[La Familia]

I don't know how this works, but I got flaked on Friday night after she texted me "We should meet up." Granted I expect flakiness from any DC lizard with american blood, but I was puzzled since she texted me out of nowhere. After hanging out with friends on U st and having to bounce early for work, I had to walk down a few blocks to get to my car and thought I could stop by the bar that she was at (Standard).

No lizard present, no response, but I managed to make out with a red head at the bar. Any insight?

[Kickb]

Ok so she responded

"Haha help you with what?"

What's my next move

[Sargon of Akkad]

Just got flaked on ten minutes ago...

I texted her 15:50 saying where we would meet at 20:00.

She sends me a PM on facebook at 18:17, calling the thing off.

[slubu]

This is seriously starting to get to me. This week I got 1) I ate something bad yesterday feeling sick, and 2) my sister needs the car tonight so I can't drive. Both did offer to reschedule, but when you are trying to schedule multiple girls a week and devote a night to each one when they flake it really messes things up.

Just venting really. Damn girls.

[Screwston]

I had a beach date scheduled for yesterday. I had a feeling it wasn't going down because I'm used to flaking. She didn't text and I asked what time she was coming out. "there's been a family emergency sorry"

[dk902]

'Can we report this another day? I have a rendezvous on Skype with my mother with my mother who is in Buenos Aires and I can't miss her! Next time! Kiss'

Nice French twist to a classic flake there. Gotta love it when girls talk out their ass.

[JohnKreese]

I was at the post office a couple of weeks ago, dutifully mailing my mom a birthday present and my dad a Father's Day card. While waiting in line, I saw an attractive girl either addressing something, making copies, whatever. I didn't want to lose my place in line so I waited until I completed my transaction; she was still working away. I decided on a direct approach and asked her if she had dinner plans. She said no and agreed to a date that night. I told her I'd call her later to confirm.

I wait a few hours, give her a call, banter for about 10 minutes, set a place and time, and head off to work. I immediately get a text back asking me how old I am. I tell my age (27) to which she replies that that (the age) should be ok, before asking me how old I think that she is. Having seen the "2010, State Championships" shirt that she was wearing, I pegged her for 18 or 19 (19 was correct), to which she replied "good eye, I'll see you tonight." About an hour later, I get a text telling me that she is "too busy and that it probably wouldn't work out anyways." For my own ettification, I text back asking why she doesn't think it will work out. Response:"You're a bit out of my age range."

[peachpua]

(06-14-2012 01:13 PM)slubu Wrote:  

This is seriously starting to get to me. This week I got 1) I ate something bad yesterday feeling sick, and 2) my sister needs the car tonight so I can't drive. Both did offer to reschedule, but when you are trying to schedule multiple girls a week and devote a night to each one when they flake it really messes things up.

Just venting really. Damn girls.

I feel you. The way I number close leads to tons of flakes -- I hand the girl my phone and tell her to give me a missed call. Very few have the figurative balls to say no so they add their number but end up flaking when it comes to making plans.

I'm focusing on building more attraction now and not waiting too long to follow up as I think the girls are just "going cold"

[Juan Antonio]

Don't feel bad. Even Paul Janka only bangs 11% of numbers he closes.

"Take my word for it since I’ve spent years doing the research (or do it yourself and waste time): you will gain nothing by talking longer and possibly you’ll torpedo the opportunity. Once you’ve gotten her number, move on. First of all, it’s likely that you’ll say something that works against you. The “stranger” light is blinking in her head and plenty can disqualify you. If you’ve got the number, you’ve already been qualified – what more do you want? As I’ve said, women travel this world looking for reasons to disqualify otherwise decent men. If she’s given you the digits, you’re done for the moment. Save that funny line you’re dying to use.

The other reason to move on is that there are other girls around, and since it’s a numbers game, you need to get to work. On a good day, I may get seven numbers of women I think are quite attractive. I’ve found that I sleep with 11% of the women whose numbers I get (more on this later). That breaks down to two girls for every three days of numbers, more-or-less.

But back to the categories in women’s heads. They’re like bins, these categories. And what I’ve found is that you can’t move from stranger to intimate or even friend/acquaintance by bullshitting on the street. You’re better off saving it. When you text her that night, you’re still the “guy from the street,” whether you spent 30 seconds saying “hi” or thirty minutes sharing about where you went to school and what you do for work. This has been corroborated by another player here in NYC. Accept your loss ratio and work on top-line. Trying to make an “impression” on each girl also is futile because you’re up against another tenet of the game:

A difficult woman remains difficult.

Basically, if the girl is fun and carefree, the forty-five seconds you spend are sufficient; she’ll respond and you’ll meet and shag. If she’s difficult – which is a general term for women who are skeptical, suspicious, haughty, bitchy, condescending and/or rude – no amount of chatting is going to overcome her normal disposition. You won’t fuck her with a 30 second stop-and-chat, but you won’t fuck her with the investment of an hour of top game. Let her go. That’s the beauty of the game. Next!"

- Paul Janka, Attraction Formula (p. 24)


How much validity is there to this statement? I think Paul Janka is one of the few honest commercial players out there. Is this true?

