Bang Mexico - 25 lessons from six day trip:
1) If girls go somewhere, follow. Eventually, you might get an opportunity to be alone with her. I joined in with three girls who were driving to another bar and I got extremely lucky that by the end of the night, two of them just disappeared into other cars.
2) Social circle in the bars here. There are sit down tables. I started chatting with a group of guys outside, and eventually said - I’m here alone, I can’t go to any bars where there are tables, and they invited me with them. (You can go in alone, sit at the bar, then approach, but it’s easier to approach after you’ve been hanging out with a group. The girls will ask you regardless, where are your friends?)
3) Approach guys and hang out, but don’t get drawn in. Don’t be afraid to say, “nice hanging out with you, I’m going to go find some girls to talk to.”
4) Run at least one neg on her, my most common used was “Tienes ojos muy bellas pero hijole, parpadeas mucho.” “You have very beautiful eyes, but wow, you blink a lot.” (from Mystery)
5) Guys were cool, but they just wanted to drink and smoke cigarettes. I didn’t really want to do the same, but I had a good time hanging out with them.
6) Be very explicit before you go on this trip - you need to bring value. Maybe you’ve got an interesting hobby. Or you’re really good at executing a specific routine. What are you going to say that’s interesting? What are you going to offer?
7) Listen to your instincts - one night, mine was don’t shower (lol) because I know I spend too much time after a shower trying to get myself ready. And it was about 7 pm that night at that time and I said it’s more important to use that time instead to hit the streets.
8) W. Anton’s “The Manual” says eyes are the sexiest part of you, you just don’t know it. Be really strong in your gaze - even if it makes her uncomfortable she will be drawn back into your eyes. While you speak, hold eye contact. The book has lots of vague suggestions, but this is one of the more specific takeaways.
9) Isolation, if only for a bit, gets her comfortable to being along with you. Take her outside to talk for a minute or two “Hay demasiado ruido aqui, vamanos afuera por un minuto” Just to get alone with her so she’s away from her friends.
10) Don’t be afraid to turn around and approach, even if you think it might be too late. Just turn around and approach.
11) Run, don’t walk, when you see a pretty girl on the street you want to talk to - she isn’t going to change where she is going in order to talk to you.
12) “Adivina!” - Guess. Use this with age. After she guessed my age, I joked with one girl “I can’t guess your age, there’s never a right answer when guessing a woman’s age.” Then I hedged it by going on the younger side, and guessed 19. Turns out I was right on.
13) Bang mission is full of highs and lows. Full of them.
14) A guy from NYC is very exciting to a 19-yr old Mexican girl who has never visited the USA.
15) Be firm in saying “no” if people offer you drinks. The guys I was with wanted to just drink and smoke, they kept offering me shots. I had one, but refused the rest. I needed to be mentally sharp.
16) Joke with her if she offers you her drink - “you’re trying to get me drunk, so you can take advantage of me.” I pulled myself towards her to indicate what taking advantage looks like because I didn’t know that word in Spanish.
17) Speaking a foreign language encourages you to make more hand and body gestures to explain your words. And it encourages you to use more emotion in your face to depict what you’re saying. Bring these lessons back when you speak English.
18) Speaking slow, almost like a retard, is super helpful, because it builds suspense for her as for what you’re going to say next. When you speak slow the girl will focus on you and because it is not your native language, she will not hold it against you either!
Imagine approaching on the street and blurting out: “I think you’re really pretty.” How will she react? Instead, be slower and more deliberate in what you say. “Excuse me…I saw you walking…and I wanted to tell you…that in the last five minutes…you are the prettiest girl…that I’ve seen.” In Spanish, “Perdon, Te vi caminando, y queria decirte que en los ultimos cincos minutes, eres la mas bella chica, que he visto.”
19) Roosh is right - every night is do or die. And most nights you will go home empty handed and let that failure mean you will try even more aggressively the following night. By Sunday, one day before I left the city, I was straight up texting girls “you should come to my hotel tonight” (it didn’t work, but I’d never been that bold in the U.S.).
20) I had more success hooking up with girls on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday than I did on Friday, Saturday and Sunday. Sunday is dead in Mexico, everyone is with their family, you might as well cross it off your list for trying to get a bang. I could come up with a bunch of reasons why the middle of the week was easier, and maybe the real answer is luck, but every single day is an opportunity keep trying.
