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12-27-2012, 06:49 AM
I've come to an understanding that this happens as a combination of physical attraction and being very sad over the idea of the person's inevitable death. I would like to secure something of this sort because there is something to be said for those old couples holding hands in the park, joking and laughing like they are young. Old age will be unbearable without such companionship.
how the hell do you do this though? I've never felt anything profound for any female I've been with. It's always been about looks and youth. all of those artsy philosophical chicks who think they're on some deep shit, I've found plain obnoxious. Where are the warm and wonderful people?
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12-27-2012, 07:28 AM
Those warm an wonderful people are in
- Hollywood Movies
- your life until you sign the contract (marriage) after which they turn into harpies
Humans are self-interested, females much more so than males. I have had several lt relationships that I broke off and where the girl claimed to be inconsolable. A few weeks later she was off to riding the cock carousel.
The romantic notion of true partnership is something a lot of guys seem to desire but which I see women exploit to gain diamond rings, cash and prizes in divorce or a meal ticket. There might be some out there who are different and value true partnership but western females, raised in the egocentric, narcissistic "me me me" world of the 21st century are unlikely to hold these kinds of sentiments.
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12-27-2012, 08:03 AM
I did not say impossible but once you investigate the biochemical and evolutionary aspects of pairbonding the romantic notions vanish rather quickly. In a society where one has access to hundreds of options (read potential mates) in the palm of one's smartphone-holding hands sticking it out with the same individual for long is increasingly difficult. Add this to the mantra of "self over everything else" and divorce rates are no longer a mystery. I personally think that aligning life goals and self-interest to complement another person might be the most successful way. That and living in a traditional environment that does not endorse divorce due to "I am not haaaappy" feelings.