[Screwston]

(07-02-2012 11:46 AM)Juan Antonio Wrote:  

Don't feel bad. Even Paul Janka only bangs 11% of numbers he closes.

"Take my word for it since I’ve spent years doing the research (or do it yourself and waste time): you will gain nothing by talking longer and possibly you’ll torpedo the opportunity. Once you’ve gotten her number, move on. First of all, it’s likely that you’ll say something that works against you. The “stranger” light is blinking in her head and plenty can disqualify you. If you’ve got the number, you’ve already been qualified – what more do you want? As I’ve said, women travel this world looking for reasons to disqualify otherwise decent men. If she’s given you the digits, you’re done for the moment. Save that funny line you’re dying to use.

The other reason to move on is that there are other girls around, and since it’s a numbers game, you need to get to work. On a good day, I may get seven numbers of women I think are quite attractive. I’ve found that I sleep with 11% of the women whose numbers I get (more on this later). That breaks down to two girls for every three days of numbers, more-or-less.

But back to the categories in women’s heads. They’re like bins, these categories. And what I’ve found is that you can’t move from stranger to intimate or even friend/acquaintance by bullshitting on the street. You’re better off saving it. When you text her that night, you’re still the “guy from the street,” whether you spent 30 seconds saying “hi” or thirty minutes sharing about where you went to school and what you do for work. This has been corroborated by another player here in NYC. Accept your loss ratio and work on top-line. Trying to make an “impression” on each girl also is futile because you’re up against another tenet of the game:

A difficult woman remains difficult.

Basically, if the girl is fun and carefree, the forty-five seconds you spend are sufficient; she’ll respond and you’ll meet and shag. If she’s difficult – which is a general term for women who are skeptical, suspicious, haughty, bitchy, condescending and/or rude – no amount of chatting is going to overcome her normal disposition. You won’t fuck her with a 30 second stop-and-chat, but you won’t fuck her with the investment of an hour of top game. Let her go. That’s the beauty of the game. Next!"

- Paul Janka, Attraction Formula (p. 24)


How much validity is there to this statement? I think Paul Janka is one of the few honest commercial players out there. Is this true?

[Jackhammer]

Made plans to meet a chick from work for drinks tonight.

Just got her text "Hey can we postpone till tomorrow? The bank closed and I need to get a new debit card"

I replied "Yeah if you want. I could cover you for tonite though since you're driving here" (I live in South Jersey and she lives outside Philly so it's a good 45 minutes to an hour drive + tolls)

She said she can't just drive around with no money blah blah blah, and I said "sure" for tomorrow.

Pain in my balls, but at least she counter-offered. I'm going to let her reengage tomorrow to set up a time, and if she doesn't, NEXT! Plus I'm hitting a crazy ass bar tonight in Philly where I'll be extra motivated to hook up with Philly's sluttiest.

[Menace]

(07-21-2012 02:45 PM)Jackhammer Wrote:  

Made plans to meet a chick from work for drinks tonight.

Just got her text "Hey can we postpone till tomorrow? The bank closed and I need to get a new debit card"

This is a BS excuse. Have you ever gone to a bank and had them replace a new debit card right there? No, me neither. They can't just make a new card at a bank. You need to call them and they will send you one in the mail. She doesn't have credit cards? Shit is weak.

[Aliblahba]

I've never been flaked on once. Ever.

[Jackhammer]

(07-21-2012 04:31 PM)Menace Wrote:  

(07-21-2012 02:45 PM)Jackhammer Wrote:  

Made plans to meet a chick from work for drinks tonight.

Just got her text "Hey can we postpone till tomorrow? The bank closed and I need to get a new debit card"

This is a BS excuse. Have you ever gone to a bank and had them replace a new debit card right there? No, me neither. They can't just make a new card at a bank. You need to call them and they will send you one in the mail. She doesn't have credit cards? Shit is weak.

Oh yeah, I completely agree. It's a classic BS flake. I'm not holding my breath that she'll be cool tomorrow, but maybe I'll be pleasantly surprised.

[Jackhammer]

(07-21-2012 04:35 PM)Aliblahba Wrote:  

I've never been flaked on once. Ever.

Lucky bastard. It seems to be the norm nowadays. Can't rely on any chick to actually be cool and meet up like a normal adult

[Kid Strangelove]

"I stubbed my toe and I'm pretty sure its broken so I'm going to have to ask for a rain check tonight"

[Kid Strangelove]

"I have to take my mom to the airport"

[rationalize_this]

Behold the power of the Reverse flake, chick texted me ” if you don't have plans for Friday Dinner. I'd like to take you out. Don't feel bad if you've arranged something already”

[Kid Strangelove]

Sunday - I told this chick we should meet around 4. At 4 I text her and say im in that area doing "tourist shit" (im in NYC), she tells me she wont be able to hang out too late and has to drop off a work application first. It's about 5. I pull a double flake by saying i had to go because my friend had an emergency.

