Quote: (03-06-2014 09:27 PM)The Lizard of Oz Wrote:
Oh man, that's actually an honest piece of hagporn for once.
Makes me feel bad for these women. It's terrible for them when they realize they've lost the one thing they most care about.
Women are physical creatures; their body is all they have. When they admit to this and confess to their true feelings, I don't have that much of a problem with them and can feel plenty of sympathy.
I agree. When women are honest like this, I feel for them.
It's true that, for 95 percent of women, her looks and sexuality will always be her foremost agency. But when that fades, if she's made good and far-sighted decisions--like finding a good man to marry and have children--then she won't have to fear growing old.
We don’t teach women to cultivate the power of feminine dignity, because we’ve decided to attempt to give them lifelong sexual power by celebrating cougardom and botox addiction. We don’t teach women the value of family, because we celebrate women who are too “independent” for children while at the same time encouraging single motherhood and consequently, the notion that men & fathers are disposable. This society has gone out of its way to shield women from the long-term consequences of their poor decisionmaking, but nature isn't playing along.
The mark of a truly adroit chessplayer isn’t necessarily his ability to calculate variations 20 moves deep, or anticipate and thwart any plan of his opponent—but his ability to preserve and press hard won advantages and convert them among various forms as dictated by the demands of the position. The brilliant chessplayer doesn’t just nuture a material advantage—he converts it to a positional edge, and then a mating attack. More young women need to learn this lesson. You don’t keep your physical beauty forever…but if you leverage it with good decisionmaking while you are young then you will be able to transition between modes of being when the time is right.
This is the lesson of our grandmothers. My grandmother was an absolutely stunning woman. But after her looks & sexual power had faded, she was able to transition seamlessly into a woman of dignity and honor because she had made sure to find a good man while she was a knockout, and because she had spent her younger years cultivating the tools she would need long after she was no longer able to cause traffic accidents by just getting up in the morning. The truly miserable women aren't the aging mothers with husbands and children like in this piece. These women are models of feminine dignity and grace---true matrons and matriarchs worthy of respect. No, the really miserable ones are the aging hags slaving away in the various HR departments and cubicle farms of this country with nothing to go home to. These are the women still desperately clinging to what's left of their sexual power, because after it's gone there is nothing for them.
If you make good choices, if you cultivate your personality and learn to value the love of a good man, if you can learn to take your triumphs, defeats, and uncertainies with dignity then you will be less heavily invested in the fleeting sexual power of your youth and able to transition into some more lasting & worthy when the time comes.
And, as the women in this piece are finding out, that time is around age 35 for most women---whether they like it or not.