I'm currently packing up all my stuff to move away to grad school and have been reflecting on the past few years of my life. Just want to let this forum know it's been a helpful resource for me and other guys alike in getting their headspace and perspective where it needs to be, to achieve the goals they have, both with women and otherwise.
To give you an idea of how (relatively) far I have come, in the past two years I have banged several models, model-types, and other varieties, all while living in one of the more notoriously bad cities for women (DC). This is coming from the same guy who didn't kiss a girl until he was 20 years old and didn't get laid until he was 21.
Now, moving on to grad school, is a perfect time to reflect and jot down a few key things I learned about MYSELF (note that I didn't say about GAME, or WOMEN) over these past few years that helped bring out the confidence that was always within me, allowing me to be successful with women and ultimately more successful in life:
1-One-itis has got to go. Overvaluation of a single woman indicates a lack of experience with women; in my case, I went through bouts of one-itis every few months and became what is known as an AFC. My travels abroad and efforts/struggles to push myself out of my comfort zone taught me the invaluable lesson that there are SO MANY WOMEN out there that are worthy of my attention (err, at least for a short period!). This mindset has resulted in greater success overall. UNTIL YOU ARE OVER ONE-ITIS, YOU WILL NOT BE AS SUCCESSFUL AS YOU CAN BE. I assume most readers of this forum are between the ages of 18 and 27, meaning most readers here are probably not thinking about marriage quite yet.
2-One of the most important things I have come to learn is that regretting NOT doing something is even worse than regretting DOING something. This simple concept, along with my desire to truly go after my goals, pushed me on many, many occasions to make approaches and expand my comfort zone because I told myself I would regret it more if I DID NOT do it.
3-Another crucial concept is that I view my approach and interaction with a woman as a POSITIVE for HER. My estimation of myself is high to the point where I believe that she will gain from talking to me. This typically helps when battling with the idea, "Oh, she doesn't want to talk to me ... what can I offer that gorgeous green-eyed, brown-haired girl that she doesn't already have? She must have everything she wants and I am of no value to her." Having this mentality helps you get your foot in the door (and maybe your P in her ... nevermind ) because a woman who is out at a bar/club/lounge is more often than not at least willing to hear the first few words that come out of your mouth (save for the few and far between raging bitch who behaves anti-socially and is genuinely not interested in talking to or hearing anyone) - what you say from there, is up to you. Note that this third concept is the hardest one because you have to truly and deeply believe your own self-worth. This feeling comes with time, more success with women, and the eventual realization that truly, women are not the most important thing in life but just a piece of the puzzle.
Well, it's been a long journey and I plan to continue to improve my game (namely, day game, for which I took a workshop with the one and only Roosh but still have not committed to practicing!), but I am happy with the leaps I made from the middle of college until now and hope that this post was meaningful to at least one other person. I tried to share a few of the things I have learned over these years to give back to the community.
-connoisseur
To give you an idea of how (relatively) far I have come, in the past two years I have banged several models, model-types, and other varieties, all while living in one of the more notoriously bad cities for women (DC). This is coming from the same guy who didn't kiss a girl until he was 20 years old and didn't get laid until he was 21.
Now, moving on to grad school, is a perfect time to reflect and jot down a few key things I learned about MYSELF (note that I didn't say about GAME, or WOMEN) over these past few years that helped bring out the confidence that was always within me, allowing me to be successful with women and ultimately more successful in life:
1-One-itis has got to go. Overvaluation of a single woman indicates a lack of experience with women; in my case, I went through bouts of one-itis every few months and became what is known as an AFC. My travels abroad and efforts/struggles to push myself out of my comfort zone taught me the invaluable lesson that there are SO MANY WOMEN out there that are worthy of my attention (err, at least for a short period!). This mindset has resulted in greater success overall. UNTIL YOU ARE OVER ONE-ITIS, YOU WILL NOT BE AS SUCCESSFUL AS YOU CAN BE. I assume most readers of this forum are between the ages of 18 and 27, meaning most readers here are probably not thinking about marriage quite yet.
2-One of the most important things I have come to learn is that regretting NOT doing something is even worse than regretting DOING something. This simple concept, along with my desire to truly go after my goals, pushed me on many, many occasions to make approaches and expand my comfort zone because I told myself I would regret it more if I DID NOT do it.
3-Another crucial concept is that I view my approach and interaction with a woman as a POSITIVE for HER. My estimation of myself is high to the point where I believe that she will gain from talking to me. This typically helps when battling with the idea, "Oh, she doesn't want to talk to me ... what can I offer that gorgeous green-eyed, brown-haired girl that she doesn't already have? She must have everything she wants and I am of no value to her." Having this mentality helps you get your foot in the door (and maybe your P in her ... nevermind ) because a woman who is out at a bar/club/lounge is more often than not at least willing to hear the first few words that come out of your mouth (save for the few and far between raging bitch who behaves anti-socially and is genuinely not interested in talking to or hearing anyone) - what you say from there, is up to you. Note that this third concept is the hardest one because you have to truly and deeply believe your own self-worth. This feeling comes with time, more success with women, and the eventual realization that truly, women are not the most important thing in life but just a piece of the puzzle.
Well, it's been a long journey and I plan to continue to improve my game (namely, day game, for which I took a workshop with the one and only Roosh but still have not committed to practicing!), but I am happy with the leaps I made from the middle of college until now and hope that this post was meaningful to at least one other person. I tried to share a few of the things I have learned over these years to give back to the community.
-connoisseur