[mrnice]

so i met a girl who is good to bang..at our first date i did not find the approprrate time to kiss her..so she left in hurry..but before she left..i gave her a kiss on hand.

then after our first meeting..she showed a very good interest...she was texting me here and there..i asked her that when we are meeting again..during this time she got ill.she said she will tell me as soon as she goes to college...now its been few days that she is not texting me anymore...this is i know that she talks to other guys as well.

according to some PUA sites..i texted her if she found someone else..still no reply.

is she flaking?

should i text her again or simply pack my bags.?

[AlphaQup2nite]

Girls like this i drop for a few weeks to a month. Then i send them a message back again with some bullshit pretext of going somewhere that reminded you of her a bit and wanted to catch up or something like that. As long as you made good lasting impressions (not the easiest) youll be fine.

[Willy Wonka]

(05-11-2010 08:26 AM)AlphaQup2nite Wrote:  

Girls like this i drop for a few weeks to a month. Then i send them a message back again with some bullshit pretext of going somewhere that reminded you of her a bit and wanted to catch up or something like that. As long as you made good lasting impressions (not the easiest) youll be fine.

That's a solid thing to do.

[HD668B]

(05-11-2010 07:16 AM)mrnice Wrote:  

according to some PUA sites..i texted her if she found someone else..still no reply.

wtf, thats the worst thing to do, who told you that?

your saying that your not confident about getting her, blasting yourself basically.

[aguy]

she must be 18'ish. they all act this way. do what ALphaQup2nite said. never keep pressing in this situation. you will just come off as needy. it might be done'zo especially if you asked her if she found someone else already ( you're conveying that you are of lower value to her already)

[upandcoming1]

(05-11-2010 07:20 PM)aguy Wrote:  

she must be 18'ish. they all act this way. do what ALphaQup2nite said. never keep pressing in this situation. you will just come off as needy. it might be done'zo especially if you asked her if she found someone else already ( you're conveying that you are of lower value to her already)

LOL yeah, it does seem young girls act this way.

[mrnice]

she is 20...and in roosh letter test...he said if a girl is flaking send her text playfully asking if she found someone else.

[AlphaQup2nite]

(05-12-2010 03:52 AM)mrnice Wrote:  

she is 20...and in roosh letter test...he said if a girl is flaking send her text playfully asking if she found someone else.

You could pull this off, but it needs to fit your game. If you teased her all night about relationship stuff, and you can work it in and it fits your frame do it. Thats not my game tho, so i wouldn't, but if you do, by all means go for it.

Girls dont respond to texts for the most random reasons. I have a pivot who i have never seriously made a move on, and we meet for dinners and shit every few weeks to catch up, and she just randomly will respond with a "ill contact you later" and never does. Whenever that happens, i just wait for her to call me. Since our relationship is quite a bit different from what you would get in an attempted pick up, i know she will, b.c i got crazy rapport with her. Girls are inexplicable. Never try to press them for any more information, and never come off as needy, unless you have the sarcasm tone and frame down part. One of the reasons we still get together is that i dont try to meet her all the time. If a girl doesnt answer it, just dont worry about it. Then if something reminds you of her, try it again in a nonchalant way. In Europe i was chatting with some naturals in a club about this kinda stuff. Part of the reason, atleast in Gemany, is that the "three day rule" for call backs is getting pretty well known, so a lot of girls are trying to turn the tables on the guys. Best thing to do, just dont let it get to you.

[adrian_D]

(05-12-2010 05:58 AM)AlphaQup2nite Wrote:  

I have a pivot who i have never seriously made a move on, and we meet for dinners and shit every few weeks to catch up, and she just randomly will respond with a "ill contact you later" and never does. Whenever that happens, i just wait for her to call me. Since our relationship is quite a bit different from what you would get in an attempted pick up, i know she will, b.c i got crazy rapport with her.

Fuck, this is exactly the same deal i have with a girl i know....

