[Hades]

I think that the most you could stretch your arrangement out is five months, and that's based on the Christmas long-distance relationship breakups that were blowing up all over facebook in my freshmen year of college. Some of these high school couples were in relationships for five years. I do not doubt that these girls were cheating beforehand.

If you think she's actually wife material, wife her up and take her with.

Your kind of arrangement doesn't work unless it's sixty years ago and you were some kind of travelling military type or overseas businessman, while she was a churchgoing stay-at-home mother with five young children and a dog at home to tend to. Even then I'm sure at least one of your kids would end up looking like the mailman.

[Thomas the Rhymer]

(03-26-2013 02:26 PM)Hallasan Wrote:  

Basically, I'm a 24 year old guy with a girl that in my opinion, to the best of my ability, is wife material.

You're way too young to understand the significance of marriage and what it can do to a man; you're also too young to understand or know what kind of girl will make a good wife. Dump her and don't ever think about marriage again until you're at least 30 years of age. When you're older you can then come back to us and tell us about your problems with a girl who is good wife material, but your youth is a huge disqualifier to your opinion at this point.

[augen sehen]

(03-26-2013 11:29 PM)Thomas the Rhymer Wrote:  

(03-26-2013 02:26 PM)Hallasan Wrote:  

Basically, I'm a 24 year old guy with a girl that in my opinion, to the best of my ability, is wife material.

You're way too young to understand the significance of marriage and what it can do to a man; you're also too young to understand or know what kind of girl will make a good wife. Dump her and don't ever think about marriage again until you're at least 30 years of age. When you're older you can then come back to us and tell us about your problems with a girl who is good wife material, but your youth is a huge disqualifier to your opinion at this point.

I don't know man. I am now a 30 year old guy but I regret not wifing up the girlfriend I had when I was 24. I knew then we were gonna be together long-term and we were, but I avoided marriage, and I didn't account for the fact that life intervenes. Well, we're not together anymore and I find it hard to take girls seriously since I keep thinking that I'm just another cock on the carousel and I don't want to be the cock they end up on when the music stops playing.

I think the carousel (both cock and pussy) is overrated for some people who just want stability and would be perfectly happy for life with their college sweetheart.

Even so, the fact that he is here on this forum doesn't bode well for that kind of relationship.

[kosko]

You can't save this one:

[Mage]

Long distance relationships don't work precisely because if you as a man stay faithful and abstinent while she is away - that translates in her mind that you are a beta chump. But if you let her know that you sleep around then the equality hamster starts spinning and the girl wonders if he is unfaithful why couldn't I be?

This could only work if she were in a culture that reminded her day to day that she is a woman and must wait for the one man she has promised herself to. But will she be in such a culture? If she is in West she will get messages that a woman can do anything a man can only better, her girlfriends will encourage her to go out with them and have fun and when she tells any girlfriend that she has a guy sleeping around to whom she wants to faithful - these girlfriends will do anything they can to shame her out of this.

The best advice is to let her come to you instead of you going to her. But it won't safeguard your relationship either. All it will do is let you know when she meets someone who equals or exceeds you in terms of game and value, but has better logistics. That will be when she cancels her regular visit to you for any reason. If things don't work out between them she might start visiting you again, but you must know by then that she has been with another guy already.

[kosko]

If you hold true dominance over the dynamics of the relationship it can work. If you did though you would not be writing this thread OP. In those cases literally sending your women out to find a women whom she would find suitable for you to fuck is not as wild as it seems. She would just not pick anybody whom looks like her, or is as "hot" as her. You can test the waters of how open minded she is real quick when you peg that situation to her. If she gets as weird by it then she was talking shit to you the whole time on being "open" to you messing around during the distance and will just end up turning into a emotional mess from her Hamster spinning into overdrive.

Like @Mage stated if she is not a Western girl it might work.. the distance. But if she is I don't know how you make it work cleanly. Distance is never a good thing unless you have iron clad control on the relationship.