[Deadman]

Newbie here looking for some take on chicks with way more guy friends than girl friends. I am hangin with this girl (7) and we've banged a handful of times. 90% of the stories that come out of her mouth start with her saying something like....."Me and my friend (insert dude's name here) were at lunch, or any number of bullshit activities. You get the point........

So, typically bothered by this, I must say I have been playing it beautifully with this chick. She even starts a shit test flake or texting game bullshit and I become a dick or ignore her all together and she then responds the way I want her to. That is not how I would have acted before reading BANG or joining here, so thanks ROOSH.

But I want to know if this "guy friend" thing bothering me is typical or just part of Game I need to get past? I mean, she's fucking me so what should I care, right? No matter what you guys say or if it bugs me or not, don't worry, I won't ever say so to her. I know that much! Just thinking there might be some tricks you gamers know of to throw some shit back her way for this.

[I'mWaitingForTheMan]

I usually find chicks like this are way easier to bang. Maybe it's because they are sluttier or maybe it's just because they are more comfortable around dudes. Either she's banging a bunch of guys or has a bunch of orbiters. If it's the orbiting case she is just waiting for you to take charge.

I usually try lightly ripping on her guy friends.

[kazz]

When i was younger i had this alot, im guessing this girl is young? If you dont like her much just bang her few more times then give her the flick. However, if you do like her, as was the case with 2 girls i eventually went out with, just sus each dude out 1st, when you meet the guys be super friendly and nice like you could not give a shit ( i even had one definite orbiter tell my girlfriend i was a cool guy) one thing is for sure if the girl is hot, the guys will want to bang her; some girls love the attention, if this is the case get rid of her. Many girls also genuinely want to be friends with these guys. With me i just told them how it is straight up, when they try to argue; no he doesnt want to bang me, he even has a girlfriend blah blah blah. Ask them this one question have any of them ever hit on you in any way, the answer will usually be yes, however subtle the pussy ass orbiters move may have been. Ok so then my advise, if the guy is an ugly looser let her still be friends, if he is anything but this, get rid of the guy, or if she wont get rid of her. Of course im not talking about flatmates, work colleagues etc, not much you can do there.

[Screwston]

Just ignore it. A lot of girls are delusional and think these guy "friends" wouldn't fuck her if she offered the pussy.

[Deadman]

So the girl in this scenario flakes on me last night (we had plans) with some shit story that has a high likelihood of being true so for this question I am about to ask, let's assume it is. Also, keep in mind, I've banged her a few times and I like her so while I think there's no LTR, I aint done banging her yet. I think I may have an opportunity to emotionally slap her around a bit.

So, she texts me a few hrs late and it goes:

Her- "I'm sorry but tonight sucks."
Me- "As does your communication skill, fuck off."
Her- "Can't begin to explain but I don't need any pressure from you."
Me- "No pressure, just fuck off."

So I say nothing to her and today at noon:

"I'm so so sorry. I was a complete jerk and I feel horrible. Can we talk?"

Fast forward..........so I'm meeting her in a bit so hopefully someone here will respond with some good shit for me to say to her since she is putting it all on her, I should let her!

Gimme some things u would do/say if you still wanted her around for a bit. Keep in mind I do like her, would like to see her around a bit more for a while anyway for more frequent bangin.

And hurry please! Thanks

[billbudsocket]

act like nothing happened and bang her.

[I'mWaitingForTheMan]

I don't know about dropping those f-bombs. I think you could be more effective and deliver the same message without them. I think it carries the risk of crossing over from loveable jerk to angry asshole.

"as do your communication skills"

"then don't explain" then go cold on her

[HiFlo]

stay with your conviction. act like her flaking was the biggest thing in the world. create drama, chicks dig it, and you should lay on the guilt.

i would say "we passed the point in our relationship where flaking is acceptable. One of the things I value most in friendship is dependenability: when you say something you're gonna do it. you breached this when you flaked on me yesterday. it was completely unacceptable to hold me up without bothering to let me know until hours later. who do u think u are? i shouldn't even be talking to you right now."

i've used that in the past & IMO it sets the groundwork for your relationship that flaking is unacceptable.

what was her story anway??

[HiFlo]

also for her guy friend thing, either play it cool if u want, or say, "Look, I rather not talk about THAT GUY. Let's talk about u & me instead..." then change the subject. Don't refer to those dudes by their names, only as "that guy" with even a hint of disdain when u say it.

[I'mWaitingForTheMan]

(06-03-2012 07:40 PM)HiFlo Wrote:  

also for her guy friend thing, either play it cool if u want, or say, "Look, I rather not talk about THAT GUY. Let's talk about u & me instead..." then change the subject. Don't refer to those dudes by their names, only as "that guy" with even a hint of disdain when u say it.

I second only referring to them as "that guy" or "those dudes." Maybe even drop in "that homo" in a playful tone.

[kazz]

Your texts showed, especially saying 'fuck off' showed you care, and seemed emotional about her doing it. Always better to be non-shalant, would have been best to ignore the 1st text, bit of a DHV, this would have made you more attractive. Then answered her 2nd text. When you meet say SOMEONE else or SOMETHING else had you wound up a the time you sent the msg, it was not her that caused it. Only do this though if you can sound genuine.