[Kid Strangelove]

This has been happening to me recently, it's not really a problem or complaint, more of a concern and I wanted to see how more seasoned players have been dealing with this.


I've been losing almost all interest in girls after banging them, and this has been happening a lot lately in my recent successes. It creates a really awkward situation since my game is very high energy and over the top (not showboat/entertainer style, but close), and the drop in energy levels is incredibly evident after sex.

It's like I'm addicted to those firsts - that first makeout, those first incredible bangs, first everything, then it all drops off.

And I love variety. The girl I banged last night had a booty fit for a rap video, while the girl I hope to logistic myself inside of tonight is tall, skinny, and that tiny little ass can fit in the palm of my hands. I guess I crave variety.

Ok... this is turning into a rant. Anyone else experiencing this shit?

[WestCoast]

Great thread, I had this happen before as well, immediately lose interest. My response is increase your quality! I strongly believe a girl who you can hook up with in 1 date/ONS is well below the quality you should be shooting for. Also high energy is more youngish game I believe, again would assume you can increase quality.

[redacted]

it's called chasing the dragon. you're just looking for that high. nothing wrong with it. we're wired to enjoy diversity. if you don't wanna hit it again, DONT!

[Jackhammer]

This is exactly me. I just accept that my life will be a collection of one-night stands. The only problem is that I let these girls go and then I want to bang them again a month later, at which point they've lost interest in me.

[Kitsune]

This is why it is important for girls to be endearing and feminine, which Western girls have forgotten.

[Samseau]

It's just a phase you're in. You'll probably find a girl to fuck for awhile before going back to lots of hookups.

[reaper23]

this happened to before.

except it got worse

it got to the point where even as soon as I even knew I could bang her, I lost interest

the same exact visceral anti-interest i felt before after the bang crept in to my interaction such that as soon as i saw those eyes, or got that vibe...i lost all my momentum

[Roosh]

It's called "being a man."

If the girl doesn't have anything besides her vagina to offer, like extraordinary beauty of great personality, it's impossible not to lose interest.

[HiFlo]

Just because a lion isn't hungry doesn't mean it won't chase a gazelle down.

[XY.]

Same, happens all the time until u find a girl that evokes feelings (which is then added to your chain)

[The Pirate]

It`s been like this with most girls in my life, even the ones I have loved. I feel aloof after sex, and the only difference between a one-night-stand and someone I was emotionally connected to, is that the feeling of interest comes back faster for the ones I care for. After done with a one-night-stands I start vacuum-cleaning...they usually take the hint.

I have learned to enjoy this "window of no interest" I am fully relaxed and I care about absolutely nothing, even not my problems. It`s also a state you can bring back when you are approaching or being turned down.

I agree with Kitsune and Roosh, date better quality and accept it as a part of being a man.

[Capitán Peligroso]

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After done with a one-night-stands I start vacuum-cleaning...they usually take the hint.

Well played...I'll have to keep that one in mind.

[Kabal]

The Coolidge Effect:

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In biology and psychology, the Coolidge effect is a phenomenon seen in mammalian species whereby males (and to a lesser extent females) exhibit renewed sexual interest if introduced to new receptive sexual partners,[1][2][3][4] even after refusing sex from prior but still available sexual partners.

[Distant Light]

Hey man I used to have the exact issue... (I don't believe in monogamy)

Two things I'd ask though...
- How is the quality physically? Are they YOUR IDEAL types? Where you just look at and know you'd lick all parts of her bod.
- How is your flirtation and overall "pillow talk"?

I noticed as of late this french girl and I had an the best pillow talk, lots of jokes, playful touching, child-like petting and a tad bit of rapport. We were literally laughing at breaking the bed, rolling around, wrapped around each other, mocking the "amrican" kiss.

Then I met a new girl and when in public its intense "discreet" flirting building massive tension. When she's naked I just look passionately at her perfect body. When in public we need to find a place to fuck.

Now what keeps me going is the "shared" experiences I had with the specific women. I'm not attached at all but it is sort of this smile of "good times".

P.S...Every girl I bang now "physically" is my ideal so sexual attraction is always there. Just looking at them I smile of appreciation.

[signoria]

This happened to me a lot especially when I'm abroad trying to bang chicks. At the end I started to think that I don't love banging, I love the process from start to sex. When i get the pussy, it's the best feeling.

[VincentVinturi]

I'm in the same boat fellas.

Nothing wrong with it. I guess it just is what it is.

But even if a girl has a stellar personality and a lot to offer, I still lose sexual interest after a short while (like a couple of weeks MAX). I have no clue how I managed LTR in the past for 6 months plus. I can't go 6 days now without getting bored.

Coolidge effect in full effect.