Quote: (03-11-2019 06:25 PM)Anchor Man Wrote:
Quick question:
I had a girl from tinder directly to my place one time before . After a glass of wine, a little chat and kissing , she said “ what do you want from me “ in playful manner .
I replied : I want to fuck you.
Me thinking this is a direct and confident way instead of hiding my intentions .
Is good reply or way too forward ?
I ended fucking anyways , but if it worked one time , doesn’t it will work every time
IT really depends on the girl but something I learned when I really shifted my focus from "meeting women" to actually getting laid is this mentality.
"Most girls will forgive you for being too aggressive or direct but will not forgive you for being a pussy"
I can recall throughout my life that when I had opportunities with girls and didn't take action, I either never saw the girl again or her attraction dropped drastically.
Now I think a lot of this can be conveyed in your body language, how you carry your self, speaking in a seductive tone, charm, having a good physical body etc, but when all else fails doesn't hurt to go direct. Now, will you lose some girls sure of course, but it depends on the girls, her culture, her norms, fear of being judged etc.
I've found that most girls actually want to get fucked and will fuck faster than our timeline, but she needs to know your the kind of guy who can fuck her and be cool about it. Girls have categories they put guys in.
When it comes to things like tinder I'd much rather be in the guy who fucks category IE: player/sleazebag then the "maybe" category and have to jump through all the hoops and test because she is "unsure" about you.
Nothing wrong with raising a girls interest but I've hooked up with more girls on the first night then having to go on multiple dates simply because I have the vibe of a guy who gets laid and knows how to handle women+striking when the iron is hot.
Just put yourself in positions to fuck - No pun intended!
Quote: (03-23-2019 10:24 PM)floridaboiii Wrote:
My ex and i broke up close to a month ago so ive been going out more but Damnnnnnnnnnn I am going through a serious rough patch in the country that I'm in. I cannot wait to get over to Argentina (even though thats supposed to be gaming on hard mode). I have been trying to switch up my game just to see what works but i cant find a formula. The most frustrating thing is the amount of girls showing interest then flaking...
Hopefully yall have some idea of what im doing wrong...
I had a little petite chick ask me to take a picture. Take a pic and we start talking. We start dancing and making out. Get her number. First thing she sends is the heart emoji and that she loves me (normal here). I tell her she can come with me and of course she says she needs to leave with her friends.
Texting her during the week to see when we are hanging out again. She says she doesnt have any time. I dont answer. I give it three days then say whats up and she doesnt respond.... deleted her number.
This is a girl who said and i quote "sos un sueno," (youre a dream)...
While im dancing on the chick above i see another girl standing solo and kinda side eyeing whats going on. I stand next to her and eventually say whats up. I grab her number quick and go back to the other girl. This new girl texts me a little and tells me she lives by herself(good sign in the country im in). I comment on some of her pictures shes posting and she just gives me smileys. Im not patient so i ask her when i can come over. No answer. Deleted her number (longshot anyways).
Theres this woman whos number i delete almost every month... its been like four or five months. Out of nowhere she will text me hey. I always try to schedule a meetup and she always flakes. Not only does she flake but she just stops answering... last time she did that i told her that she could have just said she cant go. She apologized.
A few weeks later i see her popup in my facebook. I wait a while then accept. Ask her why she wants to follow me on IG FB but doesnt want to meet. "You live far." So once again delete and block. Bitch is retarded...
(The story above in this thread about the affair) I see a woman walking down the street after the night of dancing with the petite chick. She walks by mouth agape and we make eye contact. I keep walking but then im like what the fuck and run back. She tells me i can only text her M-F because shes married. She texts me the entire week and while we were supposed to meet up this weekend she flakes (has kids). This one i will keep in my phone and be patient with.
I keep walking and see another girl who grabbed me to dance in the club (a different one from the one above). She waves me over and im thinking hell yes i hit the jackpot. Anyways im walking all around with these fuckers and finally we sit down. The girl turns and makes out w me. I ask her where shes going and tell her to come with me. She says she needs to go with her friends of course... lol. I tell her she didnt even get my number, try to give it to her then she leaves. All that for my dick in my hand... also she never texted me.
Next night im out and im just not feeling it after the unsuccessful night before. Im sure people can pick up on it. Anyways i walk in and normally eyes turn towards me but im feeling nothing... eventually some fat chicks come up and im like what the hell. I start dancing and having fun and i feel at least 10 chicks turn and start eyeing me. So of course now i gotta go talk to them.
I start approaching and get shut down by every single fucking one lol. My approaching style isnt even anything crazy i will go up and shake their hand and ask what their name is... this one bitch i go up to turns her face away (probably the most vicious rejection ive gotten in PY). The funniest part is i went up to this girl to ask about her friend lol. I turn to the friend and tell her that i wanted to ask her friend about her and she is like, "seriously?" The friend is nice but says shes not interested or had a bf? I cant remember. Then a dude comes over and tells me the girls dont want to talk to me lol. I look at this dude like hes crazy (all im doing is standing next to the girls). He tries to dap me up and say theres no problem, i shoo him away. Its Amazing how insecure these nerds are here.
