[Spartan]

I'm seeing a girl who is age 20, has had only 1 prior partner, and is anxious about sex.
She is very self conscious and sex is difficult because she is very shy about it.

What do you guys recommend?
I think some alcohol, a massage, and lots more practice banging.
What else can make her relax and enjoy herself?

[Hannibal]

Play strip poker and get some booze. I'm going to take a stab here and guess that she's in college, so she probably thinks that drinking games are real cool.

I guess the real question is, how far have you pushed the interaction with this girl?

[RichieP]

she needs comfort...

just turn the lights off and get in bed together. watch a film on your laptop, just lie down, cuddle, joke around. Strip down to your boxers so she can at least feel your skin, even if she's too shy to take clothes off at first. She'll get horny when she feels your body next to her and hard cock pressing into her. Finger her, get her horny, but then back off and let her breathe, show her you wont pressure her and dont NEED sex. But it could be fun. Just show her your desire for her without judgement or stress or whatever.

People who are inexperienced think sex is this big monumentous event that you "do" with a start and a finish and a performance rating. Its not atall though, show her you can just enjoy being together physically and let yourselves get horny and do what comes naturally.

[keepreal]

Late game in bang has some great advice, so just be persistent.

[XXL]

make her comfortable with intimacy overall. she first needs to be ok with you touching her and her touching you. baby steps. so instead of pushing pushing pushing for it take some time and let her get familiar with your body, make her participate, play around, warm her up to the idea of sex. you gotta foreplay the foreplay.

more on "Podcast #2 Girls LOVE Dick" (start at 19:00) here:
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PS. some alcohol is obvious

[Spartan]

(08-06-2012 03:05 AM)keepreal Wrote:  

Late game in bang has some great advice, so just be persistent.

alright, I'll look into that.
Last night we had sex, but she was very tense..it wasn't fun that way.
So here I've got this, gorgeous girl...but with lots of hangups.

[keepreal]

(08-06-2012 04:15 AM)Spartan Wrote:  

(08-06-2012 03:05 AM)keepreal Wrote:  

Late game in bang has some great advice, so just be persistent.

alright, I'll look into that.
Last night we had sex, but she was very tense..it wasn't fun that way.
So here I've got this, gorgeous girl...but with lots of hangups.

Fuck her more, make her get used to ur dick and u.

[iknowexactly]

see where she is and start there. can she masturbate to orgasm? phone sex. gradually move towards desired behavior.

[xsplat]

How do you break in a horse? Depends on the trainer. You can break her fast like a bucking bronco, or slowly reel her in.

I prefer a combination of the two styles; fast romantic escalation, with a bit of forceful consensual raping if required.

My current girlfriend was a virgin when I met her two years ago, and was as frigid as can be. She'd never seen a cock and no one had ever seen her breasts. She struggled with most of her might against busting that hymen of steel. With her, that's what it took - no amount of gentle romance would have EVER stolen that cherry. Had to be force. She was at first adamant about waiting for marriage, but when I ruled that out, she consented, while keeping her legs forced shut and her hands covering her crotch. Challenging sport. Sounded like a dungeon in my room.

I'm just mentioning that because there isn't going to be a one size fits all solution, any more than there is one way to train a horse. That's going to be your call, and depend as much on you as the girl.

[Samseau]

I once wrestled with a girl for 3 hours and still wouldn't give it up... she called me up again though