[tjames]

Girl: "sorry i can't text you now i have yoga"

* I knew this was bullshit *

* Ten minutes later... *

Me: "Interesting..."

* Two mins later *

Girl: "interesting?"

* While later *

Me: "yup, hows your week looking?"

Gee she certainly had no time to text little old me what with her busy schedule and all. Lol. I bet if you listened carefully you could hear the little cogs in her head clicking together.

What you guys think did I come up with some good shit right here?

[Veloce]

when girls ever give me the "too busy" bullshit I don't even bother. I put them in the category of bitches that I text once every other week just to throw a hail mary, like, "At x bar. Here for another hour. Swing by for a shot"

[Snowflake]

(05-28-2012 10:23 PM)thedude3737 Wrote:  

when girls ever give me the "too busy" bullshit I don't even bother. I put them in the category of bitches that I text once every other week just to throw a hail mary, like, "At x bar. Here for another hour. Swing by for a shot"

I wouldn't even bother too, in some way I think those kind of texts are a sort of shit test - just avoid replying altogether and she'll get the hint: she's too busy for you, you're too busy for her

[tjames]

Maybe this is a shit test and I'm a chump for replying and failing but way I see someone got/will get through her bitch shield and beat it up. I'm a pretty presisent person, what do I got to lose? Not like I don't have other girls lined up. She said she was working all week and I said "zzzz" I don't know if it will work or not. Nothing is over until it's over for me. Maybe that's a pussy beta chump attitude to have but wtf yolo.

[MrXY]

(05-28-2012 06:06 PM)tjames Wrote:  

Girl: "sorry i can't text you now i have yoga"

* I knew this was bullshit *

* Ten minutes later... *

Me: "Interesting..."

* Two mins later *

Girl: "interesting?"

* While later *

Me: "yup, hows your week looking?"

Gee she certainly had no time to text little old me what with her busy schedule and all. Lol. I bet if you listened carefully you could hear the little cogs in her head clicking together.

What you guys think did I come up with some good shit right here?

No, you didn't. What you did do was make some classic and common newbie mistakes which I will break down as follows:

#1 You continued texting after she blew you off with the yoga text which you indicated you knew was just an excuse. Don't give a girl continued attention when she is acting negatively toward you. Instead you should have withdrawn attention and just not responded at all. Radio silence for a week or two.

#2 Even worse, you then proceeded to dangle the offer of a potential date with you "hows your week looking" Why would you offer the girl the pleasure of your company when she's just blown you off? The message that sends to her is that her value is far above yours. That is an attraction killer to a girl-I guarantee she rolled her eyes when she got that text.

#3 You failed to recognize one of the basic tenets of game-if a girl wants to talk to you or see you, she will make it happen She will offer alternative times, she will rearrange her schedule, she will show up places she thinks you will be, she will blow off her friends, etc. If she makes no effort, it's because she is not interested in you

#4 Then you ask fellow players here what do you have to lose by continuing to pursue this girl. I would say a lot. A bit of time and effort to text,and a bit more mental energy in thinking about her. But most of all what you will lose is the strength of your inner game. You cannot maintain a strong frame while persistently chasing a girl who keeps blowing you off. Your attitude should be that you are the prize and it is women who should be chasing you and the ones you allow to catch you are the lucky winners. This attitude makes all the difference.

I would just write this girl off as a learning experience (there will be many), not contact her again and move on.
I hope you don't take the above personally-we've all been there on the leaning curve and it's offered in the spirit of being helpful

[tjames]

(05-30-2012 09:22 PM)MrXY Wrote:  

(05-28-2012 06:06 PM)tjames Wrote:  

Girl: "sorry i can't text you now i have yoga"

* I knew this was bullshit *

* Ten minutes later... *

Me: "Interesting..."

* Two mins later *

Girl: "interesting?"

* While later *

Me: "yup, hows your week looking?"

Gee she certainly had no time to text little old me what with her busy schedule and all. Lol. I bet if you listened carefully you could hear the little cogs in her head clicking together.

What you guys think did I come up with some good shit right here?

No, you didn't. What you did do was make some classic and common newbie mistakes which I will break down as follows:

#1 You continued texting after she blew you off with the yoga text which you indicated you knew was just an excuse. Don't give a girl continued attention when she is acting negatively toward you. Instead you should have withdrawn attention and just not responded at all. Radio silence for a week or two.

#2 Even worse, you then proceeded to dangle the offer of a potential date with you "hows your week looking" Why would you offer the girl the pleasure of your company when she's just blown you off? The message that sends to her is that her value is far above yours. That is an attraction killer to a girl-I guarantee she rolled her eyes when she got that text.

#3 You failed to recognize one of the basic tenets of game-if a girl wants to talk to you or see you, she will make it happen She will offer alternative times, she will rearrange her schedule, she will show up places she thinks you will be, she will blow off her friends, etc. If she makes no effort, it's because she is not interested in you

#4 Then you ask fellow players here what do you have to lose by continuing to pursue this girl. I would say a lot. A bit of time and effort to text,and a bit more mental energy in thinking about her. But most of all what you will lose is the strength of your inner game. You cannot maintain a strong frame while persistently chasing a girl who keeps blowing you off. Your attitude should be that you are the prize and it is women who should be chasing you and the ones you allow to catch you are the lucky winners. This attitude makes all the difference.

I would just write this girl off as a learning experience (there will be many), not contact her again and move on.
I hope you don't take the above personally-we've all been there on the leaning curve and it's offered in the spirit of being helpful

You are 100% right and she didn't text back after my zzzz thing. I realized it after the fact but I don't make the same mistakes twice. No girl is special to me. I never take it personal. I thought I was on to something cause she texted back and I thought I was in control -- I was wrong.

[AntiTrace]

one of the most powerful text moves you can do is to not text.

first sign of negativity means I am putting my phone back in my pocket

[Parlay44]

(06-01-2012 03:19 PM)AntiTrace Wrote:  

one of the most powerful text moves you can do is to not text.

first sign of negativity means I am putting my phone back in my pocket

I agree. They're supposed to play by your rules not you by theirs. Reward good behavior and punish bad behavior by taking away attention.

[ThatNorwegianGuy]

(06-01-2012 07:19 PM)Parlay44 Wrote:  

(06-01-2012 03:19 PM)AntiTrace Wrote:  

one of the most powerful text moves you can do is to not text.

first sign of negativity means I am putting my phone back in my pocket

I agree. They're supposed to play by your rules not you by theirs. Reward good behavior and punish bad behavior by taking away attention.

I third this, for what it's worth. In quite a few situations, the best texting game is not to text at all.