Quote: (08-15-2018 02:15 AM)UniversalMen Wrote:
Quote: (08-07-2018 09:36 AM)tomzestatlu Wrote:
So my qustion is, how to deal with this feeling of loneliness that pursuits me on every step I do? I know, that best way is to commit current life only to myself and my future and that´s what I do, but something I feel down, because of loneliness.
You're still young. 26 is not an age to be concerned/confused about with loneliness. I just turned 33 this past July and haven't had an LTR since 2012, that's a long time.
Keep focusing on yourself. Travel the world, find a hobby that you enjoy but keeps you occupied when you're not working, make sure you exercise at least 4 times a week, spend time with friends and family and don't worry about ending up alone.
The reason you feel loneliness is because you haven't learned to be comfortable being alone. You haven't taught your brain how to love yourself first. Girls, they come and go. You can't count on a woman to stay by your side for the rest of your life. Most of the women you meet in life are there for the entertainment, not the commitment.
When a man keeps himself occupied with interesting things/stories then women will naturally gravitate toward such a man because he's comfortable/happy doing things that he has a strong interest/passion for. You don't need a woman to make you happy or fill the "empty" hole in your chest. Find a healthy purpose in life and focus on that.
"Chase a check, never chase a bitch." ~ Future
I understand you.
I would say I am not the person who is sitting at home and wondering why is nothing happening in his life. I hate sitting at home so I sport everyday and when I´m done, I usually go walk wherever. When I have day off, I usually go on some trip. Climbing, shooting, sleeping in nature or very long marches are wellcomed too.
So being not busy is not my problem. I would consider myself being top when it comes to physical condition. I often workout, often run and until June I was training MMA and had my first fight as a result. Now I am taking a break from martial arts, but going to start again in September.
Being with friends is difficult in this age. I have few groups and it´s hard to keep in touch. I am in touch with some friends I´ve grown up with, but the most of them have problem with alcohol, so I see them rarely, except one of them. Then there´s group around martial arts and local football fans. This guys mean a lot of fun, but a lot of problems and heading to nowhere in life. I also limited seeing them not very much, because I have different life goals. I have one friend, that I considered to be the best one, but recent period he talks to nobody and when he does, he only talk rubbish to others. So I am very often totally alone.
The only one in my family who I enjoy being with is my granny and I visit her every week.
After break-up I was meeting a lot of girls only for bang. But I got sick of it. I dropped all the plates and started to dream about girl, that would bring something more than her vagina to my life. For the beginning, I would appreciate pretty clever girl with which I could take to some trips. But I know where this would end. At the same point as usually. I know, that if it hadn´t worked with my last girl, it will hardly work with any other (at this moment of my life).
I would love to earn money of course, because I come from family with no property at all, so I have to take care about myself at all cost. I have new job I quite like and pays quite well and above-average, but of course it won´t make me rich. I am also dealing with this in that way, that when I say what I do, it doesn´t sound very good and everybody including my family takes it as a big step down in comparison to what I did before (I have military degree and served on commander post at combat unit of very high standard with selection of personell-at least that´s what being said about it). Now I work in a shop.
The conclusion and what I think about myself is that I am trying to live as much interesting life as possible. And I don´t have much problems with getting a girl. And the most of my time I invest in myself or at least don´t waste it (f.e. I would never waste my time with watching series, rather I will walk for hours and think about life).
On the other side, one thing is true, I don´t have any life goal that I am currently determined to and it´s difficult, because I left military quite broken after commiting it 10 years of my life (from 15 to 25). And then I broke up with my fiancee and totally lost everything what was my life until now.
Thanks you for your post very much!
