i went to the club scene tonight with some friends to see some music. I'd been reading a bit of stuff on game and I wanted to try some stuff out.
I'm in my early 30s and being slim build. I see mostly these guys who work out in tight tee shirts and some pretty nice girls. The are a few fat plain girls there too, and a whole host of different type of girls in between, and then girls in groups of 2 or 3 with 2 or 3 guys talking to them. I know that Im just not going to find some pretty girl by herself just staring out waiting for me to talk to her. If only. That would be too simple. So it pretty much looks like I have to improve on the going up to a group.
I tried an approach on a 2-set of girls, it went well and I developed a bit of conversation, but cut it short - they were best friends - one I wouldn't touch with a pole and the really cute one. I couldn't see myself isolating the cute one as they were waiting for the band to start and I didn't feel comfortable asking the cute one for her number in front of the other. Is this me being scared? I think I've got alot to learn. My lack of closing-game kept the conversation to safe topics like the band and the venue and the supporting acts. What next? I didn't have a clue. But you know even to approach a 2-set of girls is a huge thing for me. I mean, if she was alone I could have led in with a simple "I have to go back to my friends, do you want to meet up sometime later in the week?" or something, but with both of them there I didnt know how to do it.
My other approach was on a 2 set again, this time I had this girl stare at me, when I looked down the stairs and I thought I'd like to f*ck her. I went over and got some very rejection type body language. The uglier friend just dealt with my openers in a very scathing way - one syllable don't want to talk type things. The girl I was interested in almost turned her back. She looked alot worse than from far off, and put on 10 years, so just as well - but strangely I would have liked her anyway. Maybe just older singles looking for 2 older men to go off with rather than one pretty boy intellectual type . I dunno. The turn down was fairly brutal, but I actually didn't feel anything bad - I felt good - like how funny *you* are rejecting *me* - if only you knew me - which is surprising and empowering.
I think I'm better off out of this saturday night club scene - it just doesn't seem designed to be easy - and yet I suspect there are just a higher volume of girls here just waiting to be talked to and approached than anywhere else. The males in white tees and jeans were out like some kind of uniformed army and I found that intimidating. My insecurities tend to run high approaching groups of girls/guys. I felt at the end of the day I could pick a lone girl up on public transport or waiting at the bus station a million times easier.
thoughts?
I'm in my early 30s and being slim build. I see mostly these guys who work out in tight tee shirts and some pretty nice girls. The are a few fat plain girls there too, and a whole host of different type of girls in between, and then girls in groups of 2 or 3 with 2 or 3 guys talking to them. I know that Im just not going to find some pretty girl by herself just staring out waiting for me to talk to her. If only. That would be too simple. So it pretty much looks like I have to improve on the going up to a group.
I tried an approach on a 2-set of girls, it went well and I developed a bit of conversation, but cut it short - they were best friends - one I wouldn't touch with a pole and the really cute one. I couldn't see myself isolating the cute one as they were waiting for the band to start and I didn't feel comfortable asking the cute one for her number in front of the other. Is this me being scared? I think I've got alot to learn. My lack of closing-game kept the conversation to safe topics like the band and the venue and the supporting acts. What next? I didn't have a clue. But you know even to approach a 2-set of girls is a huge thing for me. I mean, if she was alone I could have led in with a simple "I have to go back to my friends, do you want to meet up sometime later in the week?" or something, but with both of them there I didnt know how to do it.
My other approach was on a 2 set again, this time I had this girl stare at me, when I looked down the stairs and I thought I'd like to f*ck her. I went over and got some very rejection type body language. The uglier friend just dealt with my openers in a very scathing way - one syllable don't want to talk type things. The girl I was interested in almost turned her back. She looked alot worse than from far off, and put on 10 years, so just as well - but strangely I would have liked her anyway. Maybe just older singles looking for 2 older men to go off with rather than one pretty boy intellectual type . I dunno. The turn down was fairly brutal, but I actually didn't feel anything bad - I felt good - like how funny *you* are rejecting *me* - if only you knew me - which is surprising and empowering.
I think I'm better off out of this saturday night club scene - it just doesn't seem designed to be easy - and yet I suspect there are just a higher volume of girls here just waiting to be talked to and approached than anywhere else. The males in white tees and jeans were out like some kind of uniformed army and I found that intimidating. My insecurities tend to run high approaching groups of girls/guys. I felt at the end of the day I could pick a lone girl up on public transport or waiting at the bus station a million times easier.
thoughts?
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