21) I left Monday afternoon and maybe I should have stayed until early morning Tuesday, with the hope I could get one of the girls I met in the preceding five days to come to my hotel room Monday night. But I was also exhausted after so many consecutive nights of partying until 3 or 4 AM, so maybe it’s good I left Monday. If you have to leave Sunday, leave Sunday, and if you can stay until Tuesday, stay until Tuesday morning.
22) Read bang argentina and bang Colombia. Combine both.
23) Make Spanish flash cards for game related phrases and conversation. I made about 60 flash cards. These had interesting questions to ask them, as well as responses I might give to their obvious questions like “where are you from?” You will inevitably be asked similar questions over and over again. I practiced these one day before I left (I ran out of time to practice more), on the airplane, and in the hotel room when I arrived.
Everything from “Yo estaba en mi camino a comprar una bebida. Quieres acompanarme? Solo por diez minutos mas o menos.” “I’m on my walk to buy a drink. Do you want to come with me. Only for ten minutes approximately.”
to “Bastante bien. Creo que las chicas que viven aqui son muy extranas y frias.” Good enough…the women that live here are very weird and cold.
to “Soy de la ciudad de Nueva York. Hay modelas, actrices, bailarines, artistas - muchas mujeres hermosas. No es como aqui.” I’m from New York City. There are models, actresses, bailerinas, artists - many beautiful women. Not like here.
to “What is the difference between the people who live in City A and City B?” and I used the nicknames for the people in these cities - chilangos y tapatios. Much like a visitor to the U.S. might be curious to know “What’s the difference between people from LA and people from NYC?”
24) Read Roosh’s post on 5 days for a flag mission. The highs and lows.
25) Keep a diary so you can hold yourself accountable and assess your approaches. This is so that the following day, you can make minor adjustments to your game. At night write down takeaways, things you should have done differently, specific things you could try next time. And In the morning, write down three things to answer “What would make today great?”
When you’re only focused on meeting women, and have no other obligations or responsibilities in the world, it’s amazing what you can accomplish.
You must prepare, you must know what to say, you must know how to build attraction when she gives you signs of interest, you must keep pushing the interaction as far as you can. Take the game seriously.
Many of these lessons were jotted down in a notebook at 2 am after getting the bang, my third night in Mexico. It’s a tough a flag mission. It will leave you mentally and physically exhausted. To come in with a stated intention and to finally get it, when I least expected it, was thrilling.
1) If girls go somewhere, follow. Eventually, you might get an opportunity to be alone with her. I joined in with three girls who were driving to another bar and I got extremely lucky that by the end of the night, two of them just disappeared into other cars.
2) Social circle in the bars here. There are sit down tables. I started chatting with a group of guys outside, and eventually said - I’m here alone, I can’t go to any bars where there are tables, and they invited me with them. (You can go in alone, sit at the bar, then approach, but it’s easier to approach after you’ve been hanging out with a group. The girls will ask you regardless, where are your friends?)
3) Approach guys and hang out, but don’t get drawn in. Don’t be afraid to say, “nice hanging out with you, I’m going to go find some girls to talk to.”
4) Run at least one neg on her, my most common used was “Tienes ojos muy bellas pero hijole, parpadeas mucho.” “You have very beautiful eyes, but wow, you blink a lot.” (from Mystery)
5) Guys were cool, but they just wanted to drink and smoke cigarettes. I didn’t really want to do the same, but I had a good time hanging out with them.
6) Be very explicit before you go on this trip - you need to bring value. Maybe you’ve got an interesting hobby. Or you’re really good at executing a specific routine. What are you going to say that’s interesting? What are you going to offer?
7) Listen to your instincts - one night, mine was don’t shower (lol) because I know I spend too much time after a shower trying to get myself ready. And it was about 7 pm that night at that time and I said it’s more important to use that time instead to hit the streets.
8) W. Anton’s “The Manual” says eyes are the sexiest part of you, you just don’t know it. Be really strong in your gaze - even if it makes her uncomfortable she will be drawn back into your eyes. While you speak, hold eye contact. The book has lots of vague suggestions, but this is one of the more specific takeaways.
9) Isolation, if only for a bit, gets her comfortable to being along with you. Take her outside to talk for a minute or two “Hay demasiado ruido aqui, vamanos afuera por un minuto” Just to get alone with her so she’s away from her friends.
10) Don’t be afraid to turn around and approach, even if you think it might be too late. Just turn around and approach.
11) Run, don’t walk, when you see a pretty girl on the street you want to talk to - she isn’t going to change where she is going in order to talk to you.
