Quote: (11-22-2016 05:23 PM)britchard Wrote:
Anyway, the situation is that she has an ultra-high anti-slut defense system and I just want some advice. She'll say stuff to the effect of 'I'd feel much more comfortable meeting up if I knew it wasn't just to have sex with you'. She definitely does want to meet up, and this is plausible as I actually know her and would have a catch up chat and a good laugh, it's not like a tinder chick saying it.
What I've said so far is the usual spiel of 'Of course I don't want to meet up just to have sex with you, I want to hang out and chat' which she lapped up. So do I continue along this vein then escalate in person, or do I need to make my intentions clear so that there isn't any awkward confusion when we do meet and I escalate?
I would've gone indirect, talk about sex without actually talking about it.
Girl's aren't stupid - she already knows the score she specifically said to you:
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'I'd feel much more comfortable meeting up if I knew it wasn't just to have sex with you'
Think about that for a second - she obviously already sees your intentions. She knows you're hollering at her to hook up - that's the reason her ASD shot up.
There isn't any awkward confusion at all.
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'Of course I don't want to meet up just to have sex with you, I want to hang out and chat'
Personally this was cringeworthy.
I would've went the humor route:
"Woah I barely know you and you're already thinking about sex ? You little pervert !"
"Woah hey now, I'm not just some hot piece of ass you can objectify!"
"Why is it that all girls think about is sex !"
"Sex ? With me ? A man would never think of that !"
"Woah woah, how about actually hanging and having fun before rushing to the bedroom, sheesh !"
I mean these are literally ones I just made up on the fly. Emphasizing with a haha or lol or funny emojis helps relay and negate the ridiculous of her statement. Also, reduces here ASD AND it makes her LAUGH !!
Just chill out, don't think about it to much.
To me this looks like a "Don't scare the cat and don't fuck up" scenario.
It's your primary goal to make her COMFORTABLE and care free.
Run your game, adjust accordingly during the date, keep her laughing, go do something over drinks that involves interaction and kino - bowling and pool and are my go tos.
Escalate, push and pul, see how she reacts - pay attention to her body language, eyes, and how she's playing with her hair.
You should find out pretty easily if she's receptive, shutting you down, or might need a date or 2 to crack the nut.