To go beyond the opposites is to go beyond these old frames of references and just “be”, anew. No point in classifying yourself as “alpha” or “beta”. If to define yourself as “alpha” you still have the same frame of reference as “beta” but on a flip side, in a sense you are still “beta”, playing the same game, still having the same frame of reference. When you go beyond these opposite you just “are”, no need for pigeonholing your actions, you just live from your core, from your wholesome and healthy desires.
It happens to all of us, and it is not only to do with women. It is part of growing. It is part of living out (hence going through the whole play of living through both pairs of opposites) these boyish wounds and becoming a full grown out man, self-responsible, self-disciplined, being your own authority in a non-reactive way. Thus the reason I say that what you might be going through is a “phase”.
This is a lifelong process of maturity, and the less you try to control it and keep negging and thinking “when will it end?” and instead be more concerned about living through the motions fully, the better results you get. The less you try to plan, rationalize and control and the more you start to FEEL, the more “healing” starts to happen.
Your friends will have a hard time coming to terms with these changes. I don’t think you should just “give up” on them, but you might need a break and be more by yourself for a while. Some moments of solitude can be positive.
Some meditation techniques would be helpful as well, as it helps you getting out of your head so much and experience/feel this process more fully instead of only theorizing it.
It happens to all of us, and it is not only to do with women. It is part of growing. It is part of living out (hence going through the whole play of living through both pairs of opposites) these boyish wounds and becoming a full grown out man, self-responsible, self-disciplined, being your own authority in a non-reactive way. Thus the reason I say that what you might be going through is a “phase”.
This is a lifelong process of maturity, and the less you try to control it and keep negging and thinking “when will it end?” and instead be more concerned about living through the motions fully, the better results you get. The less you try to plan, rationalize and control and the more you start to FEEL, the more “healing” starts to happen.
Your friends will have a hard time coming to terms with these changes. I don’t think you should just “give up” on them, but you might need a break and be more by yourself for a while. Some moments of solitude can be positive.
Some meditation techniques would be helpful as well, as it helps you getting out of your head so much and experience/feel this process more fully instead of only theorizing it.