12) “Adivina!” - Guess. Use this with age. After she guessed my age, I joked with one girl “I can’t guess your age, there’s never a right answer when guessing a woman’s age.” Then I hedged it by going on the younger side, and guessed 19. Turns out I was right on.
13) Bang mission is full of highs and lows. Full of them.
14) A guy from NYC is very exciting to a 19-yr old Mexican girl who has never visited the USA.
15) Be firm in saying “no” if people offer you drinks. The guys I was with wanted to just drink and smoke, they kept offering me shots. I had one, but refused the rest. I needed to be mentally sharp.
16) Joke with her if she offers you her drink - “you’re trying to get me drunk, so you can take advantage of me.” I pulled myself towards her to indicate what taking advantage looks like because I didn’t know that word in Spanish.
17) Speaking a foreign language encourages you to make more hand and body gestures to explain your words. And it encourages you to use more emotion in your face to depict what you’re saying. Bring these lessons back when you speak English.
18) Speaking slow, almost like a retard, is super helpful, because it builds suspense for her as for what you’re going to say next. When you speak slow the girl will focus on you and because it is not your native language, she will not hold it against you either!
Imagine approaching on the street and blurting out: “I think you’re really pretty.” How will she react? Instead, be slower and more deliberate in what you say. “Excuse me…I saw you walking…and I wanted to tell you…that in the last five minutes…you are the prettiest girl…that I’ve seen.” In Spanish, “Perdon, Te vi caminando, y queria decirte que en los ultimos cincos minutes, eres la mas bella chica, que he visto.”
19) Roosh is right - every night is do or die. And most nights you will go home empty handed and let that failure mean you will try even more aggressively the following night. By Sunday, one day before I left the city, I was straight up texting girls “you should come to my hotel tonight” (it didn’t work, but I’d never been that bold in the U.S.).
20) I had more success hooking up with girls on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday than I did on Friday, Saturday and Sunday. Sunday is dead in Mexico, everyone is with their family, you might as well cross it off your list for trying to get a bang. I could come up with a bunch of reasons why the middle of the week was easier, and maybe the real answer is luck, but every single day is an opportunity keep trying.
21) I left Monday afternoon and maybe I should have stayed until early morning Tuesday, with the hope I could get one of the girls I met in the preceding five days to come to my hotel room Monday night. But I was also exhausted after so many consecutive nights of partying until 3 or 4 AM, so maybe it’s good I left Monday. If you have to leave Sunday, leave Sunday, and if you can stay until Tuesday, stay until Tuesday morning.
22) Read bang argentina and bang Colombia. Combine both.
23) Make Spanish flash cards for game related phrases and conversation. I made about 60 flash cards. These had interesting questions to ask them, as well as responses I might give to their obvious questions like “where are you from?” You will inevitably be asked similar questions over and over again. I practiced these one day before I left (I ran out of time to practice more), on the airplane, and in the hotel room when I arrived.
Everything from “Yo estaba en mi camino a comprar una bebida. Quieres acompanarme? Solo por diez minutos mas o menos.” “I’m on my walk to buy a drink. Do you want to come with me. Only for ten minutes approximately.”
to “Bastante bien. Creo que las chicas que viven aqui son muy extranas y frias.” Good enough…the women that live here are very weird and cold.
to “Soy de la ciudad de Nueva York. Hay modelas, actrices, bailarines, artistas - muchas mujeres hermosas. No es como aqui.” I’m from New York City. There are models, actresses, bailerinas, artists - many beautiful women. Not like here.
to “What is the difference between the people who live in City A and City B?” and I used the nicknames for the people in these cities - chilangos y tapatios. Much like a visitor to the U.S. might be curious to know “What’s the difference between people from LA and people from NYC?”
24) Read Roosh’s post on 5 days for a flag mission. The highs and lows.
25) Keep a diary so you can hold yourself accountable and assess your approaches. This is so that the following day, you can make minor adjustments to your game. At night write down takeaways, things you should have done differently, specific things you could try next time. And In the morning, write down three things to answer “What would make today great?”
When you’re only focused on meeting women, and have no other obligations or responsibilities in the world, it’s amazing what you can accomplish.
You must prepare, you must know what to say, you must know how to build attraction when she gives you signs of interest, you must keep pushing the interaction as far as you can. Take the game seriously.
Many of these lessons were jotted down in a notebook at 2 am after getting the bang, my third night in Mexico. It’s a tough a flag mission. It will leave you mentally and physically exhausted. To come in with a stated intention and to finally get it, when I least expected it, was thrilling.