[chexmix]

So I recently came out of a 3 year LTR. It wasn't all bad, we were picking up other girls as a couple and had a few college age girls on our roster. It was good for a majority of the relationship.

Now the part it went south is where I exited my countries military. Within a period of 3 or 4 months following that, I had moved to a new location, had a cancer scare (I'm still waiting on results) and to end it, became single.

So it's been 2 months since being single and I'm just starting to get back into the groove of things. I have difficulty with working out due to previous injuries from military service and whatever the fuck is causing my doctors to think I may have cancer or some other disease. Beyond that, I'm slowly trying to get better than I was before. Adapting a better style of clothing, developing game better attuned to the locals in my new area, and so on. I've simply become rusty as hell because I was getting sex so easy. If I felt tired, my ex could go on tinder and convince a cute little 19 year old psychology student to come over.

So my question for the other members are what you've done when you've broken off a LTR and need to get back into the game? I'm sure I am forgetting something I need to work on. I got laid this past week and it was the moral boost I needed to start pushing myself to chase again.

[John_Galt]

Just start approaching again.

Game is like riding bicycle. You may get a little out of practice, but you never "forget" how to ride the bike.

[Rhyme or Reason]

Just force yourself back into social situations, start small and work your way up. Yeah you will stumble and have some uncomfortable approaches. It doesn't matter. You will fight through that, and after some practice you will be back firing on all cylinders. Just don't give up. don't allow complacency to set in and you will be fine.

[Celestial]

Start simple. Checkout meetup.com and see if there are meet-ups for happy hours in your city, this will get you talking to people again in a social setting, and can be good for getting girls, especially if it's one that works with hostels and can get tourist girls.

Otherwise start approaching again, that's the main thing. If you scale up your number of approaches in the coming weeks and the bangs starting rolling in, you'll quickly forget your LTR and your game will get better. Add in a few meet-ups for happy hours, pick-up sports, etc. in the beginning to make the transition easier, but that's pretty much it.

[fiasco360]

Make sure your health is in check. Stay active to a degree through things like walking, yoga, swimming etc. It will help you not only physically but mentally.

Second, are you able to talk to some friends and hang out with them? This helps immensely. If not it's okay, but it is definitely good to have a support system.

Just start interacting with people more on a day to day basis, find excuses to ask questions, then continue conversations and see where you can steer them.

My general system has always been -> out of long term LTR -> talk to friends and hang out with them (especially the ones who are players) -> become more socially active not only by talking to strangers but also joining social groups -> get involved in different communities -> work on my long term and short term goals etc.

Then you will notice this all blends together and you are "back in the game" in no time.

[LeoneVolpe]

Here's my two cents:

Game is like a muscle, it takes a long time to build up and can quickly atrophy if it isn't used. Some may disagree with me on this, but I think it's important to continue running game even whilst in a relationship. Why? Because the best time to prepare for war is during peacetime. Sure things are going well for you and your girl now, but things can change on a dime. If you haven't flirted with another girl in weeks, months, or God forbid years, you'll find yourself having a lot harder time trying to shake off the rust.

I'm not saying you have to cheat (nor am I saying not to), I'm simply saying it's important to keep your skills sharp. This will most likely have a paradoxically positive effect on your relationship. Subconsciously, your girl will pick up on the fact other girls are still interested in you (they seem to be able to sniff this out) and will be less likely to pull shit. After all, it's a well known psychological phenomenon that people are more motivated by a fear of loss than a potential for gain. In other words, if she's worried about losing you to another female, she's less likely to be interested in trying to get another guy. Her feminine territorial instincts will kick in, and that's good for you.

Working out is of the utmost importance. If you're in a relationship, it sends a signal to your significant other you're not interested in letting yourself go, which in of itself accomplishes two things:

1.) Prompts her to maintain her own appearance, so as not to become less appealing to you by gaining ten-to-fifteen pounds once you two are "comfortable" with one another. Girls typically want to feel like the "pretty" one in the relationship, and won't want to be outshined physically by their man.

2.) Subtly (or maybe not so subtly) indicates your interest in maintaining your physical appeal for other women.

If you've recently gone through a break up, working out is a great morale booster. How you feel physically directly ties in to how you feel mentally. Appearance is ideology. Why else do you think all the biggest most miserable feminist cunts are all fat and gross? Joining a gym might even provide opportunities to meet other health-conscious people, girls to game and guys to hang out with. Both good things.

Talk to everyone! I don't care if it's at the grocery store, coffee shop, bookstore or wherever. You don't have to be friends with everyone, mind you. You just have to get back into the habit of exercising your social apparatus.

Longterm relationships have a way of "domesticating" men. I'm not saying all men backslide to beta once in relationships, although that certainly can happen. Even alphas have a tendency to soften their edges around their main girl. You'll need to lose that softness quick once you re-enter the sexual marketplace. Be bold!

As Machiavelli once said:

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"For my part I consider that it is better to be adventurous than cautious, because fortune is a woman, and if you wish to keep her under it is necessary to beat and ill-use her; and it is seen that she allows herself to be mastered by the adventurous rather than by those who go to work more coldly. She is, therefore, always, woman-like, a lover of young men, because they are less cautious, more violent, and with more audacity command her."

Now I'm not advocating actually beating a woman, of course. But don't be timid in your interactions with women, either. As most, if not all, RVF'ers know -- women love strength and being dominated by a confident man. In situations you feel fearful, you must act the opposite. Transmutate the fear into boldness and make your move. I've done this many times and have been pleasantly surprised by what I've been able to achieve in those circumstances. Initially, you'll have to "fake it 'til you make it" but eventually taking bold action and calculated risks will come second nature to you, especially once you start reaping the rewards from such behavior. Nothing in the world breeds success like success, it truly feeds on itself.