How would you guys play this?
I work with this bubbly Asian chick who pretty much digs my asshole game -- hovers around me a lot, initiates texts and emails on the regular, giggles at my rude comments, calls me by a special name, etc. She's okay but I am more interested in her office BFF, a shy, very feminine, very soft-mannered white girl of 26, slightly older than the Asian chick who is 23 (I am very much older than both, mid 30s).
I asked the white girl out a few times. She said yes the first time but then bailed and rescheduled at the last minute. I didn't like that and froze her out for a bit after. When I asked again, it was pure bad timing. She said she can't because her grandma was dying and she was distraught (it was true, grandma died a few weeks later, our office sent flowers). Later, while I was maintaining some distance, white girl reminded me that we were suppose to go on a date and asked what happened to that plan. I said I am not sold on her just yet and I would like to see more zest in her attitude first. She admitted she was being difficult and said she's just like that. One morning, I asked her to meet up with me at a subway station so we can go at the office together and chat on the way. She complied. I took that as a major IOI and asked her out for drinks again and framed it as her reward. She didn't respond to that invite. Zilch, nothing, no word at all. I froze her out again for doing that. It's been 3 weeks now and it doesn't look like she's gonna break.
So back to Asian girl, our dynamics is pretty much the same -- very flirty. She lost a bet against me and now she owes me a $300 pair of shoes. She makes very little money and $300 is big deal to her but I intend on collecting on my winnings and show white girl her office BFF is forking cash just to please me. They are very close, they go out a lot and I am sure they talk about me. Asian girl knows I like white girl more and she's kinda bummed about it but I guess bubbly is bubbly and shy is shy.
Any thoughts? Ideas? New angles?
I work with this bubbly Asian chick who pretty much digs my asshole game -- hovers around me a lot, initiates texts and emails on the regular, giggles at my rude comments, calls me by a special name, etc. She's okay but I am more interested in her office BFF, a shy, very feminine, very soft-mannered white girl of 26, slightly older than the Asian chick who is 23 (I am very much older than both, mid 30s).
I asked the white girl out a few times. She said yes the first time but then bailed and rescheduled at the last minute. I didn't like that and froze her out for a bit after. When I asked again, it was pure bad timing. She said she can't because her grandma was dying and she was distraught (it was true, grandma died a few weeks later, our office sent flowers). Later, while I was maintaining some distance, white girl reminded me that we were suppose to go on a date and asked what happened to that plan. I said I am not sold on her just yet and I would like to see more zest in her attitude first. She admitted she was being difficult and said she's just like that. One morning, I asked her to meet up with me at a subway station so we can go at the office together and chat on the way. She complied. I took that as a major IOI and asked her out for drinks again and framed it as her reward. She didn't respond to that invite. Zilch, nothing, no word at all. I froze her out again for doing that. It's been 3 weeks now and it doesn't look like she's gonna break.
So back to Asian girl, our dynamics is pretty much the same -- very flirty. She lost a bet against me and now she owes me a $300 pair of shoes. She makes very little money and $300 is big deal to her but I intend on collecting on my winnings and show white girl her office BFF is forking cash just to please me. They are very close, they go out a lot and I am sure they talk about me. Asian girl knows I like white girl more and she's kinda bummed about it but I guess bubbly is bubbly and shy is shy.
Any thoughts? Ideas? New angles?