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I am 18 and she is in her early forties. She has three (three!?!) kids and a husband whom she is having intense marital issues with. But she is indeed quite hot.
She became my film teacher in my junior year, and there has been a running joke in the class that she flirts with me. I never really did take it all that seriously.
Well on the most recent film project, we spent alot of time together since it was the biggest one the class has ever done (think professional actors, lights and stunt doubles). Over the course of the shooting of this project, she had increasingly been talking to me about the issues she has with her husband, making certain flirtatious comments and touching my arm, you know the deal. I had been with enough girls to be able to read this type of body language, the one thing that was keepin me from believing it was the fact that she was still my teacher who I looked up to, and the fact she was married with 3 kids.
Well over the weekend we were both at a sport event where everybody gets drunk, including me. She texted me asking if I was there and in the same seating section as her, and surprise surprise I was. She told me to come out and say hi for a second. Keep in mind we were both drunk. Well when I see her we just begin making out (never happened before), then we end up finding someplace and having sex. Now here's where the problem is: it has finally become apparent to me that my feelings toward her are purely sexual, which is further distorted by the teacher-student relationship that gives me a certain impulse to keep trying to please and impress her. However, I think she truly has feelings for me, and I think she thinks I feel the same way back.
How am I supposed to stop things without hurting her, possibly resulting in hurting my grades (who knows, out of spite?) and how do I maintain a normal relationship with her afterwards? And how do I let her see that she has a HUSBAND AND THREE KIDS and that doing this probably hurts her way more than me?! I can tell she's looking for a prolonged affair; I simply can't do it. WHAT DO I DO?
TL;dr Had sex with a teacher of mine while drunk. She has a husband and three kids. I get the feeling she has genuine romantic feelings for me and wants to have a prolonged affair, but I do not feel the same way. How to proceed?

[GenJx]

[Hades]

I think that he should just keep hitting that until graduation, then move on. She'll be sad if she's actually interested in keeping an affair going long term but she'll have no (academic) power over the 18 year old after graduation.
Also make sure to get some of the consensual sex sessions taped somehow and save the text messages so she can't flip the script and call you an up-and-coming sexual predator, supposing her man finds out and she decides to implicate the 18 year old in some kind of false rape allegation in the future.

[Ovid]

Dude's got 2 months left until he's in the clear. All he has to do is keep it from blowing up until then and he's home free. Hit it as needed, keep completely secret and don't open his mouth to buddies, family, her family, the administration, the law, etc. Be noncommittal about feelings, get some texts/videos as blackmail (he can hurt her worse than she can hurt him) and at graduation, boom -he tells her he's going to college and things can't last, and problem solved. And this summer would be an *excellent* time to check out that job his cousin offered him in a city five hours away, or to go help his friend's dad on the farm, or to take a long-planned trip to Mexico. The day after graduation, he gets out of dodge, figuratively and literally, and everyone lives happily ever after, except no lawyers will get rich.

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maybe when the statue of limitations is up..we can get pictures...id like to hope the teacher is hot and not one of these troll girls