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Need advice from the manosphere
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Need advice from the manosphere

So in the past six months a lot has went down in my life, and I need some advice from the forum. Here is a "brief" synopsis of what has transpired:

- After years of getting laid more than the average guy, but due to my own naïveté, I was always being mistreated, abused, and not given the respect that any human should deserve; I discovered the manosphere.

- Embraced more strategic game tactics within my relationships. Immediately received positive feedback for my efforts, but also received more of the bullshit that comes with greater exposure to the American female.

- Developed a program to teach myself how to sing. I have played guitar for close to 7000 hours, but never concerned myself with vocals. Realizing there was a need to no longer rely on other guys, in order to get my guitar playing in bars, I felt this was a necessity. It has helped, and although I am not quite where I want be yet, definite improvement has occurred.

- Two relatively close friends died, this after in the past six years, four of my closest friends since childhood had kicked it. Completely tragic for me, but this has taught me to embrace life, and please excuse the cliche, but to ensure that I live like there is no tomorrow, because there really isn't.

- Cut back on the amount of herb I was smoking, and quit buying all together. There is a time and a place for everything, but I am thirty-one years old now, and I smoked enough during my twenties that any potential offspring I may produce should have a decent contact high.

- After I cut the ganja out of my life, immediately started making decisions I would have considered irresponsible during my days as a smoker. They had to happen, ganja just makes complacency a logical decision.

- Purchased a PRS Carlos Santana USA Signature model. I taught myself to play on acoustics, and have always wanted a quality electric to teach myself in that regard. They really are almost two completely different endeavors. This might not seem important to non-guitarists, but for those who play, you might understand what a momentous leap forward this is.

- Quit my dead-end job as a paralegal. Had this job since I graduated college, except for a year hiatus, when I followed a girl I was in love with to the Caribbean to support her in her career as a biologist (She eventually left me with no warning, just a five minute phone call). The job was easy, but sucked ass due to the lack of respect, and low pay.

- Lined up a shitty job, but one for more pay in sales. It starts in ten days.

- Offered opportunity to go to Vietnam, and work at this small resort of beach cabanas as a counselor for people with problems of all sorts. Almost non-existent pay, but I went to Vietnam for a wedding last year, and loved the atmosphere and the treatment I received from not just the women, but people in general. Friendliest culture I have ever encountered, and being an American with reasonably handsome looks, and strong natural game was enough to get me laid every other day with locals and European tourists. This was prior to manosphere discovery, and the adaptation of principled game tactics in to my lexicon. Vietnamese women are not the type that I would want to game, but Euro tourists are extremely easy for Americans if played right outside of Europe, and I feel this could be exploited to the nth degree with knowledge of game.

- Upon hearing of this opportunity for myself, my cousin offered a position at his reputable IT consulting company as a loan reviewer. This would be about 70k a year, and a huge step up for me career wise. My education is in history, and I made about 30k at my previous job as a paralegal. For someone with that background, this opportunity might not be something I would want to pass up as you never know when an opportunity like this would arise again, much less ever. This would lead more to the path of eventually falling for some succubus here in the States, so I am very hesitant. I don't know if I have the fortitude to keep dealing with the bullshit that gaming American chics entails, and believe it would be possible for me to be fooled by some chic for long enough for her to take me for all I'm worth. Nothing is guaranteed with this job, though I'm pretty confident that nepotism has this in the bag.

So the question is, what move do I make? Take the responsible career path, and keep wading through the mud of fat, grotesquese Americunts, or give up everything and move to pussy paradise and prolong my adolescence. In Vietnam, I could terrorize Euro Sluts, and most likely meet a Vietnamese girl who would be beautiful and loyal if I were to want to settle down. Honestly, that is appealing for myself. As an ex-pothead, it should be obvious that I like to relax, and with the current generation of Americunts, that realistically would not be possible in this day and age. Sadly, with my bachelor's in History, a choice career move is not something that I can really ignore, and being young and single with 70k a year coming at me, I could live pretty large. I realize though that after long enough of living within my means while making that dough, that soon enough it would be just enough to make ends meet. So I have come to the least reputable place I know to ask of your opinion. If you could provide some feedback, it might help make my decision. Personally, I am leaning towards the Nam, but maybe the manosphere will answer back with the rational move. I would have to consider that. You have my gratitude, cheers.
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Need advice from the manosphere

Is there a deadline for notifying your cousin if you will take the job? If he can give you a couple months to decide then move to Nam and try it out. You'll still have options.
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First off, I love your taste in electric guitars. PRS's are sweet. I play a les paul standard myself.

