[Knowledge Seeker]

What's the proper thing to do or say? Let's say you were isolated with a girl in her room and you try to make moves (even if it's just making out), but she says "No." or backs off.

Without looking like an idiot, what's the best way to handle this?

[DareP]

(04-02-2012 06:45 AM)Knowledge Seeker Wrote:  

What's the proper thing to do or say? Let's say you were isolated with a girl in her room and you try to make moves (even if it's just making out), but she says "No." or backs off.

Without looking like an idiot, what's the best way to handle this?

1) Be okay looking like an idiot. If you want to get better with women, you're going to have to get really, really comfortable looking like an idiot.

2) It depends if she's interested in you. If she is, keep going. Joke around for a bit, relax, then try again. If she's not interested in you, E.g. you're just friends, then stop and don't try again.

If you can't tell, keep going if you don't value the friendship. E.g. "Blow me or blow me (out of your life.)" If you value the friendship more than the possibility of getting laid, then if you can't tell, don't do it again.

Me personally, I'd go for it again.

[Perseus]

Looking like an idiot is a beta guy checking out the girl that YOU went home with, THAT'S an idiot IMO. So take the "im gonna look like an idiot" chip outta your programming.

Girls are not stupid, if she allowed herself to be alone with you in her/your room, then guess what? she is interested and she knows what MIGHT happen. I said "might" because she will try to shit test you last minute, in an attempt to demonstrate that she's not a slut, so its up to you to get past that.

She backs off, smile, kiss her on the forehead (MAGIC MOVE), get up, go change the music playing or put music on for e.g, with great emphasis on NOT SHOWING THAT YOU ARE BOTHERED BY HER BACKING OFF.

Then, I would usually go back into conversation mode with the girl, with physical escalation, maybe a shoulder rub, massage, etc, then make out, and definitely WHILE making out, i would go for the closing.

[Screwston]

back off, talk some more, and go in again. rinse and repeat this method.

[CJ]

(04-03-2012 03:28 AM)houston Wrote:  

back off, talk some more, and go in again. rinse and repeat this method.

Exactly, the key is to not overreact. Just pretend everything is normal, take a step back and then charge again. If you start getting awkward, she will too.

Unless of course she makes it painfully obvious she's not interested, then make your exit.

[Knowledge Seeker]

Talk about what though? lol.. What are some smooth things to say without ruining the moment? I know it's just their anti-slut defense at work when they resist you.

I've had this happen to me a couple times. Once, I kept pushing and ended up fucking her (lost my virgintiy), she eventually became my GF. Then another time was with a different girl who said "I don't think I should sleep with you yet." as I kept making out with her and groping her. I kept pursuing but she ultimately denied me. Ended up cuddling with her for the night and I never called her ever again.

[Clearwaterkid]

This comes up time and time again. I dealt with it the other night. While making out with a girl, I got her shirt off and pants. I was going for the panties when she stopped me. We had been drinking and she said "I don't want the first time to be tainted with alcohol." I simply rolled off, gave her a look like "really?" and remained silent.

I played with her hair for a minute and moved back to make out. This time the panties came off no problem and I started to finger her and got the bang.

I find it funny that a girl will stop you like that and then say nothing when you go in for it again. I has worked for me almost every time. I think it's a test to see if you are an alpha male and can deal with her bullshit. I have never had a woman disrespect me for pushing too hard, but I have definately had some disrespect me for not pushing hard enough.