Quote: (03-31-2013 06:10 PM)houston Wrote:
It can be hard not to be stereotyped right away if you're a minority or just a white guy that looks a certain way.
Don't appear in a way that's stereotypical of your race. If you have an accent, try and correct it.
I wouldn't be the first to say this, but if you're black and worried about girls writing you off as ghetto... don't go out in baggy jeans, timberlands and a flat billed hat with the sticker on it. If you're Hispanic, wearing a mustache and a plaid shirt might make you look like her gardener, while if you were white, it'd make you look like a hipster. You don't have to go all out Carleton
But a little bit is good.
Then again, there are black guys that do, and it works for them.
It also depends on the circumstances. If you're already pre-selected, say you're good friends with the people at a house party, and a girl sees that, you'll have more leeway. You approach her at a bar, she has none of that background info, so all she has is your appearance - your style, how you sound, your mannerisms, your grooming, your face, your body. The reality is, in America, if any of these things seem particularly ethnic, it's usually an indication of lower class. A Latina chick with a thick Chicano accent didn't grow up in high society, same for a black dude who speaks only Ebonics, a Jewish girl that sounds like Fran Drescher, a guido that sounds like Snooki, or a white guy from a trailer home in West Virginia. Unlike a nice French or Spanish accent, none of these even sound attractive, class indications aside.
And all in all, it's something that you have to determine for yourself. Experiment with different outfits and see how girls respond.