ensure that she works even harder to please me in the future).
When I found out, instead of playing it cool, I reacted badly and went on a tirade about her not willing to trash the gifts. It went back-and-forth on the phone for a while and she pulled numerous stunts including the crying.
I realized I lost hand immediately after my negative reaction (stupid beta tendencies..) so all day today I've been on radio silence mode. She has already texted me twice asking if I was okay and called numerous times while leaving two voicemails. I plan on not speaking with her tomorrow either.
I would prefer to keep her around as she is reliable and does what she needs to please me except during this situation. But in the end, I'm willing to lose her if she doesn't comply to my demands.
What should be the next key moves in this in order to regain my position? Is this betrayal of hers a relationship killer? She has already shown weakness due to my threats of leaving (being unresponsive) so the level is shifting back to my side. Would it be positive to guilt trip her for making a foolish choice not to trash the items and ultimately disrespecting me?
What I want to get out of this is to ensure that she works even harder to please me in the future).