[speakeasy]

So you meet a girl out in the field, talk to her enough to build up a connection and get the number. It's now time to get her out on a date. What are your first 3 dates going to be? Assume this is not a one night stand girl, but a girl you've got to put some work into.

I'm thinking:

Date #1 - A getting to know you date. To a nice bar/lounge. A place that's on the smaller side, isn't too crazy with loud music so you can talk, have a few drinks. Maybe with some couches where you can sit next to each other side by side and make-out if things go well.

Date #2 - If all went well on the first, now an activity date. Don't want to go to another bar, club or lounge since you probably already met her at one and went to one on the first date.The emphasis should be on fun or interesting. Might be going to a nice billiards hall. Of if you live somewhere with nice weather and lots of mountains and hills, going on a hike(if she enjoys the outdoors), or going somewhere to dance(though you might have already done that on the first date, if so, then go dance to a different type of music than before). Or a gallery showing if she's the artsy/cultural type.

Date #3 - If all went great with the first 2, you've had physical escalation or maybe even sex, and this seems like a girl you want to have around I think it's okay at this point to take her to a nice restaurant. Nice doesn't necessarily mean expensive, just a place with good food, a good atmosphere and demonstrates your good tastes in things. I have a local favorite Thai place that's cozy and great to take girls and typical plates are under $10 and delicious.

I think after that, assuming she had fun on all dates, she'll be up to do anything beyond that.

So what would you guys do for the 1st three?

[lilactag]

I don't think in dates, to be honest, when I meet a new girl, be it at a bar, concert, thru friends or the street or whatever, I normally use the meeting time as first date, change venues spend at least an hour talking to them.

Most of the times in those cases, time is limited so we exchange contact info and I think out every 10 girls, 8 call me, I don't normally call.
But when comes to proposing venues, I normally pick a nice cave-like bar where I know the people.
Many times, girls hint they want to go to a place that is their "own field" so if it fits me, I agree.

2nd and more dates, it just comes to what activities there are available that with or without her, I would anyway go, so i tell them, if they seem excited, they almost autoinvite themselves.

i.e.
once I met a girl at an art exposition, she is a truly interesting artsy fartsy swiss italian girl, we hit it out discussing some works and then we go out and she says: "so, what now?"
I said, well, I am going to this and this places tonight, I meet some friends so and so, so she comes along, we had a blast, bang her at her place later.
-2nd time she is at a cool place doing an assignment (drawing) and calls me if i want to get there for coffee, I refuse say I gotta practice but I was in the mood for a good fondue, she says she knows a great place for fondue which is actually owned by indian people (in Switzerland, mind you) so COOL i said, let's try..

3rd date is on the same night, we eat and I say I want to go to the hill at night because there was supposed to be a "stars rain" and I am such a fan of watching the sky...I have to leave...

She invites herself an begs me to come with me (which was my plan) and we go to that hill on a beautiful park by a castle (Dreilinden) and guess who got banged by a medieval tower hehe

Corolary: I try to go with the flow and only mildly affecting and pre-thinking "what to do"?

[Mrs. Chocolate]

Three first dates list
1 - the cozy bar, good, you can talk and stay close.
2 - dinner + movie or theatre - shows your good taste in food and arts.
3 - picnic (with some wine and fruits) + hiking and nature - only works if she likes this kind of contact with nature... but it is a good idea. I would suggest also a show, not noisy thing sth you could watch sit down and besides her and in the middle of a love (not tacky, please) say some things in her hear and hold her hand tight...

[speakeasy]

(01-24-2010 02:36 PM)lilactag Wrote:  

I don't think in dates, to be honest, when I meet a new girl, be it at a bar, concert, thru friends or the street or whatever, I normally use the meeting time as first date, change venues spend at least an hour talking to them.

I hear what you're saying, but insta-dates aren't always possible. If you meet her on the street and she's out running her errands, you may just have to get the number there and worry about setting up a meeting some other time.

Mrs. Chocolate Wrote:

2 - dinner + movie or theatre - shows your good taste in food and arts.

I would save movies and such till much later on. Because you can't talk.

[Mrs. Chocolate]

But during dinner you can. And sometimes you don't need to talk during the hole time, after the movie you can discuss what you just saw and it will be more subjects coming instead of talking about yourselves all the time.

[charmer]

i only decide dinner or even bar dates when i no longer have interest in a girl.

[jdsizzle]

1. Always a resteraunt she probably doesnt know of that has dank ass food and great atmosphere. Maybe a privately owned one ide go to with homies.

2. I usually take a girl out to go do outdoorsey stuff, for example there is this japanese tea gardens here in san antonio, really pretty, then maybe a stroll through downtown (its pretty close by). And i usually take them there on my motorcycle which adds to that closeness comfortable factor...

3. my place, movie, bang. (if it hasnt happened already)

[Giovonny]

A few years ago some guy told me that he always takes girls to the "Shooting Range". He said shooting a gun turns them on. He also said "they realize how easy it is to kill a man"......anyways, ever since then i have been trying to do crazy stuff like that. The more intense emotions they go thru, the better. Honestly, my goal is to get them wet. I think crazy, intense dates like this might speed things up.

[Quasi]

I think thinking three dates ahead is setting sails to fail... take for example Roosh post of why not to do cafe dates, its not worth the hassle if its really not needed, most times I can get them to come at my place even travel distances just to meet me initially... and sex succes rate is high in your own nice place with everything going for you, that is if I still feel like it...

Its not bad to go for cafe, I do it, when I dont get the option of my home or feel that she wouldnt go for it, but date nr2 have to be there, unless your looking for a good friend, also I think going to the movies and restaurant dates are crappy and should only be used if you knows she digs that movie or you have this fancy restaurant, which your friend owns...

It all boils down to, why bother if she a) isnt interested in sex b) two isnt good sex.. three dates later you will allready have rewarded her for holding back and accustomed her to you providing some kinda entertainment...

Chicks love picknicks, be creative make alot of nice snacks and bring to a great spot, the zoo is actually a good dating spot and I have banged chicks I have taken there first date.. never happened on cafe date..

[Kona]

(02-16-2010 12:05 AM)Giovonny Wrote:  

A few years ago some guy told me that he always takes girls to the "Shooting Range". He said shooting a gun turns them on. He also said "they realize how easy it is to kill a man"......anyways, ever since then i have been trying to do crazy stuff like that. The more intense emotions they go thru, the better. Honestly, my goal is to get them wet. I think crazy, intense dates like this might speed things up.

I've been taking girls to the range for years. Asians and tattoo/piercing chicks love it.

Safety is very important here. Girls get jumpy. Be in total control of the girl and the weapon at the same time. Not only will this get her as turned on as all hell, you won't get shot.

As far as this thread goes with the 3 dates, just do all them all on the same day.

1) On your way to the range say your hot and want to get in the water. This will get her out of some clothing. That's date #1.

2) Go to the range. Stay behind her. Do it like the behind the back with the pool stick thing people do. That's #2.

3) Go to a classy restaurant/bar with a view that you have extremely locked down. Places such as Jameson's on the North Shore or The Mai Tai Bar in town work great. The girl has just seen you be in complete control at the range now she can't believe how you're man of the hour at these fine establishments.

The best part about this is simple. These are things I'd be doing anyway.

I hate that "date" mentality. Integrating an attractive girl into you daily activities destroys it right from the get-go.

Aloha!

[speakeasy]

Kona, I like your idea of combing 3 "dates" into one day.