Placating the one-night stand so I can bang her friend in a different country
07-03-2013, 04:17 AM
BACKGROUND
I live abroad in Europe. I had a one night stand with a girl I met at a house party while back in America visiting my family. She kicked me out of her place into a taxi early the following morning.
6 months letter I got a facebook message out of the blue from her saying that she was in my European city for a few nights. I met up with her and her friends for drinks. She had a European friend who's place she was crashing at. This Euro friend was hot and I spent a good deal of time talking with her. I felt there was a connection to follow-up on after the American girl left. At the end of the night, I took the American girl back to my place.
A few weeks later, I went back to America for a short trip. I didn't have a desire to see the American girl again, so I didn't let her know I was in town.
Now, back in Europe, I texted the Euro friend to hang out in a group outing situation with the intention of trying to hook up with her. She responded positively, and we're meeting up in a few days.
The Euro girl obviously told the American girl we are going to hang, because I got a facebook friend request shortly after from the American girl. I didn't want her to poison the well with the Euro girl, so I accepted the friend request.
The American girl scrolled my facebook page and discovered I'd been back to America recently. She sent me the following message on FB mixed in with some angry and sad faced emoticons:
"I was going to give you a big virtual hug for inviting [Euro girl] out. Then I find you were visiting [America] and didn't reach out? Lame! Better make up for it next time!"
GAME QUESTIONS:
1. How should i respond to the American girl so that she feels like I'm not pumping/dumping her and won't talk shit to her friend.
2. When I hang with the Euro girl, how should I frame my relationship with her American friend so as not to denigrate the American but still make it clear that we (Euro girl and I) can hook up?
Relevant sidenote:
On the walk home from drinks with her friends, the American girl asked me to find the Euro girl a man to date, even saying that it would be cool if I dated the Euro girl. I think this was a shit test, which I side-stepped by not answering and instead asking if the Euro girl has been unlucky in love. Apparently, Euro girl has a history of choosing guys that are "bad for her".
I live abroad in Europe. I had a one night stand with a girl I met at a house party while back in America visiting my family. She kicked me out of her place into a taxi early the following morning.
6 months letter I got a facebook message out of the blue from her saying that she was in my European city for a few nights. I met up with her and her friends for drinks. She had a European friend who's place she was crashing at. This Euro friend was hot and I spent a good deal of time talking with her. I felt there was a connection to follow-up on after the American girl left. At the end of the night, I took the American girl back to my place.
A few weeks later, I went back to America for a short trip. I didn't have a desire to see the American girl again, so I didn't let her know I was in town.
Now, back in Europe, I texted the Euro friend to hang out in a group outing situation with the intention of trying to hook up with her. She responded positively, and we're meeting up in a few days.
The Euro girl obviously told the American girl we are going to hang, because I got a facebook friend request shortly after from the American girl. I didn't want her to poison the well with the Euro girl, so I accepted the friend request.
The American girl scrolled my facebook page and discovered I'd been back to America recently. She sent me the following message on FB mixed in with some angry and sad faced emoticons:
"I was going to give you a big virtual hug for inviting [Euro girl] out. Then I find you were visiting [America] and didn't reach out? Lame! Better make up for it next time!"
GAME QUESTIONS:
1. How should i respond to the American girl so that she feels like I'm not pumping/dumping her and won't talk shit to her friend.
2. When I hang with the Euro girl, how should I frame my relationship with her American friend so as not to denigrate the American but still make it clear that we (Euro girl and I) can hook up?
Relevant sidenote:
On the walk home from drinks with her friends, the American girl asked me to find the Euro girl a man to date, even saying that it would be cool if I dated the Euro girl. I think this was a shit test, which I side-stepped by not answering and instead asking if the Euro girl has been unlucky in love. Apparently, Euro girl has a history of choosing guys that are "bad for her".