[Vaun]

For you guys with busy schedules, high aspirations and goals, etc., how do you have it all? How do you work like mad, study like crazy, control your finances, be extremely healthy, well read, self educated, social, a good family member, etc etc, plus, have the company of women? Do you take breaks from one or another, do you do all simultaneously, are you a master of your schedule, have you developed systems and lifestyles that allow this to happen?

The problem of having it all by achieving all of my goals is not easy. Some say tunnel vision is needed. You focus on your goal, and everything else is out. So if my goal is business or financial related, do you ignore women? What if your age is a factor and you want to maximize the youth you have left? What if game can take over your life and leaves little room for anything else outside of a 40 hour work week?

How do you guys do it who have a lot going on? Do you struggle with this too?

[Virtus]

Lopsided over here 90 h weeks. modafinil & coffee for energy & t3 n dnp instead of cardio. Ok diet. A gf to play with. Kinda wanna throw in a towel. Alas..

[freewheeler]

Prioritization.

I'd focus on setting up the lifestyle you want first, "pay upfront and cash out on the back end," hopefully this only takes a few years. While focusing on achieving your goals and going along your path, take advantage of opportunities that come to you and are not out of your way as you go throughout your own day.

Be sociable with everyone all the time, it'll keep you sharp and you won't be going out of your way.

It's more of how important are certain things to you and how much of them are you ok with doing. Also work on finding out how you can optimize every area of your life, efficiency is king.

[WestIndianArchie]

You gotta solve your 9-5 first. It's a lot more than 40 hours. Work pushes out other activities, as well as takes all of your "good glucose" and focuses it on giving someone else time and money.

Once you get your time back, it's much easier to do the other things you want to do.

WIA

[Vendetta]

(10-27-2013 01:38 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

"good glucose"

Interesting concept - I guess this is the same idea as doing the important tasks first before you start reading emails and all that crap.

[soup]

Organize and consolidate your life activities so that they are all feeding into each other. Don't do anything isn't related to your goals.

[Cyr]

Im in a similar position to you. I've got one main goal (trying to get into Cambridge for economics) and a bunch of side goals: keep going to the gym and getting fitter (I'm currently going to the gym 5 times a week), training rugby and mma, plus working on my game. I think firstly you should try to minimise doing anything which doesn't relate to at least one of them (e.g watching TV), and then try not to get too much tunnel vision with your main one (because if you do too much of something, particularly of its academic/ technical you get sick of it and aren't as productive. Just write down your main goals, then plan how you're going to get ahead on each one every week, and finally break it down for each day (e.g. read 100 pages or make 2 approaches).

[Vaun]

My goals are pretty simple, launch a new business and rename a business, double my revenue by Dec 31, two new clients will do that, get down to 10% BF. Friday this weekend went out and got a bang, my first Brazilian, and I am fucking very happy. It wrecked my Saturday, and I was going to work all day, workout and be productive. She weirdly stayed over, I didnt tell her to leave, we banged again in the morning, I made coffee, then she left late. WTF..... wrecked my day though, what I would call an inefficient bang that used up a lot of 'good glucose', but for my first brazilian, it gets a pass..

[The Lizard of Oz]

I think "having it all" is an idea designed by the devil to drive men into an early grave through stress, anxiety and the abuse of stimulants...



As far as I'm concerned, if you're healthy, have some financial security, and have an open mind and a sense of humor, you're 90% of the way to "having it all".

Like they say in sports sometimes, don't always press. Let the game come to you...

[Isaac Jordan]

The best advice I can give is to focus on developing good habits. Once you've taken a goal and turned it into an efficient habit, you can stop thinking about it and devote that brainpower to something else.

As an example, for the past two years I've been hitting the gym three times a week (Sun/Tu/Thur), doing a full-body all-compound workout each time. While I vary the weight, sets, reps, and rest times to maintain intensity and prevent stagnation, the exercises are the same each time. I keep a notebook with all that information jotted down, so I don't have to figure out what I'm doing each day when I arrive. I've run through my gym routine so many times that now I don't think about it at all-and I'll frequently use that time in the gym to think about other problems in my life.

Oh, and I've set up my logistics so that I run right by the post office on the way to the gym, and I stop by the grocery store on the way back to my house after the workout. So there's another two things I don't ever have to really think about.

If you can develop a good, consistent habit, you can achieve a goal without even thinking about it. Weightlifting three times a week, studying Spanish for 30 minutes a day, approaching one girl every day at the park next to your house-if you can automate it, the gains will come with time. The trick is to develop a solid process, and then trust in that process.