The final girl i cant remember how i approached. Anyways her friend is telling me shes really interested but the girl just doesnt seem at all interested. I dont remember taking a picture but we did. I got her number before i left. She texts me a couple days later and sends the pictures we took. Standard how are you blah blah blah... Delete her number.
The weekend before a girl saw me chilling by myself and she says lets go get you a girl. So i meet another girl we're grinding making out and she goes to leave to her hotel. Of course I try to go and you know what happens next... nothing. She gives me her number and asks if shes allowed to text me during the week. Im texting her and shes asking me why im texting her so much... so guess what... i delete her number.
While i was heading outside to meet the girl above i see a chick eyeing me on the sidewalk. I approach her and get her number and its back ro the other girl. I text this girl and she has invited me back to the club but barely texts me back past hi and how are you. Next time i will ask where shes at and try to hangout. Her number is deleted though.
One girl off tinder matched me. She tells me shes not sure why we stopped talking. We start talking again and she says next week i can come see her in her house. One day i text her saying whats up. She doesnt respond. Wait for her to invite me to her house ans of course she doesnt. Delete her number.
I know some of yall are reading this and thinking this dude is dumb why is he so impatient. I literally have a girl who has been texting me for 6 months but doesnt want to meet... i cant play with them anymore. Its also just a matter of me trying everything. Ive tried giving girls a lot of attention and they ask me why i text them so much. I had one girl i stopped texting and she told me she thought i didnt like her anymore. I had another who said, "you are malo!" (You are bad) after i stopped texting her. Feels like no matter what i am not doing the right thing.
At the end of the day all of this may just be logistics as i live almost two hours away from most of these girls and i have to try to get in their house or to a motel... but still these blowouts are killing me.
Ive been asking dudes from the country im in what im doing wrong snd they just say the girls are scared. Come on... thats ridiculous.
During rough patches what do you guys do to snap out of it? Are yall experiencing shit like this? I would rather get shut down 100 times then get these dumbass experiences im having... If you guys are wondering in about 6 months last year i hooked up with 15 or 16 chicks and maybe 1 or 2 new ones this year. Idk what changed.
Any tips about latina girls in latin America i need to hear? I kinda feel like the country im in is a weird outlier as well.
I haven't been in PY but I have experience with Latina women in Mexico. I dropped a report a few weeks back and I had pretty good success for the time there. However, the phone number ratio of women who eventually went cold, or never met up was crazy but I've chalked it up to Latina women and also the "curiosity factor. Not only in my game but also another brother and a few others have experienced the same thing.
Many examples are similar to yours. A girl is showing interest but then the meet up never happens. A lot of them are "intrigued" by a foreigner or just being the only black guy they may have seen aside from TV so they are caught up by the attention but then other factors start playing in. One thing you mentioned is logistics and I know before you had success but it can certainly play a factor in the ease of the lay.
My first 3 months in Mexico I got laid much more than when I was living further out. Logistics play an important key in getting laid no doubt. As for your situation just chalk it up to curiosity and exotic factor. Hell, I can recall plenty of women who were eyeing me up, checking me out body language all encouraging me to approach.
Then we exchange numbers, and then later she tells me she has a boyfriend and I don't want to cheat.<----Then why the hell are you giving me your number? Trying to test the market? It's true women will always have a backup guy lined up before they break up or step out on a relationship.
That said what's helped me the most is understanding female nature. Especially in Latin America where gender roles are more prevalent. The best advice I can give position yourself as a high-value male with limited time and keep her chasing your validation. Women live on attention and validation. Once she is satisfied with all your non-sexual attention she is less likely to give you her sexual attention, that or she already has someone for that.
Also in my case I eventually got burned out in my city and moving to a different area helped reignite my flame. I've been away for a few months so once I step back out there again I will be ready, but also I'm actually indifferent to putting in a ton of work to get chicks at the moment. These chicks gotta understand I ain't got time to be texting you all day just for you to be wasting my time.
When the girls shoot down or ignore your meetup I would either try back in a couple of weeks or wait for her to text back and say something along the line of "just hit me up or text me when your schedule clears and we'll go from there"
Depending on the girl if she straight up flakes or ignores my text after we planned a meetup I don't bother sending her a new text or asking her out again because it puts you in a position of chasing. I prefer to keep my texting limited and use it primarily for setting up dates.
Better yet I got good at setting up multiple dates and if the girl I really wanted shows up and things go well, I would be the one flaking on girls without a response. These girls don't give a damn when they have a better offer and just flake. As much as I enjoy the company of women I value my time with good company more.
The more you are texting back and forth with a woman, the easier it is to fuck it up or start lowering her interest. Best to be the mysterious exotic foreigner with limited time, then to be readily available. This is easier to do when you genuinely are busy and limited on time but shifting my attitude and the mentality has helped a ton to become indifferent either way.