[charmer]

you shouldve kissed her on lips instead hand..beside..girls r flakes

[Mrs. Chocolate]

Agreed. You didn't gave her a reason to see you again.
I know what happened: She put you in the shelf. Today there is a better offer than you in the dating market and she is enjoying it, if is that true that she has been in touch with other guys. When she miss you (= need to bang / needy) she will email you or text to do not show that she needs you but she will appear out of the blue. Go find other in the meanwhile

[AlphaQup2nite]

This is why it is important to leave a hook. Something that you know she will like and look forward to. In the sequel to "The Game" the dinner party/cocktail party gambit is pretty useful, but depends on space and the like. You should know your area pretty well and be able to think of small (read: Not expensive) themed restaurants and interesting locations and discuss it and then leave it hanging, and at the end of the interchange just leave some kind of off handed remark that you want to check out X with them. For me, in my town there is like a "night market" not too many people know about with lots of carnival like games that girls love. You want a reason for her to meet you and do something. Usually just meeting you isnt good enough unless you are crazy good, and she really digs you. You have to give her something that helps her remember you, either a future activity, or a piece of cheap ass jewelery that you stick around their neck/wrist that when they see it on their dresser/hand they will totally think of you. But then you need to run the jewelery game. Its important for it not to see it as a gift but more as a loan.

Lastly, the best way to get that next date is by gambling a coffee or something simple on a game. Girls love games, and if you win they owe you a coffee, set the date then. Most people are honest when it comes to gambling. And if you lose, she'll be looking to collect, so you still get your next date anyways, just make sure to set it in advance.

[savoy]

She's either flaking or simply, just busy. Give it some time before you go back to texting her again. Next time you contact her, do the classic "Hey I'm going out with some friends tonight at xxxx bar/club/etc. - drop by & hang with us." Braddock has got some classic text game outlined in his new book, The Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game

You need to re-initiate casual contact, but WAIT a week before doing so. You don't want to seem like the needy one. Use humor, make statements, do not ask questions and DO NOT apologize. Move on like the previous texts never happened & start fresh.

And yes, in the meantime, don't focus on this girl. Go out & get new numbers to practice on.

[OGNorCal707]

(05-27-2010 02:39 AM)AlphaQup2nite Wrote:  

This is why it is important to leave a hook. Something that you know she will like and look forward to. In the sequel to "The Game" the dinner party/cocktail party gambit is pretty useful, but depends on space and the like. You should know your area pretty well and be able to think of small (read: Not expensive) themed restaurants and interesting locations and discuss it and then leave it hanging, and at the end of the interchange just leave some kind of off handed remark that you want to check out X with them. For me, in my town there is like a "night market" not too many people know about with lots of carnival like games that girls love. You want a reason for her to meet you and do something. Usually just meeting you isnt good enough unless you are crazy good, and she really digs you. You have to give her something that helps her remember you, either a future activity, or a piece of cheap ass jewelery that you stick around their neck/wrist that when they see it on their dresser/hand they will totally think of you. But then you need to run the jewelery game. Its important for it not to see it as a gift but more as a loan.

Lastly, the best way to get that next date is by gambling a coffee or something simple on a game. Girls love games, and if you win they owe you a coffee, set the date then. Most people are honest when it comes to gambling. And if you lose, she'll be looking to collect, so you still get your next date anyways, just make sure to set it in advance.

Alpha I think your advice in the last two posts is pretty much right on point, but I'm not sure the "jewelry game" you mention would work well on most American girls, unless they are real young or a hippie chick (if you gave them a hemp bracelet or bead necklace). If I recall correctly you are in China, so maybe it works better in their culture, have you tried it on American or European women? Also, the gambling for a date approach is straight out of a "Seinfeld" episode, when one of Jerry's acquaintances gambles with Elaine to get a date, then pulls it again at the end of the episode on the girl Jerry just broke up with (LOL).

[AlphaQup2nite]

Actually it works pretty well. You are giving the girl an excuse to see you. WE all know girls need rationalizations for things, so giving her a simple one is great. Esp if she is in a relationship. Its worked on Chinese and foreign chicks.

The thought process is something like this
"Oh he is a nice guy, but.... (insert rationals not to go for the next date)"
Thus under the pretext of returning something, it makes them feel like a good person. It sounds cheesy, but it works, as long as you have a story for everything you wear.

Its just another way of building anticipation for the next day. Either she has to pay a debt (most people tend to be good about this), receive something they won (every chick loves getting shit she thinks she earned), or return something that is important to someone (good deed for the day). Therefor you removing some of the "do i like him" judgment that girls usually make when they want to go on a date. Of course it is possible not use these kinda games, but they do help.