I've found this draft of a blog post today on my laptop. I wrote it at a boring day in Sydney in January last year even before i had my website. I had never finished it. I only wrote the last part of the article today. I'm not a native English speaker so the grammar can be a bit off sometimes. Hope this helps some one.
One week of simple but effective social training.
This article is about turbo boosting your social life (anyone here remember 80’s tv series Knight rider ? Now that’s a turbo boost) The following week you will follow this schedule of 7 days of social upgrading. This will help you make new friends, having better contact with family, coworkers , complete strangers and of course picking up girls. You don't have to start on Monday exactly but it is the best way to start a new week of working, traveling or socializing by not complaining your listeners ear off about how boring your weekend was.
Monday – Not complaining day, Start off with not complaining about anything for a whole day, Not the weather, not the traffic, not about work , sickness, being tired or hung over etc etc . This will train you in having a positive attitude. At first people will see you as more positive and in a better mood , than they will feel more comfortable around you knowing you’re not a crybaby who complains a lot. This goes for guys and girls. Not complaining is also a leader indicator. Leaders are strong and don’t let other know their discomforts. This doesn’t mean you can’t seriously talk about problems with someone but just complaining about things you can’t change anyway like the weather or been tired after a 14 hour bumpy bus ride doesn’t help you. Just man up and deal with it. Seriously, I met a few losers along the way who complained all the time and brought every ones mood down.
Tuesday – No judging day. If you say something about someone, something mean or funny, the person you say it to will know you will do the same about him or her as soon as they leave. People don't like to be judged. Saying something like : She’s ugly, stupid or fat about someone to another girl will only make her feel uncomfortable, she might be insecure about her own body and really be offended by it. This one is hard to learn coz although we might not say it out loud, we constantly judge other people. Stereotyping is also a way of being judgmental and it might be the worst one out there. A lot of times people are very different from what you think of them. Same goes for any racism.
Wednesday – No gossip day. This is similar to No judging day. Sure it’s nice to gossip about people you know, its helps you sometimes to get more popular by telling a secret or hearsay about someone. This is only short term popularity though, and as you know we are aiming for long term changes. If people and especially girls know you’re not a gossiper its way better for you. They will feel more trust and comfort hanging around you because they know you’re lips are sealed if you have some details or stories about them. A girl who’s attracted and/or interested in you, will be way more willing to come home with you if she’s certain you won’t tell her friends about it , or if her friends know, the details of what happens between you and her. A nice bonus is that people will soon trust you and tell you their secrets. This way it’s easier to size them up and control/ manipulate them.
Thursday – No Boasting day. This day is easier because it’s similar to No gossip day. How great is to let the world know you just boned a hot young girl? Sometimes I couldn’t wait to tell my friends back home about my accomplishments abroad. Now, it isn’t so bad to tell your buddies back home but just don’t do it around the people your with. Some guys are just not interested in stories about boning 19year olds. It makes them feel insecure about themselves if there shy and/or not being capable of doing things like that. Also be very careful with updates on Facebook, I got shitloads of drama in return from girls who thought they were the only one or thought I was a big jerk. Having that said, I found out that a lot of girls like a guy who’s a player or a bad boy. Just don't boast about it. I will write a post about how to create a good Facebook profile some other day.
Friday – No negative thoughts day. If you’re working this might be easier for you, the Thank God its Friday feeling is already great and you should really try to ban all negative thoughts out of your head. Whatever happens, keep on smiling !Keep this up until you go out at night and you will see that its easier to connect to people.
Saturday – No Fear day
Its time to overcome your fears. Go out and talk to people if you are an introverted person. Force yourself to talk to strangers or better yet to girls. Do something you have always been a bit scared of. For example, I have never been a good climber, even when I was a child climbing gave me the chills a bit. Its weird because I’m not afraid of heights at all. I will go to a climbing wall and do some weekly climbing there, not only will this give you a power full feeling that you have overcome a thing you feared, its will also show you that you are sometimes scared of something for nearly half a life time while its something so easy to cure. You wonder what the big deal was all that time. A bonus would be that you meet new people from different backgrounds once join a club.
Sunday – The try to do this all at once day
Try to do everything you learned for one whole day and see how you like it. It means getting rid of a lot of bad habits all at once. You can do this every week or work out your own system. Maybe you are very judgmental and stereotype a person in one look. Like me. I still have some serious issues with that. It has become a bit worse since a learned about gaming and will immediately look if someone if a Alpha or a Beta.