Going to Vietnam will probably be awesome but the question is this: do you want to start making professional and financial inroads into your life or do you want to play around?

Be honest with yourself. The best piece of advice that anyone every gave me was "if you have to convince yourself that you like something, then you don't like it."

This mentality is helpful with just about everything, but when it comes to that big question of career and money it really isn't. That's because most people who are financially successful don't do glamorous things. I know a lot of rich guys who love their Porsches and beach houses, but they see what they do for the $ as a means to an end. Life's a trade off for most people. Finding something that's a little boring but has financial upside, or at least potential financial upside, can offset the discomfort that comes from the idea of closing the chapter on your adolescence and becoming a cubicle monkey.

All means to ends start somewhere. 70K a year with no dependents isn't hardcore killing it, but it allows you to live comfortably, and save a little dough that you can use in a few years to launch some sort of business, invest, or just have as a cushion that gives you peace of mind.

You can also save enough to take a bitchin 3-4 week trip somewhere every year or so and get it out of your system.

Krauser had a good article about the different phases of a mans life. He calls the 20s-30s the time of the typical accumulation phase - getting a degree, getting yourself setup to make $, etc.

What you've come to realize is that you're far behind in the game of accumulation and you're not sure whether to dive in to the best professional opportunity in front of you right now in light of that realization (despite it not being an exciting one), or to keep on partying and postpone accumulation.

Keep this in mind: the memories of partying fade away. The feeling of achieving something after lots of hard work does not.
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I get what you are saying, good stuff to think about. Thing is I would probably party more in St. Louis. Sadly, I am not much for alcohol, and I believe I would be able to keep my wits about me through the fog of international living. 70k is a ton of jack here in St. Louis. Probably be equivalent to 125 or 150 in LA, SF, or NYC. The bass fishing, hunting, local culture, and food are outstanding here, but the women are heinous. The good ones are twenty pounds overweight, and after twenty-five you are lucky if they have only one child. I kind of believe to find a decent woman, that sadly I will have to leave. I can get laid here, decently well. If I did ten approaches a week, probably more so, but there really isn't that big of a singles crop here. All of the decent catches were locked up in high school or shortly thereafter. With the right career opportunity, and further expansion of my social circle, that might change. If I am offered the position, I probably will have to stay just out of regards for my future. Money doesn't buy happiness though. That comes from Santana model PRS's. You could afford that cutting grass with enough gumption. Will just have to gun on the fact, that Asia will be there ten years from now. Thanks for the opinion.
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No prob man. Money definitely doesn't buy happiness, but i'd rather be unhappy with money than unhappy without money.
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That Krauser article is great. Rarely read his blog once every 3 months or so since I no longer read many game blogs.

Basically you need to choose what life you want to live in the future.

Money may not buy happiness, but I'll take my chances fucking chances - gselevator

(Note: when people say money doesn't buy happiness jot down how successful they at win life. In addition, for the rich and unhappy, jot down the income bracket they came from, generally rich + unhappy = had high income upbringing so their expectations of wealth were set far too high).
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#7

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Move to Vietnam and do the loan job by telecommuting.
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#8

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ppl saying money doesnt make you happy are lying. of course if you are filthy rich but work all the time you will be miserable, unless you love your job.
but a shitload of money PLUS free time to enjoy it? fuck yeah that would make me happy. like today I was just chiling out with a buddy, riding my bike, hitting the gym, working on my tan, taking a nap and reading a shadowrun novel. basically the perfect day but then in the evening I actually have to sit down and get some work done. now if I was rich I could just bum around all day and would be happy as fuck.
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Quote: (07-09-2013 05:56 PM)JimNortonFan Wrote:  

Move to Vietnam and do the loan job by telecommuting.

This.

But don't mention it up front.

Put in a year or two at the office. Learn the trade.

Build strong relationships. You can only do that with face time.

Get yourself in a role that is suited for telecommuting. Try it when the situation allows. Demonstrate that it works.

I don't mean traveling. Just work from home once in a while instead of driving to the office.

After all that - once the company has invested in you and you're performing - then you pitch that you want to be location independent.

If they can't do it, quietly start looking for a new employer that will.
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