You've got to confront your family members directly and tell them exactly how it's going to be, that you're going to be your own man and they can eat shit for trying to hold you back.
Writing them a note just convinces them that they've won, they're so terrifying to you that they can own your thoughts, mind, and behavior for eternity.
Writing them a note just convinces them that they've won, they're so terrifying to you that they can own your thoughts, mind, and behavior for eternity.