Today - different chick - we texted for about a week setting up a hangout tonight at 7. This morning she texts me that she has to "postpone because something came up". I ask if postpone means "postpone by an hour or postpone by a few days?" . Still no reply.

I 've had dates and hangouts scheduled from Sunday night to Wednesday night. 2 of them already flaked so far. If the other two flake I'm going to be super fucking pissed

[MrXY]

I'm just going to start double booking these bitches.

i figure it will double my chance of getting a bang on a given night.

Plus, if both of them come through I can flake on one of them

[Lucky]

About two weeks ago I number closed a chick on the street while I was day gaming. I go to a town about 35 minutes away to day game because there are way more girls. We made plans for a few days later and she flaked:

Girl (5:26pm): Hey Lucky, I’m afraid I have to cancel. Just came home from swimming and now sth is wrong with my shower…need to find someone who can fix that…could be a quick or a longer operation, I don’t know….good timing. I’m reeeeally sorry. But lets find another day next week!!!
Me (6:27pm): that sucks. ok good luck with your shower.
Girl (6:34pm): Yes it sucks….still not working…
Girl (6:35pm): What about next week? Do you have a free day?
Girl (6:36pm): Or better: evening
Me (7:59pm): sure how about thursday evening?
Girl (8:13pm): Thursday is perfect. 9pm? And this time I will be there Sorry again!
Me (9:35pm): yeah sounds good.
Girl (10:12pm): Great

So we met on thursday and had a good time, went to a cafe then a bar and used all of my usual first date material. We went for a walk after the bar and I kissed her. We made out for another 5 minutes or so when we walked to the parking garage where we parked. During the date I found that she lived in a town about 30 min away (I set up the date in the town where we met because I thought she lived there) and I live in a town about 35 min away so I was unsure of how to bounce to a place to fuck. She said she had to get going, that she had to work in the morning. So, like a pussy, I said good night and left. I texted her the next day.

Me "hey weirdo what are you doing tonight?"
Girl "Hey I'm visiting a friend what about you??"
Me "i'm at a party at a friend's house...hey can you hang out later this week?"

No response.

I texted her 2 days later.

Me "hey how was your weekend?"

No response.

I guess this doesn't really count as a flake but I am still a bit pissed. I know I should have at least attempted to get to her place but I thought that the make out at the end of a first date was a good sign for a second date where I could figure out favorable logistics. Fuck.

[Lucky]

(08-13-2012 09:43 AM)MrXY Wrote:  

I'm just going to start double booking these bitches.

i figure it will double my chance of getting a bang on a given night.

Plus, if both of them come through I can flake on one of them

I like to do this. Although there have been rare occasions where BOTH girls flake.

Does anyone else like to approach a few girls the day of the date? I like to game few girls about an hour or two before, approach maybe 3 or 4 girls. It gets me in the right mood.

[Oblivion77]

(08-13-2012 11:25 AM)Lucky Wrote:  

(08-13-2012 09:43 AM)MrXY Wrote:  

I'm just going to start double booking these bitches.

i figure it will double my chance of getting a bang on a given night.

Plus, if both of them come through I can flake on one of them

I like to do this. Although there have been rare occasions where BOTH girls flake.

Does anyone else like to approach a few girls the day of the date? I like to game few girls about an hour or two before, approach maybe 3 or 4 girls. It gets me in the right mood.

Today I got "Little brother starts school tomorrow, got to take him clothes shopping."

Love this thread.

[I'mWaitingForTheMan]

(08-13-2012 09:53 PM)Oblivion77 Wrote:  

(08-13-2012 11:25 AM)Lucky Wrote:  

(08-13-2012 09:43 AM)MrXY Wrote:  

I'm just going to start double booking these bitches.

i figure it will double my chance of getting a bang on a given night.

Plus, if both of them come through I can flake on one of them

I like to do this. Although there have been rare occasions where BOTH girls flake.

Does anyone else like to approach a few girls the day of the date? I like to game few girls about an hour or two before, approach maybe 3 or 4 girls. It gets me in the right mood.

Today I got "Little brother starts school tomorrow, got to take him clothes shopping."

Love this thread.

That's so obviously bullshit it borders on disrespectful. She couldn't come up with something plausible even?

[Oblivion77]

(08-13-2012 09:59 PM)ImWaitingForTheMan Wrote:  

(08-13-2012 09:53 PM)Oblivion77 Wrote:  

(08-13-2012 11:25 AM)Lucky Wrote:  

(08-13-2012 09:43 AM)MrXY Wrote:  

I'm just going to start double booking these bitches.

i figure it will double my chance of getting a bang on a given night.

Plus, if both of them come through I can flake on one of them

I like to do this. Although there have been rare occasions where BOTH girls flake.

Does anyone else like to approach a few girls the day of the date? I like to game few girls about an hour or two before, approach maybe 3 or 4 girls. It gets me in the right mood.

Today I got "Little brother starts school tomorrow, got to take him clothes shopping."

Love this thread.

That's so obviously bullshit it borders on disrespectful. She couldn't come up with something plausible even?

Haha, yeah, just to give you perspective: I think she is pissed off because on Sunday I canceled on her our first date.