I welcome feedback
One week of simple but effective social training.
This article is about turbo boosting your social life (anyone here remember 80’s tv series Knight rider ? Now that’s a turbo boost) The following week you will follow this schedule of 7 days of social upgrading. This will help you make new friends, having better contact with family, coworkers , complete strangers and of course picking up girls. You don't have to start on Monday exactly but it is the best way to start a new week of working, traveling or socializing by not complaining your listeners ear off about how boring your weekend was.
Monday – Not complaining day, Start off with not complaining about anything for a whole day, Not the weather, not the traffic, not about work , sickness, being tired or hung over etc etc . This will train you in having a positive attitude. At first people will see you as more positive and in a better mood , than they will feel more comfortable around you knowing you’re not a crybaby who complains a lot. This goes for guys and girls. Not complaining is also a leader indicator. Leaders are strong and don’t let other know their discomforts. This doesn’t mean you can’t seriously talk about problems with someone but just complaining about things you can’t change anyway like the weather or been tired after a 14 hour bumpy bus ride doesn’t help you. Just man up and deal with it. Seriously, I met a few losers along the way who complained all the time and brought every ones mood down.
Tuesday – No judging day. If you say something about someone, something mean or funny, the person you say it to will know you will do the same about him or her as soon as they leave. People don't like to be judged. Saying something like : She’s ugly, stupid or fat about someone to another girl will only make her feel uncomfortable, she might be insecure about her own body and really be offended by it. This one is hard to learn coz although we might not say it out loud, we constantly judge other people. Stereotyping is also a way of being judgmental and it might be the worst one out there. A lot of times people are very different from what you think of them. Same goes for any racism.
Wednesday – No gossip day. This is similar to No judging day. Sure it’s nice to gossip about people you know, its helps you sometimes to get more popular by telling a secret or hearsay about someone. This is only short term popularity though, and as you know we are aiming for long term changes. If people and especially girls know you’re not a gossiper its way better for you. They will feel more trust and comfort hanging around you because they know you’re lips are sealed if you have some details or stories about them. A girl who’s attracted and/or interested in you, will be way more willing to come home with you if she’s certain you won’t tell her friends about it , or if her friends know, the details of what happens between you and her. A nice bonus is that people will soon trust you and tell you their secrets. This way it’s easier to size them up and control/ manipulate them.
Thursday – No Boasting day. This day is easier because it’s similar to No gossip day. How great is to let the world know you just boned a hot young girl? Sometimes I couldn’t wait to tell my friends back home about my accomplishments abroad. Now, it isn’t so bad to tell your buddies back home but just don’t do it around the people your with. Some guys are just not interested in stories about boning 19year olds. It makes them feel insecure about themselves if there shy and/or not being capable of doing things like that. Also be very careful with updates on Facebook, I got shitloads of drama in return from girls who thought they were the only one or thought I was a big jerk. Having that said, I found out that a lot of girls like a guy who’s a player or a bad boy. Just don't boast about it. I will write a post about how to create a good Facebook profile some other day.
Friday – No negative thoughts day. If you’re working this might be easier for you, the Thank God its Friday feeling is already great and you should really try to ban all negative thoughts out of your head. Whatever happens, keep on smiling !Keep this up until you go out at night and you will see that its easier to connect to people.
Saturday – No Fear day
Its time to overcome your fears. Go out and talk to people if you are an introverted person. Force yourself to talk to strangers or better yet to girls. Do something you have always been a bit scared of. For example, I have never been a good climber, even when I was a child climbing gave me the chills a bit. Its weird because I’m not afraid of heights at all. I will go to a climbing wall and do some weekly climbing there, not only will this give you a power full feeling that you have overcome a thing you feared, its will also show you that you are sometimes scared of something for nearly half a life time while its something so easy to cure. You wonder what the big deal was all that time. A bonus would be that you meet new people from different backgrounds once join a club.
Sunday – The try to do this all at once day
Try to do everything you learned for one whole day and see how you like it. It means getting rid of a lot of bad habits all at once. You can do this every week or work out your own system. Maybe you are very judgmental and stereotype a person in one look. Like me. I still have some serious issues with that. It has become a bit worse since a learned about gaming and will immediately look if someone if a Alpha or a Beta.
I welcome feedback
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