Quote: (01-07-2014 07:16 AM)Specter Wrote:
In terms of Social Circle Game, I've actually had difficulty trying to escalate my conversations with a girl who is part of my social circle since I don't want to look like a player who hits on all the HBs in my school. I also want to know how I can ask a girl out in this type of game with romantic connotations surrounding the date, not just being a "friendly" hangout.
If you express your interest in romantic way then remember that you will be labeled by everyone as potential BF of the girl you're about hit on. If you want GF that's all good. However if you want to pimp more girls and make it as something that just happened spontaneously then you have to be fun/sexy guy from the start and party with those girls.
Let's dig deeper..
At first meet girls and just bullshit with them. Give them time to get familiar with you. Make a good first impression. Girls will start asking you questions. Then when you get into a real conversation with them start flirting. It's as easy as basic misinterpretations or lying that they make you shy [when you clearly not]. Flirt but be tasteful. Lean back and enjoy that little sexual spark in the air. Don't try to close the deal then. Time is on your side. Pay attention how you make girls feel. Notice which girl is receptive and try to orchestrate one on one with her.
It's very under the radar game.
For example, at house party be flirty with them but forget that seduction vibe. Make it fun and innocent. Have fun with your innuendos. Send mixed signals so that you're not coming across as pushy, flirt with A and B girls then turn around and go smoke where C girl and your buddy is. Stuff like that. Mingle. Have things to talk about. Be the guy with innitiative. Offer buying this and that type of alcohol for later and say that you can't drink more cause you will fall in love with all A, B, C girls. Introduce some stupid party game and tell D girl that she's too cute to play. You don't wait for yes/no reactions. You say those innuendos here and there just to let girls know you're sexual guy. E girls opens up about her dating life and she tells you type of a guy she wants and you tell her she's so unlucky cause you leave tomorrow. Music bumping people have a good time. You offer girl E to dance an she says she's not drunk enough so you say "can't be like that!!" and pour everybody. Then you dance and after 3 songs you take her to kitchen to "make some lemonade" and you fool around there. Stuff like that.
To me social circle game is last man standing type of thing. It's like a pickup minefield. It requires some social intuition/awareness and ability to navigate in high risk situations to actually get some. It's easy to go too far for pickup guy and it's easy to become a gay friend for a regular dude.
The guy who can be relaxed fun flirty masculine, CONSISTENTLY, wins.
From what I've seen guys usually fuck themselves over by trying to be too cool/alpha and getting burned or by being too passive and getting irrelevant [or getting shitfaced and falling asleep that's common too]. So IMO in social circle scenarios results come from being normal/cool and NOT DOING [stupid shit] rather than doing something impressive [like DHVs and trying to be alpha]. I just stay relaxed cool fun flirty friendly [and amp it up when everybody's drunk] and watch guys blow themselves in the meantime as they usually do Amuse
With girls it's like this. Flirty tasteful and involving everyone. Kind of like this vibe:
In order to not become 'a story in the circle' you need to frame your flirting as innocent fun in the moment. Girls have to know that you're just a flirty guy now and that you will not change after something happens between you and girls. That's MASSIVELY important. Girls have to know that it's a part of who you are. Flirt to flirt with unattractive ones, flirt to fuck with attractive ones.
For example, I was physically escalating [tastefully but still] in my class in university and it was ok as people viewed me as this flirty guy who fools around with girls for some fun. I was doing things like..
- handshake + spin thing
- standing closer and flirting with eyes
- hugging a girl when she was smoking outside in winter [totally glued to her from behind to make her warm]
- girls sitting on my lap during breaks
- holding hands while talking and waving them like little kids
Girls are fine with all of that ONLY IF you're super non needy guy aka you do it just to have a fun moment with girls. Here's example of how non needy attitude looks like in university hall during break time:
You do your spin handshake and put smile of A girl's face and then you back off and talk to her casually about stuff. Then you engage B girl in your conversation and askl her if you and girl A fit each other to be a couple. Then when she actually starts answering you tell her "pff hahah I you're sooo easy, we actually hate each other, not to even mention being together, unless it's pure hate fucking". Then A girl freaks out hearing you say that you hate her. Then you tell them both that actually they would make a good couple cause as a up and coming lesbian expert you can tell they look cute together. Then you smile and just leave not caring whether they agree or disagree. You play around like that. Of course if you see a girl gets uncomfortable [eyes don't lie] then you have to recover. You back off, give her some kind of excuse "ahh sorry i didn't mean to piss you off, i got screwed sense of humor just like every child of divorce that i know" and you change topic immediately after that "hey do you know where's Jim? Ive been looking for him".
You keep that fun flirty indifferent and nonjudgemental attitude and you amp it up a bit at club/house parties where things actually can go down thanks to too much booze. It escalates there. Everybody's drunk. Girls start getting all sexy and seductive with their humor dancing touching flirting. Again, it's all just part of the FUN at party. You're already that guy that girls can freely fool around with. More dancing more booze more fun. Silly kissing bets start. Party peaks. People split up and form groups of 2-3, one group in one room, other group in kitchen, other in balcony, etc. Then some people leave together to crash in some person's house and bang eventually, some stay in house and get carried away encouraged by privacy.
Basically, it's like being undercover player so that girls sense they can bang you on the side and know you will not get all needy and clingy afterwards.
IMPORTANT: Do not game girls in your circle in romantic way cause that implies that you have a crush on some girl and you want to take her out. People see that you're after this one girl and when you do the same on another you get labeled as some scumbag that people gossip about in a very bad way. Gaming in social circle this way is the exact cause of all drama and shit.
Can't miss:
http://manwhore.org/hydro/hydro-2-beingsocial.mp3
Good luck!!